RSVPs are a JOKE!!! Total RANT

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m constantly amazed at people who think it’s no big deal to bring their young kids to a wedding that has clearly been designated as an adult only affair. 

When it comes to weddimg RSVPs, why do people throw manners out the window? On another thread, a bride received a RSVP card back with 12 people added onto it. 12!!! 

Post # 3
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

I will only be accepting babes in arms.. newborns only.. any child that can crawl or walk is a nono..

I love kids but would not be apropriate

Post # 4
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

oh and if ppl dont RSVP yes then im sending out notes saying thank you for your RSVP as a decline, 

Post # 5
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1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I know a lot of people who think that “RSVP by August 18th” means that they can put the RSVP in the mail on August 18th.  They don’t realize that it means “I need your invite in my mail box on or before August 18th.  So, give it another day or two to see if any of your guests think that way. 

Post # 6
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361 posts
Helper bee

MrsPiggles:  unfortunately, I think it’s pretty normal to not receive anywhere near all rsvps back.  People have busy lives and schedules and forget.  However, on the kid deal, that would be frustrating. Some people get offended over the no kids weddings, but being a parent myself, I wouldn’t even allow children at my wedding.  Sorry you are having to deal with calls regarding your no kids policy. That would upset me also. 

Post # 9
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

RSVPs are sooo stressful! We sent out 75 invites and by our July 31st deadline we only had 40 back! we tried calling all of the but some people never answered or called us back. We just recieved a reply yes back today! Almost 3 weeks late and only 12 days until the wedding. People are rude!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Have you checked with your parents or FI’s parents to see if people gave verbal RSVPs?  Just a suggestion!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a couple ppl bring their babies to our reception without even asking us! I thought that was rude. I totally understand your frustration, it takes hardly any time to mail back an RSVP card! I don’t understand why ppl don’t send them back, the stamp is already on it!

Post # 13
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I remember ranting and raving to my then-FI about this exact same issue. We had affixed a stamp to every response card and a number of our guests apparently felt like it was too much trouble to walk to the mailbox and drop it in. I really think this happens to pretty much everybody, but it’s one of those things you don’t really pay attention to until it happens to you and then you’re all like, “Oh no they di’in’t!”

What irked me more than the lazy responders, though, were the ones who wrote in uninvited guests (my aunt did this for my cousins’ SO’s that I didn’t even know existed) and those who RSVP’d yes but never showed up. One thing you do learn from planning a wedding is that people are ruder than you think…

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

ugh we had to chase down about half of our guests as well.  so frustrating!  

just a suggestion – if you have a wedding website, does it offer an online RSVP option?  we put that on our website and it was super helpful for late responders. 

Post # 15
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560 posts
Busy bee

MrsPiggles:  Out of defence, I once rsvp’d late because I had no idea that my meal may be wasted if I didn’t come. I didn’t know that they had to pay for people before they even knew how many were coming for certain! I still find this facet of weddings ridiculous. I just thought chef would get to know closer to the day and would be out cooking at the back. Lol !

So I didn’t know anything about the absurdity of wedding planning. It may be that some people don’t know they are costing you money if they refuse and if they delay their reply they cause you stress.  I am sooo going to spell that out on the RSVP and they’re so not getting stamps 😀 

 

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