RSVP Situation – what would you do??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
1773 posts
Buzzing bee

MrsD41503:  If you don’t want to go (which you clearly don’t), don’t go.  Just let them know that you are no longer able to attend, no explanation needed.

Post # 3
Member
4166 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would leave the shower out of the equation and decide if you want to go to the wedding or not. If you don’t want to go, call or email her and tell her that your plans have changed (they have – you intended to go with your dad) and you won’t be attending after all.

Post # 4
Member
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i would call her and tell her that you cant make it and you are sorry that you had to change the response card.

 

Post # 5
Member
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with @LadyBear.  Don’t factor what happened at the shower when making your decision.  If you decide not to go, let the bride know was soon as you can.

Good luck!!

Post # 6
Member
6580 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsD41503:  +1 to everyones response. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Say exactly what PP said. She is clearly not a rational person. If I invited someone somewhere who lived as far away as you do, I would not be expecting them to come as I understand its a big committment and expensive. Its expensive bc they will have to drive or fly, and they are buying a gift! 

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