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I received an RSVP that was numbered on the back. It was in pen in very small writing in one of the corners. It was a family friend, so my mom told me that they had an Xcel spreadsheet number and RSVP had the same number. They also worried about what you are...I think its a good idea to elviate your stress! :)
One of the bees blogged about using an invisible pen or something like that. It might be an option if you don't want the number to show. I personally don't care if there is a number visible on the back of the card.
i'm using an invisible pen. it shows up under blacklight. i got it at the container store a few months ago.
i had an excel spreadsheet of the guest list. i printed it out, making sure the numbers were visible. then when it came time to assemble the invitations i wrote the number (in pencil) on the back of the rsvp on the corner, corresponding to their number on the excel spreadsheet. i used a pencil so that it was very light and you can't easily see it from the front, and it ensures there are no pen bleed throughs. however, i am using an ivory colored cardstock, so if you have a dark one, you may have to use a pen. i think as long as it's small and in an inconspicuous spot, it should be fine and hopefully barely noticeable.
I used mail merge so the guests name is printed right on the RSVP, as well it make the guest/ no guest issue perfectly clear...
I used pencil in light writing on the upper right hand side of the back to number and have it corresponding to an excel worksheet. On this worksheet, I also had columns for "Save the date" (if I sent them one), Invitation, RSVP (yes or no and how many if yes), gift (to put what it was), and thank you note (if I have sent one). It has been So very helpful to have all of this information in one place so that I know all of this at one glance.
Good luck!
Pencil on the back, coded to an Excel list.
Want to hear a funny story? I had a friend who sent out her invites (she's the one who advised me to pencil # the back) and got back an RSVP. The M__________________ line was filled in: M_e___________
My mom filled hers in M_om_&_Dad___, but she was just trying to be cute.
We printed adress labels (3 per adress). 1 for the invitation, 1 for the thank you card, 1 for the RSVP envelope. By putting the adress label of the sender on the RSVP envelope and a stamp chances of people responding are very high. So far I was able to verify everyone that has RSVPed by the adress label attached to the outer envelope. No need to use invisble ink. HTP!
I was super paranoid about people bringing uninvited guests, so I filled out every card with their full name (and no extra space for any other name)
On a side note, I got my first RSVP back today and guess what? It wasn't filled out at all! They didn't check either will attend or will not attend and didn't choose an entree. They pretty much just sealed the rsvp envelope and stuck it in the mail without looking at it. What do I do with people like this? Assume they're not coming? :P
I'm putting the names directly on the RSVP card myself when I print them off. I need to do this because we are giving a meal choice and we need to know what each individual person is chosing. Also! This way people can't add extra guests into the RSVP card :)
I'm having the same dilemma.
I plan on the number system like many of the other posters. However, we are playing around with the idea of writing a small number inside the RSVP envelope somewhere where we could see it if we tore the envelope open further after realizing there was no name on the card. But for many that's a little over the top....
I did the same thing that Camille did. On the RSVP envelope, the printer pre-printed my name and address as the "addressee".
I printed each guest's name and address in a nice font on clear labels and stuck them on the back of the RSVP envelopes to serve as the "return" address.
That way, if they forget to fill out the card, the envelope would tell me who it came from.
Fifi...Almost everyone gets a response card back that's blank or not checked! Since you know who the RSVP is from, I'd suggest calling them and thanking them for sending it back so quickly, then confirm the details from there.
FiFi - call them, that's all you can do :-)
As for the response address on the RSVP envelope - I spent HOURS printing on small 4bar envelopes at home, then letting them dry over night (ink jet + stardream = let them dry!) to totally avoid lables! Even clear ones. Also with how small my envelopes are - there's no place to really put it with out crowding the whole thing.
Although I must say the 3 lable per guest is a good idea I never thought of it at all!
I did the number code too with the excel sheet. It came in handy because I couldn't read some of my guests' handwriting!
Wow, I am about to send out my invitations and I never thought of this. Thank you so much for bringing the topic up. I am going to write a number on the back of the RSVP card with a pencil, and match that up to my list.
Thanks everybody
Candi
My family has done the excel spreadsheet number on the back thing before and no one really notices. It works out too in case you're from one of those families where everyone has the same first name. One one person noticed and responded "I'm delighted to be coming. Thanks for writing my age on reverse." (It was a older man who got a nice number in the 40s.) :)
Don't knock your family Sweeney! We got our proofs last night, and Fi looked at the RSVP card (the line that says NAME(S)__________) and asked - I kid you not - "What will people write here?" This man has a master's degree, and is generally a pretty smart guy.
I told him I had thought they would write the name(s) of the people attending, but given his question, now I have my doubts.
That black light thing works like a charm! I ordered mine off of ebay and i'm glad I got it. I just didn't like the visible number. And I didn't want anyone asking "why am I all the way down your list of invites at 253". hehehe
I wish I had heard about the invisble pen idea before.
We JUST sent our invites out, and I have probably had 3/5 people who have said anything about the invites comment on the number they got. Including my own mother!
Folks: I had nothing to do with how much we like you, how soon in planning we decided to invite you, even where you fit in alphabetical order. It was almost entirely random!
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I'm worried that I will get back RSVP's with no last names on them and I won't have any idea who the (bleep) "Sally" is.
I have spaces for them to write in their names, you know the traditional line with the 'M' at the beginning of it - but you know not many people fill out the thing with their full name. And most my family (bless their poor stupid hearts) will probably wonder why there's an 'M' on the line when their name starts with a 'T'....I kid you not!
Are you/did you code yours to know who's they are from? If so, HOW!?
I don't want to put it on the front of the thing, but maybe on the back? numbers? Stickers?
Thanks!!
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