(Closed) RSVP….did I do it wrong? :(

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did I do this wrong?
    The dates are fine : (38 votes)
    58 %
    The dates are not ideal but fine : (25 votes)
    38 %
    I should consider reordering : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t worry about it.  My mailing was a little on the early side and broke all ‘RSVP’ rules.  People who are good RSVP’ers will respond.  Others, you’ll have to hunt down.  I’d say the only ‘problem’ you’ll have are the people who won’t pay attention to the RSVP date and think they have more time to respond.  Overall, though, I’d push back the time you’d mail them – especially since you already sent Save the Dates… by at least a week.  

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You’re fine. People are going to RSVP on time, late or never no matter what date you use. Honestly, I don’t know a whole lot of people who actually look at the date. I found that my guests sent it right away, at the very end or never. I didn’t get many in ‘the middle’.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We sent our invites at the 3 month mark. And we’re only having to chase down about 15% – not bad I’d say. Our RSVP date was also 6 weeks before, but I waited a little longer to start hunting people down.

    Post # 6
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    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    That is an early RSVP date, but I wouldn’t worry too much about fixing it.  You might run into a few issues, so just be prepared.

    1. People won’t be able to commit 2 months in advanced so you might get some extra Nos.

    2. People’s schedules change and you might end up with a bunch of people switching their responses after the RSVP date.

    3. You might end up with a lot of people responding late because they are unsure or figure that they still have time.  But people are going to RSVP late or not at all anyway, so you’d have to deal with that regardless.

     

    Post # 7
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @Birdee106:  That’s completely true re: RSVP timing.  I got a bunch in the beginning and at the end/requested date.  Very few in the middle…. and then there were the ones I had to badger! 

    Post # 10
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @letsdothis2013:  If I am going to spend major money to travel to your wedding (that I already presumably know the date for) by the time your invitation arrives, I already know if I am going to make the effort to attend or not.  I personally don’t think 1 more week (4 weeks vs. 3) is going to make a ton of difference either way.  If it gives you peace of mind, keep your time frame as is.  I also wouldn’t facebook anyone with an alternative RSVP date… that’s too confusing and just one more date to remember, IMO.

    Post # 13
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For those who have received their RSVPs was there a pattern to how they came back? My FI and I envision that we will get most of the “yes” cards quickly but those who are unable to attend will delay or not return at all their response cards. Has this been anyone’s experience?

     

    @oracle:  wrote about the waves. Was there a pattern to the responses?

    Thank you!!

    Post # 14
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    942 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I freaked out about this too- I had an APRIL rsvp for  June wedding.

    We sent out save the dates, everyone knew already if they were planning on coming or not. It was NOT a big deal at all

    Post # 15
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think everything is fine.  People will forget and people will send them in right away.  For your situtation, I would hold off (a few more weeks past the due date) on calling those who haven’t sent them in.

     

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I don’t think you did anything wrong.  Invites ARE supposed to go out 2-3 months before the wedding.  So you’re right on schedule!

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