(Closed) RSVPs….online or mail?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: RSVPs online or as an insert?
    Online RSVP : (17 votes)
    47 %
    RSVP as insert with invitation : (19 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted for inserts, not because I want to waste paper, but becuase a lot of my family guests are not computer savy…at all… like mt FMIL called us last night because her computer wouldnt "do anything" it needed one simple mouse click. I just dine the paper ones, though more money, more convient when you are planning something that is going to include several generations.  Maybe you can send the online ones to the younger more tech savy ppl and then do paper for the guests who you may question the pc skills of..

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We having both as well-because not all of my family or his family is computer savvy. But I went with the postcard form for the mailing RSVP..

    But I didn’t do a direction insert so some will have to go to our website to pull it up or ask a relative or something because I ran outta budget and really didn’t see the use for it esp since I could see half the family that needed it loses it and calling me anyway…so it just seemed like a waste ๐Ÿ™

    But if you okay with getting a zillion calls from those you aren’t computer capable I would go for it ;). I would be with my crazy work schedule I wouldn’t be able to answer most of them—I would have to have some sort of voicemail with instructions on what to leave ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We had both as well. Believe it or not, a lot of older folks are clueless about the internet. At the bottom of our reply cards was printed “Alternative RSVP and additional information at website url”. Out of 130 responses, 50 were online.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We’re going online for all but 4 of our guests… crossing my fingers on how it goes, but we also sent Save-the-Dates and as it’s a destination wedding, we already know a good percentage of our replies.

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    we’re also going to do online for most – and then for the handful of older people, we are figuring out another way for them to RSVP, probably via phone. I don’t want to waste any more paper!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    I voted for a paper RSVP.  For me, I liked being able to have the reply cards to sort out and use to make my seating chart and stuff.  I found that they helped me with organization.  This sounds dumb, but it was also fun to get mail and to see what people wrote on the reply cards.  Some of our guests wrote really sweet things on the cards and I kept them all. 

    Call me old fashioned, but I liked the old school way. ๐Ÿ™‚  We did update a little and had reply post-cards to save on paper and postage.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We only did online RSVP.  I also included my phone number for those not tech savvy.  No one used the phone number and my RSVP ended yesterday.  I did regret not getting the mail, but I may have been really sad about the nos if I had them right in front of me.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We did only paper, we do not have an RSVP option on our website. I want to have all the cards out in front of me so I don’t forget to make escort cards for anyone!

    Post # 11
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    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My FI is definitely going to make a website with online RSVP.  He is a total techie with techie friends and hates papers, but feels that we should send send paper invites because it’s more formal. We haven’t talked about if we’ll do an insert, too, though.  I was leaning toward saving paper and postage and just do everything online, with an alternate way to RSVP by phone or something.  But after reading pp’s posts, I am thinking maybe we’ll do both.  It makes sense to us to not use inserts because most of the people on our list are computer savvy; the only ones who aren’t are the grandmothers, really.  So, I think it depends on whether your guests are internet savvy or not.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We did inserts, we have way too many not-tech savvy guests to attemp to get them to do anything online!!

    I didn’t anticipate how much fun it would be to get them back in the mail!  We get at least 1-2 per day and I look forward to it on the way home from work!!  Another unexpected benefit is spelling.  I had misspelled some names on the invitations (horrible, I know!) but now I know the correct way to spell it b/c of the RSVPs, this also applies to the +1s, whos names I didn’t even know.  Also, if people choose to call you instead of going online, it would be a pain if they called at bad times (like when you are driving) and you couldn’t take not of who was coming right then.  I think I would forget what they told me if I didn’t write it down right away.

    Obviously, do what is best for you, I just thought I’d let you know of some of the unexpected benefits of paper RSVPs

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I am doing both. We have RSVP inserts going out in the mail, and a link to our website on an information/directions insert with a note that they can RSVP there as well. We have a lot of international/extremely web savvy guests, so we expect more of them to use the online RSVP, but you never know who will be a traditional stickler type (I would!).

    I think online RSVP + phone number available should be fine, though… unless you need a lot of information from your guests that they might forget to leave in a phone message if they don’t reach you in person (e.g., meal selection, names of dates, etc.).

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2000

    I’m very techie and so is the community I interact with. We went with an invite line at the bottom that says, The favor of your online response is requested by September 9…with our website underneath. Some people like it but I think it’s still not as easy for some people as I think it is. I got a few email responses…as in they didn’t feel comfortable using the online rsvp or didn’t understand it. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh well, I thought it was easy.  I got some flack from my mom. 

    For the less tech savvy, we did an envelope and RSVP card for about 5% of our wedding. They responded right away.  It was fun ripping open envelopes, I must say and it wouldn’t have been that much more to spring for rsvp cards/stamps/envelopes. I was just into getting the online responses recorded online in black and white. Plus I wanted everyone to visit our website.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    ours were online. we had a lot of international invites. that made it easier for everyone. we gave our addresses for those who prefered to respond in writing.. most just called if they weren’t doing it by email.

    Post # 16
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    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We did an insert with hotel and shuttle information and a request to please RSVP through our website.  My phone number was also listed right below it.  We don’t have very many computer illiterate guests so the responses have been rolling in and I haven’t gotten a single call yet!  For those who are they’re just letting us know as we see them.  It has worked well for us.  And I really appreciate the fact that it saved on paper and resources. 

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