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@MissMoose091011: I hear ya - it is definitely extremely frustrating but you are not on your own!
Our deadline was also the 1st and we have 22 people to track down. I'm finding that most of the people that aren't RSVPing yet either don't know if they will have a date (ugh! its not a party people!) or they have no balls to say that they cannot come.
Hang in there! When these people get married, you should do the same thing to them, see how they stress out! 
Give them a taste of their own medicine!
Oh yeah, I hear you, too. We had 20 people to track down, still, a few days after the deadline. I waited about 3-4 days before I began asking people, and many came in the mail at that time. I know it's frustrating no matter what, but I'd be willing to bet a bunch of people mailed yours yesterday, ON the deadline. Give 'em a day or two, then call or e-mail. It'll save you a few of them, at least. If people don't get back to you when you call/e-mail, have a mutual friend or family member call them. We had one couple who would NOT get back to us (we texted, e-mailed, FB messaged) and a mutual friend offered to check in with him. He got a text back within the hour saying that no, they couldn't attend due to a scheduling conflict with a family event. I was like, ok, why couldn't they have just TOLD us that? We totally understand! Ugh.
In regard to "and guest", that definitely happened to me. Again, I had to call or e-mail. The ones that made me most mad were when people crossed out the number I'd written in the "We've reserved ____ seats in your honor" and wrote in a new number, adding a guest. It happened MORE than once. What!?
@MdBride oh that sucks, and your date is before mine! Thank goodness I set the RSVP date well before the final numbers are due to the venue. As for people being afraid to tell us no, I feel like saying, if you can't decide if you're going to come over 8 weeks, just don't come, it's ok, it'll save us money! lol. I would love for everyone to come but I know that that isn't going to happen!
@misspolkadot - Our RSVP was online or by phone. No mail or postage required. But, I'm still going to wait until the end of the week before I start calling people, give them the benifit of the doubt that they forgot and may remember in the next couple of days.
@MissMoose091011: I can tell you now that I will be able to relate to this post in a week. Our deadline is the 8th, today is the 3rd, and we have just over HALF of our 100 invitation's rsvp's back. HALF. And most of ours I can tell you now are people who say "I don't know who I want to bring" ... then talk to our other friends that are coming and go alone! I guarantee you'll still have fun! UGH!
and @MDbride2011: nice date! ;)
@MissMoose091011: It actually was not too bad, took a few calls and things and most of the people were nos. But yeah, I feel the same as you, just don't come then if it is so hard to make up your mind!
We did literally have someone say "my dog ate my invitation." The phone was on speaker and I just rolled my eyes lol, back to grade school! I mean seriously, if your dog did eat your invitation, wouldn't you call us to explain and RSVP via phone?!? I would have been more than happy to mail him another invitation since we had a bunch of extras.
I'm with you, OP. Be thankful you have that many who HAVE responded. I'm still missing over 100 responses, and even though I've texted/emailed/facebook messaged a bunch of people to ask them, only two have responded from that. My guests are apparently super rude. Plus, I just had a couple who had RSVP'd already change their RSVP. SO FRUSTRATING.
I can relate - mine was the 1st as well, and had 41 people MISSING as of that day!
I managed to track down a few, but am still waiting for 25 people. I've give 6 people extensions (due to invites being sent later), but that's it.
Oh and I even told a few people that weren't sure about +1's to just rsvp for themselves and touchbase with me by August 20th if they want to bring someone (and I planned to follow up with them that day too). Of course they still can't bother getting the damn rsvp back.
BAHAHAHAHHAAH! Oh, I know how you feel! RSVPS are due tomorrow and we still havent heard from 21 people!
I think the kicker for me, is we're missing a few RSVP's of people who JUST GOT MARRIED LESS THAN A YEAR AGO. Like they don't remember how frustrating it was?! RUDE! hahah
My wedding is the same date as yours--Sept 17--and my deadline for RSVPs isn't until Sept 1 (it isn't due to the venue until Sept 9). Why is yours so far out? That could be why people aren't RSVPing in a timely manner...
