(Closed) rsvp… why do some people make it so complicated!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
8473 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m with you.  It’s common courtesy to send out the SASE that comes with the invitation.  My mother put her foot down and said I am NOT counting you if I do NOT get that card in the mail.. And I’m glad she did that! 

How difficult is it to drop a card in the mail?!  I think people have a lot of nerve.  I’m going through it myself and would love to give people a piece of my mind.

Post # 5
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Don’t waste my stamps! Grrr! STILL waiting on two couples to send their cards back- I need meal selections, people! “I’ll put it in the mail this week.” If you don’t, you’re not getting fed, how about that? :)-

Post # 6
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My aunt asked my mom the same thing so how many other family members think this

Post # 7
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Icannot agree more. I’m having the same issue. Non of my mom side has rsvp’d. Well except for one. They just told me to assume they are all coming! Grrrr

Post # 8
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is so very important to follow up with potential guests who have not returned an RSVP response. One of my friends didn’t receive RSVPs from several people (mostly extended family) for her wedding and instead of calling to confirm if they were planning to attend or not, she assumed they would not be attending and invited others from her “B List” in their place. She was unpleasantly surprised upon arrival at the reception to discover that many of those people who didn’t RSVP showed up and there weren’t enough tables, chairs, or meals. It was a very awkward situation, and she spent the first 20-30 minutes of her reception talking to the venue coordinator about options. The venue eventually set up additional tables and chairs (the linens did not match the custom ones she had rented, of course), but even after that, there still wasn’t enough food.

Post # 9
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh dear, this sounds like my family.  I just got engaged and I’m in the beginning stages of planning, but I just know it’s going to be like this for me!  Aggravating.

I hope things go better for you!

Post # 11
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@rebwana:  Same way I feel! lol So many people think its ok to just show up! They are gonna be rather hungry when they get there!

Post # 12
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this! Seriously, who thinks that being related to someone gives you the right to be rude? I agree with the PPs that say it is time to start calling. If ‘we’re family’ gives them the right to not use common courtesy and send the RSVP card back, it also gives you the right to get them on the phone and explain why you need a committment immediately. Best of luck to you!

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