(Closed) RSVP via Text message

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

ewww. text! ha ha

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Humm…yeah-maybe just send her a card explaining why you guys didn’t RSVP the right way and make a joke about men or something.They’ve probably forgotten already but everyone always enjoys getting nice cards in the mail.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I agree it isn’t necessary but it would be really nice!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

All RSVP’s should be over sms… genius.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

To be perfectly honest, I wouldn’t feel too bad if it was you SO’s friend.

My fiance sent his friends that didn’t RSVP, facebook messages to see whether or not they were coming.  I think it’s a guy to guy thing. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s between friends.

My guy did the same thing about a year ago. We weren’t living together at the time so I never saw the invitation. The BRIDE asked him via text if we were coming… and he replied by text. 

Speaking of, that girl hasn’t replied to our wedding! I guess some people don’t "get" etiquette, but I guess it works for them. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

Lol, I’d be mortified too but I agree, I think it must be a guy to guy thing.  Don’t worry about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I had my only +1 RSVP via text.

I had to write back, "Um, we didn’t give you a +1." 

It was so uncomfortable.  My mom said I was being a meanie so we ended up letting him bring a date.  Lame.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had two people rvsp on facebook, come on guys 😛

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I sent facebook messages to people who didn’t RSVP, and it’s how I learned that one of my BM never got her invite.  She just figured I didn’t send one because I knew she was coming!  But really, if that’s how the couple got in touch with him, and they understand why the RSVP didn’t come sooner, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

To be clear – I don’t think that’s a good way to officially RSVP, but if the bride and groom have to get in contact with people who didn’t RSVP, and that’s how they respond, no problem.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wouldn’t stress over it, but sending the bride a little note on FB might smooth things over if for whatever reason she was upset by the lack of formal RSVP

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I got a friggin INVITE via Text once. In another city, about 1.5 weeks before the wedding!!!!!!

This was a good friend of mine.

Not anymore. I couldn’t take it. It infuriated me.

I’ve had time to get over it but I was so mad.

She said she originally didn’t want to invite out of town people b/c she didn’t want to "burden anyone" but didn’t see the fact that she was burdening me THAT much more by giving me 1.5 weeks to figure out how to go to a wedding in Ohio!!!

 So now here I am getting married… and I debated long and hard about whether or not I should burden her by asking her to come all the way to Miami for my wedding. Or should I give her the same courtesy and text her a week before?

Of course I did the right thing and sent her a save the date. But reluctantly. We were so close at one point but not anymore.

Not when you text me an invite to you wedding… 

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