Post # 1
Good morning bees! We ordered 185 invitations, (we mailed 175 but I wanted extras just Incase). Zazzle graciously sent me 20 extra RSVP cards and invites. So my RSVP due back by date is July 11th. I have 71/180 mailed back to me. (We forgot 5 people), We kept 25 because some guests are over seas and we had trouble with mailing them. So I actually have in my possession 96/205 of the cards we received. Is it normal for so many guests to send their cards back so late??? Our RSVP date is a month and a week before the wedding date. Is this normal??? Will people send them late? I can’t remember the last time I mailed someone RSVP card on time to be honest, but this just seems like a lot to me two days before the due date. At what point do we start calling people??? Thanks in advance!!!
Post # 2
A lot of people think they have to mail them by the due date, not have them in your hands by then. Not saying they’re correct, but I would expect you will get a flurry in the days following your RSVP date.
Post # 3
ForeverAndEverAfter: When to start following up depends on when you have to get your final numbers to the caterer.
If you have the time, wait a few days after the rsvp date, then start phoning. If you don’t speak directly to someone, leave them this message ” I’m calling because we didn’t receive your rsvp. If we don’t hear from you by ___ (give another date 24-48 hours later) we will have to assume you are unable to make it, and we wil miss you at the wedding.”
Post # 4
It’s very normal to receive RSVPs late. Or some won’t come at all because people do things last minute or forgot or whatever their excuses are. That’s why some people try to leave a good buffer week or two or more to hunt people down, make phonecalls, emails because some people are just not that great at RSVPing.
My due date is on the 15th of July and I’m still waiting for 45 more people to RSVP and I sent out my invites in April! I’ve already started trying to contact a few people here and there so that I can get a head start of getting final numbers because I KNEW things like this would happen.
So it’s normal, you just have to do some little extra work on your end to track people down and “nicely” remind them that the due date is coming up soon or just get verbal confirmations over the phone or text or email.
Post # 5
We had almost 100 people not RSVP back at all and had to call them. Some RSVPs showed up the week of the wedding.
Post # 6
ForeverAndEverAfter: late RSVP’s are unfortunately the norm. I sent out my invites a few weeks earlier than normal (8 weeks out) because I knew that a lot of people were going to be late with the RSVP. I decided that the extra weeks would seem obnoxious to some guests but it put my mind at ease knowing that i still had extra time after the RSVP date to contact people.
I waited an extra week post RSVP deadline date to start contacting people. I had about 20 people that needed addiitonal contact. I made the connections via facebook and email mostly. The excuses for late RSVP’s are ridiculous but I was able to get an answer before the final head count was due at the venue.
I really will never understand why it is so hard to check a box and mail out an envelope,,,,,
Post # 7
ForeverAndEverAfter: I’m still chasing people and it’s a week after our due date ):(. It’s kind of annoying to me…I would never want to add extra stress to the bride and groom during their planning!
Post # 8
I’m just glad I’m not the only one dealing with this but I’m sorry some of you guys are! Our wedding website also has the option to RSVP so I really feel like I’ve made it super easy for my guests. I also numbered the back of each rsvp card so they just have to stick it in the mailbox and I’ll still know who it belongs to. I guess I’ll start calling on the 18th or so. Our caterer needs final numbers 72 hours in advance which I find to be SUPER awesome. But everyone else is a month ahead, so that gives me a week to get answers from everyone.
Post # 9
ForeverAndEverAfter: I can’t remember the last time I mailed someone RSVP card on time to be honest
<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>Maybe you will remember this the next time you can’t be bothered to return an rsvp on time? LOL</div>
<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>It is a huge pain for the bride and groom to deal with. Good luck with tracking down your responses.</div>
Post # 10
julies1949: I sure hope so! Usually I’m the asshole sending it back late!! This is my karma for all those years! LOLOLOLOLOL
Post # 11
I got some RSVPs almost a week late. I don’t think I know anyone who hasn’t gotten late RSVPs. The only person who never sent their offical RSVP in the mail for my wedding was the best man…but we knew he was coming haha
Post # 12
ForeverAndEverAfter: Our RSVP date was July 1. We got probably 4 on July 3rd and a few a couple of days later. we are still missing about 20. My phone calls start tomorrow… we have until July 22 to get the count in.
Post # 13
ForeverAndEverAfter: Just wondering how it all shook out? The whole MIA RSVP thing makes me nervous! Did you have to track people down or did more come in?