- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So first of all, I am having two receptions, one the day of the wedding and one the day after the wedding. The second reception is far more casual and is meant for friends and distant relatives. I’ve gotten nearly all of the RSVP’s for the first day, so that’s great!
It’s the second day that’s giving me a problem. Today is the deadline, and sure, the day isn’t over, but I doubt I’m going to be getting over 30 calls today. For the second reception, I put on the invitation to please call or text my cell phone to RSVP. I did this for a reason. I’d prefer someone called me, or left a voice mail, or sent a text. Not a single guest has bothered. In fact, every single guest so far has RSVP’d verbally, either when they ran into me during the day, or strangely enough to my relatives. I ran into someone at the supermarket the other day and she RSVP’d right there in the bread aisle. Other people have RSVP’d at work, during busy times of the day, usually in the morning when we’ve still got the entire day ahead of us and I don’t have a place to write anything down. A cluster of people RSVP’d to me at my bridal shower. Several people have run into my mom while they are out and about and told her to tell me that they would be there.
I truly appreciate the time they are spending to come celebrate, but it’s driving me nuts! After my bridal shower I couldn’t even remember who RSVP’d. Worse, it’s a catered dinner, and some guests are claiming they ‘might’ be there, depending on what else they have going on that night. I explained that it’s a catered dinner, and they said that was fine, they’d just show up after the dinner hour so I ‘didn’t have to worry about paying for them’.
The second part of this is that, where I come from, no one in my family or friends thinks registries are rude, and in fact we all embrace them so that we can truly see what someone may need, though we NEVER require that anyone bring a gift. There are a few extended friends (friends through family) that apparently ‘hate’ registries though, and brought gifts to my shower, without a gift receipt, that I will never use. One guest proclaimed that she hates registries and that if a friend was ‘really paying attention’ they would understand what I ‘truly’ wanted and needed. My fiance and I have been living together for a year, but we are not like a lot of couples who feel set. Our relatives wanted to get us some kitchen and living things, so we made the registry. We could eventually get all these things ourselves, but right now we are really penny pinching and our family and friends wanted to get us some gifts.
But when I opened the gifts from the personwho purposely didn’t use the registry… it was something another guest at the shower had already gotten me! Just a different brand! A $100 Keurig coffee brewer. I didn’t register for a Keurig and it came with no gift receipt. I wound up opening this before the other coffee maker. This was extremely embarrassing and I didn’t know what to do or say. The other guest looked perplexed when I opened a gift that was nearly identical to their own, just a different brand. The person who got me the Keurig bragged loudly about how much they knew I’d love this item. So now I have two coffee makers sitting on my counter because the first came with no gift receipt but the one I registered for was the one I actually wanted because of a different function it has. I suppose now my home-office group meetings will get to have two coffee makers workin at a time!
Oh and I’m not trying to be unthankful for the gift… it was just perplexing that they bragged about how they didn’t need to use the registry and then bragged about the gift they got me when, had they glanced at the registry, they could have seen a nearly identical item was already purchased by another guest.
So I guess with all this technology these days we still can’t make planning or communication any easier!