Post # 1
I’m sure this has been brought up a lot, but in case it hasn’t recently I thought I’d ask.
If My RSVP date is Sept 1st, when is a reasonable amount of time to call/email/text to confirm that they are or are not coming? If they say they aren’t can I tell them that their seat will be given away?
My venue is packed and I want to invite other people if I get No’s, but I’m scared the No’s will change their mind and show up anyway. Or that someone will just not respond at all and show up. We’re charged per person and I would like to invite more if people say they don’t come.
Anyone have any ideas? Anyone have people RSVP and not show up or say they aren’t coming, but then show up?
How do you handle this?
Post # 3
@jessbride206: You know, in my experience, when people say “no”, it’s a no. I’m not sure you need to tell them that their seat will be given away, I’d like to think that it’s kind of a given. How many “other people” are you thinking of inviting? Also, I would wait until September 1st to call/email for responses – a lot of RSVPs came in in the final week for us!
Post # 4
Wait at least a week after the due date to start calling people. Most of my responses came back after the date I had on there!
Also, I would not invite other people. That is ‘B listing’ and it isn’t a very nice thing to do.
Post # 5
thanks, my “b” list is primarily made of giving people +1’s and older children.
Post # 6
I would skip the B list, even if it is just +1s and older kids. It just comes off as…rude? Like, “Oh, now that people we invited can’t come, you can bring x.”
Anyway, we started contacting people right around the deadline. We did contact people the day before because we knew that we needed to harass some people to get them to send it in. Thankfully, we only really had a few people to track down, and most of them we saw the weekend of the deadline anyway.