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Hey bees!! My "RSVP by" date is May 1st...our wedding is June 5th and we have to give the hall our meal count by May 15th.
At first they came rolling in.
Invited- 195.
Yes- 105
No- 19
waiting on-70!!!!
sent in but didn't write their name (sigh)- 1
Anyone else having this issue and getting frustrated waiting for replies??!
I sent 50ish invites and I've had five (5) responses. The deadline is FRIDAY.
@helenberrycrunch: are you freaking out???!!! What is wrong w ppl! it's So easy to just fill it out and pop it in the mail! I'm sorry...I hope you don't have to make all the calls. I hope they reply.
Ah, I know I have been guilty of this in the past. I know on some previous occasions I have completely forgotten or sent it at the last minute. I remember even calling a friend on the deadline because I realize I never mailed my card. Now that we are planning our own wedding and I see the related stress, I am way more diligent about sending them in! I'm sure we will also end up having to make tons of phone calls when our time comes...
@AlmostVangor: Our wedding dates are different but we have the same deadlines you do. We are still getting a few back each day but:
Invites- 104
Yes- 34
No- 2
Waiting on-68
I've already resigned myself to the fact that we'll be calling lots of people, thats why I gave myself 2 weeks between the RSVP deadline and the caterer headcount but its just ridiculous
@helenberrycrunch:I'm so sorry, gosh ppl, what a pain in the butt.
@helenberrycrunch: online is SO EASY!!! that's awful! Well mass email time then. ppl need to get it together! That is so easy for your guests!
@asunw: I think I feel the need to rsvp right away b/c I know if I put it off i'll forget...like my 70 guests who have forgotten LOL. I hope you get some back asap too! I do NOT want to have to stalk ppl over the phone!
I think that when it feels like the event's a couple months away, people don't feel urgency to reply. Hopefully they will get on it before your deadline - at least they've still got a couple of weeks! Mine are due on Friday and I'm waiting on 175 people...
Yes! We sent out almost 100 invites 2 weeks ago and we have gotten 13 cards back. Last week we got 10 back between 2 days, but since then its been very slow. Our RSVP date is May 5th, so I guess we'll see how the next couple of weeks go.
Still waiting on about 100 responses as well with a reply date of May 4. Neither of our parents have even responded! I know they are coming, but we still need to know meal choices, etc.
@helenberrycrunch: I sent 50 also. We have received about 8. Deadline: tomorrow.
Why did I even put stamps on them.
Having the same issue and it is REALLY stressing me out..why can't people just respond? Our deadline is tomorrow, we sent 140 invites including rsvp cards, only had approx half back and lots of those were verbal..hate hate having to chase people..it's just plain rude not to respond as far as I'm concerned. I think though that sometimes if people haven't organised a wedding themselves they just don't get the whole deadline/caterers/seating plan urgency..
I feel the same way and ask my fiance everyday "what's wrong with people"??? I mean this is scary, you plan for 6 months, put lot of money, time and effort into it thinking that you would have X number of people and then only 5 people respond when you know for sure that more than 5 are going to come... I don't know how to deal with this RSVP issue :) Plus, it's weird to start calling people and ask if they intend to come, I mean do I really have to beg/chase people to come to my wedding?!
@BruinBee:So glad you understand! I know, I also keep asking my fiance how come people can't just reply, even if they can't make it, they could just reply rather than just silence for over a month..very strange! I must admit, I never thought this would happen or even be an issue. You're right,it isvery scary to think how much planning/effort/money we have put into our day and people can't even let us know for sure if they intend to come..I understand it's not the most important thing in their lives but it's curteous to respond surely..I always would. Thanks for understand and I hope you get lots of rsvps soon & don't have too much arkward chasing to do! x
does anyone feel a little hurt getting some "decline's with regrets" without any explanation--I'm fine with it unless it's someone who has verbally said they would be at my wedding probably 5 times. Then I find out they aren't coming from the response card...so weird. It's happened quite a bit.
We have about 8 out of 60 invites returned. RSVP deadline is may 16th. The thing that is most frustrating is that I gave them an addressed envelope with a stamp already on it. Step 1. Find out if you can come, Step 2. Write your name on the line and say yes or no, Step 3. Lick the envelope and close it, step 4. put it back in your mailbox! Bah!
@Heatherloveskenny:this hapenned to me too! I was really dissapointed too. A friend who emailed me lots saying she couldn't wait to come and see dress etc, and then I get the rsvp which was really distant and vague with no explanation :( weird!
Argh that sucks, I hope you get loads more back soon- they should be mailing them straight back when you even so kindly put a stamp on! So frustrating
My deadline was yesterday. I am still waiting on 45 RSVP's of 107, really people!?!?!
I think the most annoying thing though is FI's mom she's like oh well such and such is coming and ____ isn't. To which I reply are they coming to the welcome dinner or taking the shuttle, oh I don't, exactly! Thats why I included a damn RSVP card.
How long is everyone waiting to begin calling/emailing? My deadline for the caterer is the 15th so I think I'm going to send out an email wednesday afternoon and begin calling Saturday. I don't know i'm half tempted to send an email out today but I don't want to be rude.
