RSVP VENT!

posted 2 years ago in October 2014
Post # 2
Member
5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Soonerbee07:  I was married in July – and I think we ALL feel like this about RSVPs. Seriously- how hard is it?

I would call them again, and let them know if they do not give you an answer, they will be marked as a no. If they do show up, I’d say, sorry – you didn’t respond so we made it a no. Who cares if they think you’re rude? THEY are the ones being rude! 

We had a couple people just not respond – ignored my calls, etc too – and none of them showed. I would assume if they planned on coming, they would just say so.

Post # 3
Member
42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Soonerbee07:  It is frustrating! But, you didn’t seriously think you would be the only Bee who didn’t have to do this, did you?.

Quit trying to chase them down. If you’ve already made contact, leave them a message saying  “We have reached the deadline for our caterer. As we have not heard from you, we are considering you a no, and we will miss you at the wedding.”

That will likely prompt some action from those who do plan to come and want to eat.

Post # 4
Member
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My wedding is in July 2, 2015 and because of it I am having my rsvp for May 15. I like to plan ahead so I can have time to do place cards, and finalize a seating chart. IDC if people think its early I like to know ahead of time. 

Post # 5
Member
2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Bored6:  Well good luck with that because even with that much time, it is still going to be a pain in the ass to get everyone to respond. 

My RSVP date was August 20th, I got 2 in the mail yesterday (exactly a month later). We are getting married in 2 weeks. Yep! RSVPS are stupid. 

Post # 7
Member
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Mine is going to be easier. I am only inviting 50 people to our wedding. I already know about 25 people already told me they are coming after sending out std. I just need to know what they are eating.

Post # 8
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Mine are due on the 30th, and so far i’ve only gotten 15 or so our of 74 invites.

I’m kind of freaking out.

Post # 11
Member
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We’re doing pretty well… in guest numbers we invited 110, have had 10 declines, 72 acceptances. So only about 12 invites still outstanding (of which at least 3 are logistics/childcare based, and have been in touch).

I’m pretty impressed with our friends & family!

We do however have many more food allergies/intolerances than I first thought, hope our caterer doesn’t charge more!!

Post # 12
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Soonerbee07:  Oh geesh! That’s crazy. Luckily, our wedding is Oct 31st, so I will have a month to track people down. And, all of the grooms family is coming from over 2200 miles away so I can probably assume most of those who didn’t reply aren’t coming.

Post # 13
Member
4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our RSVP deadline was last Friday and we’re still missing quite a few – even friends who have talked about how excited they are for it. So, I’m giving those friends until Wednesday to respond. FI’s mom is in charge of their list and will hopefully track everyone down sometime this week.

I just want to get started on the place cards so they’re done. But, we’ll see!

Post # 14
Member
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Seriously! Why do people have to make it so hard?!?  Contact them all once last time and tell them you had to mark them as NO since they didn’t give you an answer and you had to give your final numbers. 

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