RSVP wording question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I have seen phrasing such as “Please initial by your meal choice” so instead of marking 2 chickens they would mark JS and AS next to chicken and you would know John and Anne Spencer want chicken. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you need to have each name with the meal selection, you would need to put a space for Name, meal selection. You have plenty of room on there to do it. I would put 3-4 on there. Here is a copy of ours (except mad lib style). Then I’m putting the name card on different colored paper to identify which is which, one purple, one pink, one silver. 

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Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Please initial your choice of entree.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kl1987:  I put “Please initial next to each guest’s meal preference”

I still get some people sending it back with 2 in the beef, which is easy, but when there’s a 1 in the beef and a 1 in the fish, I have to call them back and ask.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

Has your caterer even told you they need that information?  In my experience, they generally don’t. The waiters will come around to your guests when everyone is first seated and ask everyone what they are ordering or have ordered. The numbers you have supplied them are only an estimate as they generally have to have extra quantities on hand in case of additional guests, mistakes in ordering, people who forget what they wanted or who change their minds.

Many places don’t require menu selections until the day of  and even the ones that say they do are often willing to accomodate if you say you don’t want to do that in advance. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

That exact card really won’t work. You probably need more of a list where it allows them to put initials and then check their choice. Then obviously you need name cards at the reception.

UNLESS your caterer doesn’t actually need to know WHO, just total numbers and the wait staff asks each person at service which one they want. In that case the way the card is written is fine.

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Post # 8
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Sugar bee

My daughter’s venue insisted we mark the escort cards (like all the guests would place them in front of them on the table, anyway?). We ran out and got colored stars to put on the backs: red for beeef/crabcake, yellow for chicken/scallops, and green for vegetarian. We also had to write out on the ballroom layout diagram, how many placesettings/chairs needed to be at each table, and the number of each of the 3 entrees. And wouldn’t you know, the server went around and asked each person what they ordered anyway? Argh…

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

weddingmaven:  I have only been to one wedding that had the servers come around and ask- all the others required the meal choice ahead of time (it was on our escort card). Maybe it’s a regional thing.

kl1987:  We just asked guests to initial their choices. If people didn’t inital we just randomly assigned the two beef and the one chicken and family members could switch- we didn’t want to go through the hassle of calling people up. 

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