Post # 1
And gosh darn it…they are saying yes. I sent save the dates to all of them but when invite time rolled around I really wished I only invited family and a few close friends outside of the wedding party. Since I gave out save the dates, I decided I couldn’t go back on the invite, so sent out invites to everyone who go them. Well, I figured alot more would say no due to location of wedding being 6 hours away, etc.. but they haven’t. Everyone is saying yes. It isn’t a problem having them…we have space and all. I just decided I didn’t want a bunch of people that probably won’t be in my life 5 years from now to come. I say they won’t be in our lives 5 years from now because we are moving and have only known many for a few years anyway when we moved here. I don’t see most of the relationships lasting past the move. Anyway, I am happy that people care enough to come but still….if only I could go back in time. I guess I just thought we were being stingy on handing out save the dates anyway, I never thought it would be a problem because at the time I thought our wedding turn out would be pathetic. Oh well!
Post # 3
nos will come probably in july or closer to ur wedding date.
Post # 4
We invited close to 200 people, but really only wanted 150. We were super worried when 2 months leading to the wedding, most people who had responded were yes’s (we were at 100 at that point). As time went on, we received tons of “No”, and even some of the (annoying) drop outs in the last week, and ended up with 158 on the night of. It wasn’t too bad, so don’t worry just yet!
Post # 5
I’m honestly getting more excited about the declines than I am for the accepts. My stepmom and my grandma pretty much took over the guest list, grrrrr.
Post # 6
I am sure the nos will start rolling in, or the drop outs!
Post # 7
HAHA! I feel a lot less guilty now after reading that someone else gets excited about declines too. I was shooting for 250, and when I added up our original list…there were like 340 invites. I think we cut it down to 300 or so but panic sets in from the moment you get your first “yes” to the moment you get your 10th “no”. And its true, you’ll get tons of yesses at first, no’s will come later…if you have the space, you have no true reason to panic. just do the best to enjoy the day however it turns out and know that those who make the effort to be there must really care about you!
Post # 8
@August252012: When I look at our guest list I have probably 50 invites I could have left out easily but I think we were just so excited and caught up in the moment we didn’t care we just wanted to share our day with everyone really regretting it now. We are sending out 200 invites = to about 362 guests and I wouldn’t mind if we got 150 NOs-doubt that many will say no though.
Post # 9
No worries, almost all of my “Nos” come in at the end!
Post # 10
The people that will respond right away are the ones that have actually been holding the date or knew from the beginning they won’t attend! I agree with above posters, you will start to see the No’s come in as you get closer to your date and people find that due to other committments, budgets, travel, etc., they just can’t make it work. Don’t fret just yet! 🙂
Post # 11
This thread is easing my mind a little. We’ve received 35 RSVPs (for 70 guests) and of those, 32 have said Yes and 3 have said No. I have a mini heart attack thinking about all the Yes’s.
Post # 12
Oh I hope the nos start coming too! Our wedding is the same date as yours and we have recieved a ton of yes’s including people rsvping for 4 when we only invited 2 which drives me NUTS. I really want no more than 200 people at our wedding and our guest list is 270. I said NO MORE after 250 and people seem to wiggle their way onto our list. So fingers crossed those nos start rolling in! Glad to hear those will make an appearance even if it is later than sooner. 🙂