Post # 1
I need to vent.
For our October 10th wedding, I’ve been getting rsvp’s back in a pretty steady stream. Which is great! Except I’m also starting to see all those little things that are slowly making me crazy:
1. Completely blank cards
2. People calling to ask me if they can bring their new boyfriend/girlfriend or (and this is my favorite) my FI’s sister, who called to ask if she could invite her boyfriends mother, who neither my Fiance or I have ever met or spoken to.
And my latest favorite, which is the old high school friend that I do not even like whose mother strong-armed my mother into getting invited actually scribbling out the “1” on the “We have reserved 1 seat in your honor” and filled in “2”.
Please help me understand, what is so hard about this and why do these people think its okay??
Post # 3
I hear ya!! I have had a massive headache for 2 straight days over RSVP crap! People sometimes just plain suck!
Post # 4
I’m afraid I can’t answer that question because I don’t know.
Post # 5
If I can add mine–we’ve been getting RSVPs too. By text message. And it’s making me flat out bitter y’all. I wrote our address. I stamped your damn card. You can’t mail it back to me? I guess I should be thankful that people are, in fact, RSVPing, but Jesus.
Post # 6
I don’t get it. We’re going through the same thing. I especially love the people who just wrote “And Guest” on their rsvp cards. Really? Does your guest have a name? Or are you just going to show up with whomever’s available that day? Argh! And we’re having “can I bring my three year old, she’ll be really good and quiet and won’t eat anything” issues too…I won’t even go there though, I will get ranty. Hang in there @sweetredthing and @JenuineMulder
Post # 7
uh oh. I’m so sorry for your pain(s). Unfortunately many people see this as one big party at the expense of others without realizing how sacred and special it is to the couple, how EXPENSIVE it is just to invite them let alone all of the uninvited extras. It’s almost over. You’ll get through it. Just be sure you have your designated person (planner/MOH/someone other than you) call to confirm guests. Especially those who think they will just bring extras because they scratched out the original number and wrote one in on the card. We don’t want anyone to be embarassed the day of the wedding because they have no chair or plate or common courtesy.
Post # 8
@quietserenity: OMG don’t you just love that? It’s like ‘where’d your RSVP go?’ Ours were *postcards* Ridiculously easy. We got at least 20 facebook RSVP’s too. I guess at the end of the day it’s just important to have the final count, but seriously, I feel your pain on that too!
Post # 9
I think they figure it’s just ‘one’ more, or ‘one’ more call isn’t a big deal (to ask about adding people). But, you are getting ALL of these calls, which on top of your already carefully thought out plans… is just sheer lunacy. 😉
Hang in there – the crazy RSVP’s will stop soon and your list will be finalized once and for all!
Post # 10
@Quietserenity: Oh yes. We’re gotten a lot of text message rsvps!
@oracle: Lunacy is EXACTLY the term I was looking for!
I think we all need a nice, big drink. Or a honeymoon. Or both. Preferably at the same time.
Post # 11
I am seriously to the point where I’m tired of being Miss Ettiquette in my responses. I REALLY just want to say, “NO, you can’t bring your flavor-of-the-moment f***buddy (who has girlfriend that isn’t YOU) to your FATHER’s and my wedding!” or “No, it’s not ‘just’ one more person – it’s $35+ more!”
And for some reason, a lot of guests seem to think that if they can’t come, they don’t have to send back the card, and we’ll get the hint. To me that says, “I don’t care enough about you to respond,” not “Sorry we can’t make it.” And to that I say, “Then give me my 44 cents back!” – Seriously. I could use it!
I guess I should have gone with “__ Accepts” and “__ Regrets,” instead of just putting “Number Attending___.” But, uh, zero IS a number, folks. 😉
@sweetredthing: I agree wholeheartedly about the drink and honeymoon. I told Fiance the other night that I’m excited to be married to him, but I just want it to be over so I can lie on a ship in the Caribbean with a nice, big, frozen, fruity cocktail in my hand and just chill.
Post # 12
@FutureMrsSpinewiz: Ha! We had a place for # Attending AND a place for Accepts and Regrets:
AND PEOPLE STILL CAN’T FIGURE IT OUT.
Also, AMEN to the beach and cocktail. October 14…please hurry up and get here!
Post # 13
The answer to your question is:
Because people are rude, inconsiderate, ill-mannered assholes.
Once you accept that they WILL invite random strangers, bring uninvited children and RSVP “No” and then text the week before to let you know they’re coming – then you’ll be fine. 🙂
It’s so frustrating that people aren’t more respectful of invitations (and rather think wedding’s are a free-for-all) but unfortunately it just has to be handled with as much grace as possible.
Post # 14
@camrie: I’m reaching the point of apathy, which is a little sad in and of itself because we’ve only gotten about 1/3rd of our rsvps…which means there are good odds that people will continue to be, as you said, rude, inconsiderate and ill-mannered.
What will be will be I guess. And if we run out of food or people don’t have a place to sit…well, it’s not like we didn’t warn them.
Post # 15
I feel your pain. My Fiance aunt and uncle RSVPed a week and a half late, and then wrote in the name of their two children. We emailed them twice, called and left one message. We finally got a hold of them and they say “oh yeah we got your email.” WTF you can’t reply or call us back. And then you say “the kids are really disappointed.” I don’t give a f*** !! Seriously people have no clue!!!!!! To make matters worse I had to readjust my seating chart because they don’t speak to one of the other aunts and uncles. His aunt also never even rsvped to my shower.
Post # 16
I used the same invites from Michaels!!! %40 off