Weddingbee boards

So our RSVP deadline has come and gone, and we still have nine responses outstanding. I've sent out some reminder emails, which picked up eleven of the 20 that were still MIA on the deadline. (We're doing online RSVPs, so it's literally just a matter of clicking---and we know the people who are left are a) perfectly computer literate and b) definitely checking those email addresses regularly.)

I'm wondering how much energy to put into chasing these last RSVPs down. Four are OOT families, so I think it's a safe assumption that they're not coming (and one we know for sure isn't coming through the family grapevine, so we've already informally noted them as a no). The five local couples are a little iffier---maybe they're still deciding? Who knows?

I can send out a second email reminder that's a little more insistent, or I can hit the phones and start chasing people down individually, or I can just let it go. At what point should I just give up on this and move on to something more productive? We're not doing a plated dinner or formal seating, so it's not a big deal if we get a couple of extra people (though 10 extra people might be an issue for food quantity)---it's mostly just the frustration of not knowing for sure.

Any thoughts on this? Thanks!

Thanks---yes, part of me really wants to know just to mark them off the stupid spreadsheet (which calculates what percent of guests are still "status unknown," and I just really want that to be zero!) But since we don't have the plated dinner or table seating issue, it's hard to prioritize tracking down everyone's numbers to try to get hold of them. Can't call in the moms on this except for one guest, unfortunately, since the rest are people they don't know at all (most family guests happily RSVPed in a nice timely fashion).

So, we'll see....but argh!

Thanks---I like the "I'll assume no if I don't hear from you by xx" option with the calls. I honestly figured the online RSVPs would be so painless for people to say "no" without feeling too bad about it that it wouldn't be an issue. (And we did send out real invitations, too, so not an issue of anything getting lost there!)

It was funny to see how many people had just forgotten about it when I sent the first reminder, though (including several very embarrassed recent brides who thought their husbands had responded, and FI's co-worker, who asked, "Umm, does the fact that I'm getting a reminder email mean I never RSVPed?") And @sarahsd, yep, I was one of those last-minute RSVPers too (although I generally squeak under the deadline by a hair)---and I'm also going to be way more diligent about it in the future now that I know how frustrating it is, so I guess what goes around comes around! ;)