(Closed) RSVP shocker

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

19?? Who did you send the invitation to? They’re bringing their grandchildren? I’ve never heard of anyone inviting their grandchildren along! Maybe you can suggest they hire a babysitter while the adults attend the wedding? Do they really need all of their grandchildren to be there at *your* wedding? I think you’re handling it very well, dear; your calmness is an inspiration to us all. I’d be ballistic if someone added 19 people to my guestlist.

Post # 4
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh wow.  I don’t even know what to say.  19…seriously?  That’s unbelievable!  You definitely need to call and figure out the details. 

Post # 5
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with cheerful – your calm is inspirational! I would be flipping my lid & making my FI call to tell them that’s not happening. Have you considered telling them what you wrote in your post? That you two are working on a budget & can’t have 19 people coming when you only budgeted for 4? Maybe help them find other things to do in town (something they’d be doing anyway if waiting for their reunion). It’s not cool to assume that your wedding can just be included as part of their reunion festivities.

Post # 6
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Um yeah… I agree with mowi322… I would be totally freaking out and making FI call them and tell them NO! Just because they are in town doesn’t mean they get to automatically turn your wedding into part of their reunion. Yeah, you are being MUCH more level-headed about this than I would be!

Post # 7
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You are handling this much better than I would!  There is NO WAY I would let that happen!  19 people…absolutely unbelievable! Honestly, it’s just rude.  As uncomfortable as it would be, I would call and explain that the invitation was for their immediate family ONLY.  Good luck with this one!!

Post # 8
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you are handling this quite well! Yes, I’d call and let them know that you were surpised by the 19 and would like to know who is included so that you can accommodate them easily. I would make it clear that you just need the number for planning purposes so that if they feel guilted out of bringing people they don’t get po’d that the menu is lighter fare.

Post # 9
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow! All I can say is wow!

Post # 10
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All the ladies are right, you’re handing it unbelievably well! I would be in complete shock for a bit and then I’d be asking my FI to make the call for details. I am personally protective of our guest list because I do not want a bunch of people who we aren’t really close to or barely know. That said, I definitely don’t think you are obligated to host all 19 people at your wedding. Most people can understand that you are on a budget and you had only planned for 4. The babysitter idea for kids is a good one if you do want to include some of these people.

Good luck!

Post # 12
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, very nutso. Who does this?! YOu don’t just call and be like “oh i’m having a family reunion and I’m bringing them to their wedding!”

Shoot. I’d call and say that you only had intended to invite Mr and Mrs so and so (you know, the people invited) because you’re trying to keep the wedding small due to budget constraints and can’t factor in an extra 17 people in addition to who you already invited.

That’s just….you just don’t do that!

Post # 13
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, no matter what the circumstances – that’s very rude. There was no call first to ask if it was okay? The cost doesn’t even matter – it’s about who you WANT to be around you on your wedding day.

Post # 14
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999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

WOW!! That is SO NOT good!! You should def call, I agree with all the advice the girls have given to you – Just WOW!

Post # 16
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

it doesnt matter if its a $3.50 per plate deal or a $125pp deal – rsvp’ing 19 peopole is FREAKIN’ RUDE.  what is wrong with people these days? 

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