RSVQ query…"to stamp or not to stamp" that is the question…

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We didn’t bother really. I suppose it’s more polite but a lot of people handed them back to us 🙂 it’d have been a huge waste of stamps lol

Post # 3
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, you should put stamps on them. 

Post # 4
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I still remember which couples sent me an invite with an unstamped RSVP card. Those couples never got an RSVP from me. So rude, please stamp them. The “economic climate” is effecting all of us and you’re the one choosing to have a wedding so you should pay for all aspects of it. 

Post # 5
3653 posts
Sugar bee

We did online RSVPs, for my first daughter to marry, last year. They were wildly successful – only had 1 couple that didn’t RSVP, of 250, and the last one was in 10 days before the due date.  Of course, we accepted RSVPs through Facebook message, texting, phone, seeing people in person. My cousin’s daughter just did card RSVPs and 2 envelopes came back in the mail empty. She called to see if my daughter sent hers – she did 2 weeks before, so we’re assuming it got lost in the mail.

Post # 6
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

yes you should stamp.  YOU are hosting the wedding, not your guests so you and your FI are responsible for absorbing the costs.

The ‘economic climate’ is a bull excuse to not properly do what people should do when hosting a party.  If you can’t afford to host a huge party, then host a small one…but for the love of pete host it properly and don’t pass of costs to your guests.

Stamp them please.

Post # 7
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is one of those things which is very area dependent. Stamps seem to be customary in North America (though I suspect it’s a fairly recent trend, and even the Emily Post Institute doesn’t say they are required), but they’re not required where I am from (Australia) – in 20-30 weddings I have never received a stamped RSVP card.

Hozzelbear:  I see you are in Ireland. You’re better off asking other Irish people what the custom is where you live.

EDIT: Oh I see other weddings in your area haven’t done stamped RSVPs. No need then.

Post # 9
405 posts
Helper bee

I would stamp them.  If I recieve and RSVP that is already stamped, then I will probably drop it off in a mail box the next business day on my way to work.  But if it is not stamped, than I have to find the time to go to the post office and I will probably procrastinate on that. 

Post # 10
3845 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hozzelbear:   Yes, put stamps on them.  

Post # 11
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hozzelbear:  Yes, stamp them. I don’t have stamps in my house typically so if the couple wanted that back in a timely manner it would need to have a stamp on it. :p

Post # 12
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We stamped all of them.. even to co-workers that we plan to hand off at work.

Post # 13
6977 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you want them sent back, I’d stamp them.

Post # 14
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If you want them mailed back, stamp them. If you’re fine with getting verbal rsvps, online rsvps, or getting rsvps handed to you, then don’t stamp and create a way for them to do whichever you like. 

Post # 15
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m not sure what is the norm where you live. I grew up in the US, and I definitely get mad when people don’t put a stamp on the RSVP. If you expect me to send it back, put a stamp on it.

Now, if you’re fine with an online RSVP, you could always include that bit and not put a stamp. Maybe you could just stamp the ones going to less tech-savvy guests.

Of course, if stamps aren’t the norm where you are, then it’s entirely up to you. It will be seen as going above and beyond if you do stamp the cards, which is certainly not a negative. But it won’t be seen poorly if you don’t stamp!

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