RSVPs not back yet! Due in two days!!!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

A lot of people think they have to mail them by the due date, not have them in your hands by then.  Not saying they’re correct, but I would expect you will get a flurry in the days following your RSVP date.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ForeverAndEverAfter:  When to start following up depends on when you have to get your final numbers to the caterer.

If you have the time, wait a few days after the rsvp date, then start phoning. If you don’t speak directly to someone, leave them this message ” I’m calling  because we didn’t receive your rsvp. If we don’t hear from you by ___ (give another date 24-48 hours later) we will have to assume you are unable to make it, and we wil miss you at the wedding.”

Karma.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s very normal to receive RSVPs late.  Or some won’t come at all because people do things last minute or forgot or whatever their excuses are.  That’s why some people try to leave a good buffer week or two or more to hunt people down, make phonecalls, emails because some people are just not that great at RSVPing. 

My due date is on the 15th of July and I’m still waiting for 45 more people to RSVP and I sent out my invites in April!  I’ve already started trying to contact a few people here and there so that I can get a head start of getting final numbers because I KNEW things like this would happen.

So it’s normal, you just have to do some little extra work on your end to track people down and “nicely” remind them that the due date is coming up soon or just get verbal confirmations over the phone or text or email.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had almost 100 people not RSVP back at all and had to call them. Some RSVPs showed up the week of the wedding. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

ForeverAndEverAfter:  late RSVP’s are unfortunately the norm.  I sent out my invites a few weeks earlier than normal (8 weeks out) because I knew that a lot of people were going to be late with the RSVP.  I decided that the extra weeks would seem obnoxious to some guests but it put my mind at ease knowing that i still had extra time after the RSVP date to contact people. 

I waited an extra week post RSVP deadline date to start contacting people.  I had about 20 people that needed addiitonal contact.  I made the connections via facebook and email mostly.  The excuses for late RSVP’s are ridiculous but I was able to get an answer before the final head count was due at the venue.

I really will never understand why it is so hard to check a box and mail out an envelope,,,,,

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

ForeverAndEverAfter:  I’m still chasing people and it’s a week after our due date ):(. It’s kind of annoying to me…I would never want to add extra stress to the bride and groom during their planning!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ForeverAndEverAfter: I can’t remember the last time I mailed someone RSVP card on time to be honest

<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>Maybe you will remember this the next time you can’t be bothered to return an rsvp on time? LOL</div>
<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>It is a huge pain for the bride and groom to deal with. Good luck with tracking down your responses.</div>

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I got some RSVPs almost a week late. I don’t think I know anyone who hasn’t gotten late RSVPs. The only person who never sent their offical RSVP in the mail for my wedding was the best man…but we knew he was coming haha

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

ForeverAndEverAfter:  Our RSVP date was July 1. We got probably 4 on July 3rd and a few a couple of days later. we are still missing about 20. My phone calls start tomorrow… we have until July 22 to get the count in.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

 

ForeverAndEverAfter: Just wondering how it all shook out? The whole MIA RSVP thing makes me nervous! Did you have to track people down or did more come in?

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