(Closed) RSVP shenanigans

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Post # 3
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4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

oooooohhhhh….That’s a hard lesson learned…  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Welcome to bridal craziness. I had a friend ask why I didn’t invite her boyfriend. I told her I didn’t know she had a boyfriend and she told me “Well, actually I don’t but I want to come with a friend of mine who you don’t know” Um, okay, why didn’t you just ask that in the begining. I told her that if I have enough ‘NO’s’ then I will give her an extra seat. I didn’t like the lying though.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh my, when did it become ok to decide someone elses guest list. Not cool.

I got around the whole no name thing and made every person their own Rsvp, no issues yet, but the FH is not putting up with jack, he is going to be my bad guy if needed.

Sorry about the situation.

Be happy, 6 weeks and you get to come HOME and become a MRS. YAY! Look how close we are! 😉

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

People are unbelievable. Seriously. I had an aunt and uncle write in their son (who was not invited) as a “maybe.” Aside from the rudeness of the write-in, WHADDAYAMEAN “MAYBE”? Who replies with a MAYBE?? These are seemingly classy people who should understand the concept of needing a headcount for a wedding.

On top of that, when I pushed for a straight answer, I got a “no.” And then he SHOWED UP – after the ceremony, right before dinner. And THEN… his father (my uncle) walked straight over to me and said, “There’s no seat for my son!” It was all I could do not to permanently damage that relationship on the spot.

Oh, sorry to vent – just letting you now that most of us have at least one super-rude RSVP situation, even if we didn’t expect it. Doesn’t make it any less annoying, but you’re not alone!

Post # 7
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550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I hate HATE it when people offer to “pay” for an extra guest. I find it insulting. I don’t want people to know how much this thing is costing me! It’s akin to aking what one’s salary is. Rude.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@noodlesploosh: Crazy, I know. I hope you set her straight. I would tell her you’ve had to leave off close friends you would like to invite due to space limitations and people inviting themeselves (maybe she’ll get the hint LOL), so you’re not going to add someone you don’t even know. Ugh.

If it’s any consolation, odds are that at least one or two people who DO RSVP won’t show. Also rude, I know, but it’s likely to happen. So if someone does show up uninvited, you should be okay. Also, wedding venues/caterers deal with this stuff all the time so most likely they will handle it and you will barely know it happened on that day! Just decide now you won’t stress about it if it happens, and don’t let it affect your day in the least.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow i can hardly wait till i send mine out. i invited some fam ily (the ones that dont talk crap and start fights at weddings) and im not inviting the others (the alcoholic bar fighting drama llamas) cus i went to both of my cousins weddings and both times i was breaking up fights before the bride could see them. i swear if i have to break tem up im gonna scream so im just not inviting them. ive already gotten an earfull from my grandma “why arent you inviting cousin and aunt blah blah?” me-“grandma, they called me a s— over something that happened FIVE YEARS AGO! they dont know how to let sleeping dogs lie…”

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh, I didn’t number mine either. I’m waiting for that. Ugh.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

for the numbering – I did that and still got people who didnt put anything!! as in, “The Smith Family” (adult couple and two adult live-in chilluns’) wrote, “3.” okay cool. well, wonder which 3?

as for the other issue…good lord. I don’t even know.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ugh I always feel so bad for the horror stories. Seriously the reason I am putting ___ seats are reserved in your honor on my rsvp’s. Lol. If they don’t get the picture from that, then I’ll have to be, well, myself. “Sorry guys. That number is a 2 not a 3.” LOL.

I would definitely tell this girl no. If you don’t even have room for all the people YOU want there then no, her random friend can’t come. Why can’t the friend still come home with her and amuse herself for the night of the wedding? Jeez. Weddings are not JUST parties.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@noodlesploosh: oh I did! but they have two children, and instead of specifying which child, they just put “3” (of 4 invited). So I know the names of the adults, but no idea which adult child is coming. LOL. 

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