I think its better to set your cut-off date early. This way you can assign your tables, know how many centerpieces you need, etc.
Most people send out STDs, so why do guests need more than 4 WEEKS to decide if they want to come to your wedding or not?? Really, I mean the postage is already on the envelope for you, just drop it in the mail!
LOL. We are just now getting our RSVPs back, and I tried to make it as brainless as possible (wrote in every person's name who is invited with a check box "will attend" or "will not attend"). They still have a month to respond, so we'll see who we have to harass at the end of the month.
I told my guys listen... I need to know the name of the gal you're bringing as a guest so I can make her a placecard. And if you switch gals after I've already made the card, then she's going by that name that night! (I'm only half kidding...)
@Lauren10.8.11: What if you did Mr. John Doe & Guest ?? That would save time and also save you from using another place card.
Ughh I know - I have had so many people (in my family) ask if they can bring someone, because "Aunt so and so said no, so there's room).
Clue in. Not your wedding, so you don't get to choose who comes.
LOL. We are just now getting our RSVPs back, and I tried to make it as brainless as possible (wrote in every person's name who is invited with a check box "will attend" or "will not attend"). They still have a month to respond, so we'll see who we have to harass at the end of the month.
I'm feeling the RSVP anxiety too. Ours are trickling in way too slowly but now you ladies have me worried because I didn't even ask for people to specify the name of their guest! I just will make an escort card that states: "John Doe and Guest" The card will have the table number on it too but each couple can sit wherever at that table.
Is this a recipe for disaster???
@sueanddemetrius: We're doing similar assigned tables but not assigned seats. I think it's two different questions. If you have under 100 guests, I've read that it's not too confusing for just the assigned tables, but over 100 can get messy. As far as having "John Doe and Guest," I believe using "guest" goes against etiquette, but I doubt anyone but you would notice or care. :) Most weddings break a lot of etiquette rules now-a-days, so I wouldn't stress.
ETA: If you're worried about it, you could always call the folks who RSVP with a guest and ask the guest's name.
Good to know I'm not alone!!
@LindaD76 my wedding is september 10th, so a week before. But, I have to have the final numbers/table arrangements to the venue by August 27th, so I made the RSVP date Aug. 1st so I'm not stressing a couple weeks before the wedding trying to get the seating organized. People have known about our wedding for well over a year so I don't see why they can't just say yes or no. If you're waiting to see if something else comes up, just say no!
As for the "and guest" our best man wants to bring a girl, that he met a couple weeks ago... oh, and shes 19, and he doesn't know her last name... WTF?!?! He's going to be busy all night and she's going to either be bored stiff or drink herself stupid...she is 19, at an open bar.
haha ...I can relate! I had a person who even added a guest when I did not give him one, and he put "TBD" for the guest and selected "Beef" for them even though he did not have a plus one nor is he dating anyone!
And yes, tons of people never RSVP in time until you start calling or emailing them to remind them. Most people who dont RSVP within the first week, are the ones who will wait till the last minute or else forget and lose the invite and wait for you to ask them again..
..... what makes me furious is that when these other couples were once engaged, they knew how it felt to wait for an RSVP back, but yet they are now doing what they were complaining about before! hypocrites i tell you! hahah
Chase them up, it's all you can do. And if they still don't pull their finger out then they should consider themselves uninvited lol
Also getting hitched on September 3rd - popular day :) And YES! still have 8 people that have not responded one way or another and I had RSVP's due July 1st! It is ridiculous! Feeling the RSVP or lack there of pain!
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I understand that people who've never been married may not understand these annoyances but, seriously...
1. I can't put "guest" on the place card...and if you don't know who you're bringing when you've had 8 weeks to reply, don't friggin bring them!!!!!
2. Food for 100+ people needs to be ordered in advance, please just CLICK a food choice, it's not that hard. Beef, fish, or vegitarian, just pick one!
3. For the record for those 12 outstanding couples "Kindly RSVP By August 1st", means RSVP by August friggin 1st!!!!!
Ok that's all, I feel better now...