We sent out our invitations fairly early (beginning of March) because we didn't do a Save the Date, so we also had a fairly early RSVP date, April 15th. I waited a week and a half (two weeks for some) to begin asking and since then I've had answers trickling in via email so we're at about a 92% response rate for 150 invites. For planning purposes, we are just ballparking our final count using the same "yes" and "no" percentages that have already come in until I get the actual RSVPs back.
Send it today, it's not rude... people are rude for not responding by the deadline.
I feel frustrated too.. only 14 out of 50 invites returned so far. I don't want to be a bridezilla but I have seriously always mailed back an RSVP within a day or two. I can't read peoples mind, and I feel like them telling me vocally they would come several months ago is not enough for me to know if they are actually going to be there.
we sent ours out in the middle of April with the deadline of May 1st. Out of 100 that we have sent we have gotten back 6. 2 facebook and text message rsvp's since they misplaced their rsvp cards. Its so frustrating..
My deadline is in a few more weeks and I recently sent mine out, but there are so many people who still need to RSVP! Lots of these people are close family who keep saying "i'm coming, I'm coming." Well, then take 2 minutes to fill out the card and walk it to the postal bin! I'm growing impatient very quickly. Just send them in!!! I'm sure 90% of the people who we are waiting on know if they can come or not.
Also, I agree with whoever stated they didn't like getting a decline with no explanation. Someone close to me isn't coming when I really thought he would. It hurts to have no explanation. I understand if you can't get out of work or afford the trip (which I'm sure he could have), but give me a little explanation please!
@BruinBee: I did and I've gotten 4 responses so far, 41 to go! Come on people! My fiance's mom called yesterday and started guessing, I wanted to stop her and say "thats not good enough, I don't want to pay for extra people or have holes at my tables!"
Yeah guessing is not good enough for me either, especially at over $100 a person it is very costly to guess. I don't think its fair I risk basically throwing hundreds away on people who may not come because someone couldn't put an RSVP into the mail box.
We are still waiting on quite a few but they still have two weeks so I am trying to be patient.
Most of my side has replied anyways so at least I won't be the one making all the phone calls :p
9 days until the rsvp date and we only have received about 20 rsvp's out of 88 that I mailed. Seriously even FI's mom and sister and pretty much all of his friends haven't responded...at all. We pretty much know who isn't coming and who is but really? I gave you a freakin stamp.
@helenberrycrunch: get on the phone and call them....just to see if they received their invites. The mail system is slow and loses things
I find this SO annoying. We were lucky to get a bunch of cards back pretty quickly.. but now its one every other day or so. I still have 2 weeks til the deadline, but am waiting on almost half of our 80ish cards.
The worst part is some of the people who we have NO idea either way if they're coming or not... THOSE are the cards I want in my hands asap.
Ugh.
We're having to call people now. Our wedding is June 4 & our reply by date was last Saturday (the 7th of May). We have 16 non-repliers as of this morning out of 97 invitations sent out. The majority of the non-repliers are from my dad's side of the family, and a couple of our friends...
Our deadline is this Saturday, and I'm still waiting on half of the cards. I really think most of them are those who aren't coming, (parents' friends) but even some of my forever friends haven't replied. I think they're just slackers! aghhhhhh
Only about half my RSVPs have come in so far :( The deadline hasn't passed yet but I still see myself having to make a lot of phone calls. Annoying!
we have a small wedding june 17 and rsvp date of may 27 and ive received most of them (of course, havent received the ones that we actually have no idea about!) but guests will call my parents or his parents and our parents will be like 'so-so is coming, daughter too, they want lobster, he wants beef, etc.' NO! SEND BACK THE RSVP! so now, when my parents are like 'i talked to so-so today and she said she would...' i just say to let them know they have until may 27 to send the RSVP card.
i dont want to, but i will call people and be like, 'we have you as not attending because we havent received a RSVP card from you..."
FYI everyone...my wedding is 3 weeks from this weekend. WE STILL are missing 3 couples RSVP's and one couple is my cousin and her husband! I think some ppl just don't think they have to RSVP. So my mom is refusing to pay for meals for ppl who didn't RSVP so we have not included those 6 ppl in our final headcount!
This was by FAR the most stressful part of wedding planning!
We didn't send out our invites until the 2nd so I know people have only had them for a week or so - but here is our count
Yes: 15
No: 3
assumed family yes: 4
Waiting:96!!! and of course, the vast majority are people we have no idea :(
This seems ridiculous to me when you consider that I did email/phone RSVP! It's soooo easy! I've had people text/facebook me as well. My deadline is the 25th and our hotel block closes the 18th so people better get moving!
I'm having issues too! We have 93 responded "Yes" and are still waiting on 67! The cut off date is THIS Friday.
I didn't think RSVP's would turn into such an issue.
Hopefully my mom is prepping herself to make a bunch of calls!! What a pain!
Yeah, we're on our 4th day in a row with no RSVP cards in the mailbox. So frustrating.
Waiting on 35 cards (83 people) with the deadline on 5/27.
Come onnnnnnnnnn people!
I think everyone has this problem although I really don't understand what is so hard about dropping a card in the mail and that's pre-addressed and stamped...Our due date was yesterday and I have to have the numbers in this Friday and I too am missing about 35 out of the 110 sent...ugh, send a bunch of e-mails, facebook messages and texts this afternoon...
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