Post # 1
Wedding planning was going great until it came time for our guests to RSVP. I know a lot of people post about this, but I am exasperated.
Our guests have known the date of our wedding for 9-10 months. We sent our formal, letter press invitations and RSVPs (complete with postage stamp) 2 months before the wedding. Guests have had 4 weeks to RSVP.
MOST of our guests have NOT responded. And I am not counting the people in our wedding party who have not responded because “we know they are coming.”
Our RSVP deadline is in two days. I am fuming.
Yesterday, I started to do some follow-up by emailing our peers (friends, co-workers, cousins) to politely inquire if they were planning to attend.
SHOCKINGLY, most people with whom I have followed-up have said yes. As in YES, I am planning to attend but I wasn’t really planning to send you the RSVP. (Although improper, I think would understand a little more if the non-responders were all declining our invitation.)
Even more mind-boggling, however, are the people who I know have checked their email and not responded to my follow-up message. REALLY? You have a smart phone and/or you work at a computer all day and/or you have emailed me about something else … so you have read the email… but not responded? In one case, an OOT guest requested a +1 (which I granted) and booked hotel room but has not RSVP’d or responded to my email.
Welcome to crazy-town.
In order to complete the majority of the remaining tasks before our wedding, we need our final guest list. So frustrating.
Post # 3
Everyone goes through this. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for guests to return a prepaid envelop with a yes or a no, but they just don’t do it. We had to follow up with more than half of our guest list. I would wait until after your RSVP date has passed, then CALL them. Dont’ email them. It’s more personal and when you get ahold of them it will put a little more pressure on them to respond. I’m sorry you’re stressing about this! Just know that you are defintiely not alone!
Post # 4
I feel you. My RSVP date is next week and I don’t even have close to half back. And this includes aunts and uncles who I know are coming. My issue is we both have work friends that we are planning to invite, but with the large amount of family on both sides we need to wait until we have the OOT guests decline before sending those additional reservations out. I also messed up slightly, and didn’t push for my MIL (who helped format the invites) to add a specific line where each guests indicates who specifically wants which meal choice (she wanted to just give them ‘chips’ and have them distribute it to the appropriate person…don’t plan on doing that…) So now I have a bunch of RSVPs with two different choices but don’t know who’s having what. RSVPs can suck it.
Post # 5
Sorry to hear you’re having the same probs as most of us are/did. I hate to say it, but if they’re being bad about the RSVP’s, just wait until you’re really down to the wire. Our wedding is Saturday, last week 5 people called/texted/Facebooked us to say they weren’t coming after all, and today, TODAY, 4 people called us. But at this point I’m at the point where I just don’t care, I’m totally in, “I just can’t wait to be married and who cares about the money we’re basically wasting” mode… at least we get to go on a honeymoon! 🙂
Post # 6
Oh I hear you girl!! We had the same issue, and I’d definitely wait until the day after the deadline to call people. Guests just don’t understand the money that is put into a wedding, honestly. It’s extremely rude and thoughtless, in my opinion.
Be prepared for the last minute “sorry, we can’t make it” or “oh my husband was able to get off work, count us in” within a week of the wedding… it happened to us and is still happening. So infuriating and I’m actually sitting here right now stewing about a guest deciding to bring a +1 without telling us (I read it on facebook last night, how convenient…) Sorry for the rant! I’m sure all of us fellow bees understand your frustration! Hold tight, soon the wedding will be here and none of this stuff will matter 🙂
Post # 7
@Mrs. Halloween: It’s kind of unfair to not give your guests the full deadline you had set out for them. Calling all the negligent RSVPers after the deadline, makes perfect sense and really is just the safest thing to do, but calling before the deadline doesn’t make sense. You gave these people a time and date for when you needed RSVPs by, yet you couldn’t even wait for that date to come before hounding them?
Also, many people wait to RSVP, until they are certain they will be able to make it, some people need to wait to hear back from work, check out their finances and make travel arrangements, so many people will wait until the deadline to respond so they can be certain they will be able to attend.
Post # 8
Yea I don’t get the whole difficulty people have with RSVPs lol. It is incredibly frustrating! I got alot in the 2-3 days after the deadline. Until a couple days after the deadline try not to worry too much and just see what you get. Facebook was a big help, most of the people got back to me immediately once I messaged them. Also, try to delegate a few to other people – have your parents call your aunts and uncles etc. good luck!