Post # 1
Wow, I can’t believe I just wrote that. Now I know that it is so very wrong to text message an rsvp to anyone’s wedding, but this is a little different.
My SO asked me last night if we were going to attend a friends wedding (his friend). I was a little confused bc we hadn’t discussed it before but I do remember him mentioning something. Apparently I should have investigated this a little because the wedding is in two weeks!! (Side note: The invitation was sent to his father’s house. He’s in the military and moves around a lot, which would explain why I never saw the invite.)
Anyway, the groom sent him a text message last night asking him whether he was going to come to the wedding or not. He responded yes, via text. Yep…
I’m really embarassed now–I would never just not rsvp, but this is a little different. I am friendly with the bride (like facebook-friends) but I don’t really know her well. Do I shoot her an email or send her a card with an apology? What would I even say? ("Sorry, I didn’t know about this. Guys stink with this sort of thing.") Or am I overthinking this?
Post # 4
Humm…yeah-maybe just send her a card explaining why you guys didn’t RSVP the right way and make a joke about men or something.They’ve probably forgotten already but everyone always enjoys getting nice cards in the mail.
Post # 5
I agree it isn’t necessary but it would be really nice!
Post # 6
All RSVP’s should be over sms… genius.
Post # 7
To be perfectly honest, I wouldn’t feel too bad if it was you SO’s friend.
My fiance sent his friends that didn’t RSVP, facebook messages to see whether or not they were coming. I think it’s a guy to guy thing.
Post # 8
It’s between friends.
My guy did the same thing about a year ago. We weren’t living together at the time so I never saw the invitation. The BRIDE asked him via text if we were coming… and he replied by text.
Speaking of, that girl hasn’t replied to our wedding! I guess some people don’t "get" etiquette, but I guess it works for them.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
Lol, I’d be mortified too but I agree, I think it must be a guy to guy thing. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 10
I had my only +1 RSVP via text.
I had to write back, "Um, we didn’t give you a +1."
It was so uncomfortable. My mom said I was being a meanie so we ended up letting him bring a date. Lame.
Post # 11
I had two people rvsp on facebook, come on guys 😛
Post # 12
I sent facebook messages to people who didn’t RSVP, and it’s how I learned that one of my BM never got her invite. She just figured I didn’t send one because I knew she was coming! But really, if that’s how the couple got in touch with him, and they understand why the RSVP didn’t come sooner, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 13
To be clear – I don’t think that’s a good way to officially RSVP, but if the bride and groom have to get in contact with people who didn’t RSVP, and that’s how they respond, no problem.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t stress over it, but sending the bride a little note on FB might smooth things over if for whatever reason she was upset by the lack of formal RSVP
Post # 15
I got a friggin INVITE via Text once. In another city, about 1.5 weeks before the wedding!!!!!!
This was a good friend of mine.
Not anymore. I couldn’t take it. It infuriated me.
I’ve had time to get over it but I was so mad.
She said she originally didn’t want to invite out of town people b/c she didn’t want to "burden anyone" but didn’t see the fact that she was burdening me THAT much more by giving me 1.5 weeks to figure out how to go to a wedding in Ohio!!!
So now here I am getting married… and I debated long and hard about whether or not I should burden her by asking her to come all the way to Miami for my wedding. Or should I give her the same courtesy and text her a week before?
Of course I did the right thing and sent her a save the date. But reluctantly. We were so close at one point but not anymore.
Not when you text me an invite to you wedding…