Post # 1
OK so for my 8/21 wedding, the RSVP deadline was 8/1. Of 180 invited, we have as of right now 103 confirmed guests and 29 confirmed declines.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
Of my parents list, my FIs list, and my list, mine was the smallest so I’ve emailed everyone this morning. I got two confirmed. HOWEVER, two of my friends are complete moron man-children and “don’t RSVP” to things. I have verbal confirmation (though shaky) from one of them and he claims the two are coming together even though one lives across the country. I have the distinct feeling that they are going to be no-shows and it’s making me aggro.
We’ll see how FI and my parents do tracking down responses today. We need final guest count by the beginning of next week.
I seriously just want to strangle people sometimes.
Post # 3
Oh man, I hear ya! I don’t understand why so many people don’t understand the concept of rsvp’ing. And truthfully at that! Don’t freaking tell me you’re gonna be there then just not show up and expect me not to be mad…. jeez!
As you can tell, I’ve been there. I had to stalk a few people to get the rsvp’s. Then stalk them some more to ensure that they were actually coming. And yet, some people didn’t show. Here’s hoping none of that happens to you!
Post # 4
I have like 30 people I’m still waiting to hear from and our deadline was 7/19!
Post # 5
I’m dreading this….good luck!
Post # 6
@JoJo Bananas: That’s terrible! Unfortunately I don’t have the luxury of that much time to wait so if I don’t hear from people by friday, they arent coming.
Post # 7
My FI is one of the “I don’t RSVP”ers (or at least he was before I met him). That makes me crazy because I’m like “Really? It’s not like if you RSVP there’s going to be paparazzi you have to avoid – just tell people if you’re coming it’s not that big of a deal.” 🙂
Post # 8
Yeah our deadline was July 14 and we have still been receiving cards in the past few days. I’m like really people, we put a freaking stamp on there for you AND it was a postcard so you didnt even have to seal it in an envelope! I just dont understand people sometimes!
Post # 9
I’m so dreading this…SOOOO dreading this–good luck!! I hope it all goes well!!
Post # 10
grrr…. man-children. I emailed one of DH’s friends for his address and he told me “not to bother sending him an invite, just message him on facebook a few days before.”
Of course I sent him an invite, to which he would never decide if he was coming after multiple emails and phone calls. So of course we had to leave him a spot, because he said he was “probably” coming. Yeah, no show, so we paid $200 for dinner for him and his date for nothing. And you can be sure he didn’t even get us a card.
This is DH’s friend from preschool. This would never fly in a female friendship.
Post # 11
@SapphireSun: EXACTLY! Female friends don’t pull the no RSVP thing. I always think it’s funny, too, when I get RSVP cards back and it’s for example my FI’s close friend and his wife or GF and the handwriting is ALWAYS the woman’s so it’s clear that the female took care of the RSVP.
Post # 12
What we did is contact the no-responders and for those we didn’t get to talk to, left a voicemail to the effect of, “Are you able to join us? Please let me know by tomorrow or we won’t be able to have a spot for you. We hope you can celebrate with us.”
Post # 13
we had a horrible time tracking people down. SO OBNOXIOUS. plus it feels crappy to be stalking people about coming to your wedding. like if they are real friends, they should want to come and send in their damn card. otherwise i feel sort of like you’re begging them to come. i eventually got the attitude of “i don’t care either way, i just need to know somehting for sure”
i am soooooooooo paranoid about no shows. i almost want to send email or FB reminders saying the date, place and time etc but that would just seem weird. but seriously, people are not considerate and have no idea what kind of planning goes into events (although some of last RSVPs we had to track down were recently married people, so they do know, they just suck i guess).