Post # 1
Good morning bees,
I am someone who is quite patient most of the time, but one thing I don’t understand is how ignorant most of our guests are with the Rsvp’s.
We sent them out with invites a month ago. They are not due until next week.
We wrote directly on a separate rsvp card to email your RSVP with number of persons attending no later than June 8 to [email protected]
NO it wasn’t!! You would not believe the number of RSVP’s I am getting back from my Mother-In-Law who collects them from people eho just give them to her. EMAIL PEOPLE. email I can respond to you to tell you I received it! It also gives me a concrete list which I can immediately pull up on the ipad. People have been handing me their card or saying by word of mouth that they will or won’t be attending. It irks me! Individual cards get lost in the mail or get left lying under the mail pile ( we put magnets on our Save-The-Date Cards and invites). We all knowhow the telephone hame worked out as kids. Don’t tell Aunt soandso you’ll be attending. The vast majority are not seniors without a working clue of how to email. They’re of all ages and most who are on fb. This has been irking me since I sent out invites and getting things back. Thanks for listening.
Did anyone else have this issues?
Post # 3
I do understand what you’re saying but there are plenty of people who don’t use email. Yes I know people in their 90s on FB and email, but I also know people in their 30s and 40s who can’t work out anything beyond the work email system. Hey, at least you’re getting them!
Post # 4
We did cards. Simple, easy, little pre-addressed, pre-stamped postcards.
Some of which we never got. Some that we got weren’t clearly marked. One person put theirs in an envelope, addressed it, and then put a first-class stamp on it before sending. Another friend we contacted when her rsvp was late was waiting until she could go to the P.O. because she thought she needed to put more postage on it.
Some of these people also told a relative that they were or were not coming. Some had to be chased down with multiple calls, emails, txts, fb messages. Some of the people we tried to chase down did not ever reply to any attempts to contact them.
All this to say… your grumbling is only beginning, dear. It gets worse.
Post # 5
I anticipate having to call people after the RSVP deadline has passed. As annoying as it is, I’m not sure it’s better using a different method 🙁
Post # 6
I share your frustration regarding RSVPs. It is not hard to send a one line email or put a prestamped/self-addressed envelope in the mail! I don’t see how this can be so difficult. So far we got one RSVP via iphone photo message, I have had several “text” RSVPs and yesterday my mom’s friend RSVP’d via my mother’s facebook wall! I just don’t get it! All I want is for people to send the little card back-apparently this is too much to ask for!
Post # 7
People will respond how they feel comfortable responding. Even if they have email, some are just used to response cards and may feel uncomfortable just shooting you an email. As long as you get a response, its fine. And if you do not, hopefully you’ve built in some buffer time between the response deadline and the date when your catering head count is due so you can track down the remaining guests!
Post # 8
Honestly, I always forget to email RSVPs. There isn’t a physical envelope I can sit on the counter to drop in the mail when I leave. When I open the invitations, I’m not sitting at a computer, and I often forget to send them back. I find the invitation weeks later and realize I never RSVPed.
Post # 9
No situation is perfect. People are going to forget to respond or just tell Aunt So and So matter what you do.
I hardly ever use email (I’m all about texting and I don’t wanna text to an email address lol). If that was my only option I’m sure I’d forget unless I did it the very moment I opened the invite.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
You may be butting up against a generation that doens’t believe in e-mail. Not that they don’t know how to use it, but that it’s not an appropriate venue for such a reply.
I understand your frustration, but you have to remember the crowd you’re dealing with– I’d also mention that you probably don’t want to send thank-you’s via e-mail either– it’s clear by their hesitation that many of them aren’t on that level.
Post # 11
You guys are most helpful. Hey there isn’t a fool proof way I guess. Lots of time for a head count before numbers go in to caterer.
Post # 12
Yes, it seems that email should be a very simple way to RSVP, but it’s pretty modern (i.e. non-traditional.) And weddings are steeped in tradition. Some of the guests who are choosing not to RSVP by email may be more traditional… (Even some of us younger people can be traditional!)
But, I’ll agree, some might just be difficult. 😉 Sorry you’re frustrated!