- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
We are invited to a wedding in August. I have been friends with the bride since childhood, although not very closely. I was also invited to the shower, however I live 5-6 hours away and couldn’t make it. I sent a nice gift with my mother, purchased off the registry plus added in something personal. (I spent a LOT of time picking out the gift and making sure it was perfect!) After the shower, I got a thank you note in the mail saying “Mrs. D – thanks for the gift! Love, Bride” I thought it was so generic and sort of rude/unlike her. I told my mom about it. My mom said her note was personal, lengthy, and the bride explained how she intended to use the gifts my mom gave. A few days later, my mom talked to the Mother-of-the-Bride who said “Bride was sorely disappointed with people who did not attend her shower and didn’t take the time writing out notes to them like she did those who attended.” I’m sorry, but WTF. I still gave a thoughtful gift that I spent my hard earned money on!
I got the wedding invite and was intended to RSVP no, because a.) it’s a bit of a distance from where I live (across the whole state), and b.) I was still ticked over the shower situation. Then my dad said “RSVP yes and we’ll go together”…so I RSVP’ed yes….only to find out the very day after I mailed out the RSVP that my dad can’t make it and will be out of state for work. I told DH about the sitauation and he immediatley said “tell them something came up and we can’t make it”. We aren’t very close, see each other maybe every 2-3 years, we aren’t in the same circle of friends…but, they came to our wedding. (They are the kind of people that go to EVERY wedding they are invited to, regardless of the distance, just keep that in mind). What would you do??