RSVP % returned by Due Date??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

That is a lot that are missing…. We had a bunch, maybe 10%, that we hadn’t heard of by our deadline. There were still a few people who STILL have not responded. (Nor did they come.) You’re lucky though, in that you have a month between your deadline and the actual wedding. Wait until the Monday after the deadline (just in case people stick them in the mail that day) and then start calling. You, FI, your mom, FMIL, everyone. And don’t be afraid to tell people that if you don’t have a response in, say, a week, you unfortunately have to assume they’re not coming because you have to give numbers to the caterer.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@soontobeMrsBoo:  +1.

agree, you are going to have to start calling everyone

so rude that people don’t respond.  i can’t understand it.

 

Post # 5
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was missing 2 RSVPs (for 5 people altogether) out of 80 invites. That seems high!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

71 invites (~140 invited), and we only had to track one or two down here in the US.  Few of our overseas guests RSVP’d, but we knew going in who was coming and who wasn’t.  That was about 14 invites.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Elky;  We had about 20% that waited until the very last second. I started calling and texting people a couple of days but they were due, and it took until 2 days after the RSVPs to get a hold of everyone.

If it helps, break up the list of people to call. Your fiance and parents should call his side. Your parents can help you with your side.

 

Good luck! It’s a super stressful time… but you’ll get through it! Smile

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Elky ; Yeah, it’s super sucky! We did end up telling a couple of people “if we don’t hear from you by x date, we will have to assume you cannot make it.”

When are your total numbers due to the reception hall? If your FMIL doesnt already know, tell her they’re due next week, and then I’m sure she’ll help!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

On friday, your response % might be the same as PPs. you seem pretty anxious considering your deadline hasn’t even passed yet. It’s probably a bit rude that you’ve been tracking down all your rsvps before they even had a chance to respond by the deadline. Sadly, hounding everybody before your deadline might mean you get a lower RSVP rate because word might spread that you’re contacting all invitees to personally get their rsvps. You should wait until next Wednesday before contacting guests. 

I don’t get why so many brides want and expect rsvps before the deadlines they set themselves. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d tell them you’d also like your $3 back for the card, self-addressed envelope, and stamp.  I don’t understand why it’s so hard to be courteous and send back an RSVP, especially when you’ve done all the work and made it 100% easy for them.

Good luck with getting the rest!

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