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I can only speak for myself, but I generally won't comment unless I feel I have something new to say.
@mrshersch74: Sorry you feel that way. However, starting threads calling everyone "rude" probably isn't the fastest way to make friends I'd imagine.
@snake: understandable, i am the same way. but when its an open thread and everyone is talking around you i just think its rude.
Welcome! Try not to take it personally. I'm a thread killer so I have to remind myself it isn't about me :-)
@mrshersch74: I am so sorry that happened. Sometimes the boards move so fast that it is hard to get comments. We all have threads that no one responds to. If you go back through my history I have a ton. Maybe this thread will be a little help, but try just to chalk it up to a busy week on the boards. But I will say, sometimes posters don't respond to the answers they just read them. Just keep posting and everyone will get to know you, I promise.
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-write-a-successful-post
@mrshersch74: I'm sorry that you feel that way about the bees. We don't do it on purpose. I've been here for almost 2 months and in that time I haven't always gotten replies to my comments. But that doesn't deter me because the Hive is a big place and I'm just one little bee.
But I've gotten to know some people and I don't regret joining the hive. In time you will get to "know" people around here too. 
@mrshersch74: don't go....I think it just takes sometime to get replies. I am very guilty of responding to threads and never looking back to see if there are more comments. I am pretty new on here and think you will like it if you stick around.
@mrshersch74: We all feel like thread killers at one time or another; when I first started posting on here I felt the same way that you are feeling right now. Hang in there, the bees are really lovely ladies and have great advice and support to give. Just give us a chance :)
I also think that there are SO many Bees on here that it's a little harsh to judge the whole site and everyone on it! Keep trying!
@kelmac: hate being a thread killer !
@KatyElle: not calling everyone rude just trying to stand up for people who dont get replys, thats why people are on here, for others support or opinion.
@tksjewelry: &&
@kelmac: thankss !
@KatyElle: *snort*
most of us feel like thread-killers or unloved at some point or another. I know I did, but I just kept posting and eventually people responded.....or I knew not to take it personally if they didn't. Heck, I still kill half the threads I post in.
But yeah, calling everyone rude and writing a flounce post isn't the fast track to fun Bee times.
Hey! Don't leave. WB is an awesome place. Sometimes its just the thread you comment on. When I first joined, even now, I often think I was a thread killer. The threads just seem to die after I posted. Secondly, granted there may be rude people on here just like the real world but I wouldn't let them get to you. As for people "talking around you" maybe they're just excited about the subject and often forget to post or answer your original question.
@mrshersch74: You welcome. The hostesses try to do their best to keep up with new posters, but there are only a few of us and so many new Bees the last few months. If you ever start a thread and you don't really get any response and one of us misses it, you can always PM me a link and I will respond as soon as I get on. I am on during odd times but I will see the PM eventually.
I don't think most people often pay much attention to who specifically made a post (as in, "Oh, it's Mrs. Hersch 74 I don't need to respond to that"). I certainly don't!
Like others have said, I think we all feel like "threadkillers" sometimes. I wouldn't take it personally :)
I understand that people are here for replies and support, but sometimes on a forum this big you just have to keep talking. I'm a pretty active member and some of my threads only get a couple replies. Sometimes it's the time of day, or maybe people didn't feel like they had much to say on the topic. I often PM people if I agreed with them during a conversation and it sparks up getting to "know" people on the boards. Or I might bump the thread, or just directly respond to someone and ask them to elaborate and it creates dialogue. So while I understand your message, your delivery in calling people rude who haven't replied to you is uncalled for. This is a great board with great people if you stick around long enough and contribute.
Also, you've started multiple threads it seems in which people are taking an interest, but you never come back to reply or thank people for their input! That's a total conversation killer if people feel like they're talking to no one because the person who started the thread doesn't follow up with it...
I definitely know how you feel. I often feel ignored or like no one likes my ring/dress/hair. I kill threads all the time and feel totally stupid, or like I"m an idiot and everyone thinks I'm so dumb and uninteresting that they don't want to talk about whatever it is anymore at all. . .
That's just the way it is on a high-traffic social website. But there are lots of sweet ladies around and usually you can get a couple good pieces of advice. Stick around for a bit and don't take it personally. If it's not for you, it's not for you. I went off for a few months because I was sick of it and just popped on with a question now and then. Now I'm back and obsessed again (lol).
@mrshersch74: I've felt that too from time to time. Please stick around... I think it will become a different experience.
It happens but don't let that deter you there are a lot of good bees around.
I'm guilty of killing threads too. I think it depends on what times you post also. There can be busier times than others. When it's a chat, it's easy to get "lost" in the crowd. Don't take it personally. :)
I am totally gulity of not checking back to posts!!!
I also post late at night so alot of times my posts get lost because of the busy/non busyness of the hive.
Weekends are slower on the hive.
During work hours... posts go a mile a min!
@mrshersch74: I feel this way to. Always have.
I posted my pics of me in my dress, and no one commented, I was sad so deleted the pics. More recently I got very excited about the first draft of DIY invites I was working on. Ppl started posting that they looked like a childs birthday party, and were having horrifying visions of them being printed on a home computer. I never said they would be, I had every intention of using a professional printer. So I deleted those pics and felt so disheartened that I haven't touched them since.
I think as with many places in life, there is a click here.
I comment when I can, and don't let it bother me to much. (or try at least).
But I will never post another DIY on here. I have also seen comments on others DIY that are very harsh.
@mrshersch74: I have felt this way from time to time too, but I feel like the more I post, the less 'ignored' I become. Don't take it too bad, though. Try to jump in on one of the chat threads if you see one spring up. They go pretty quickly, but if you just keep responding to the different things people are chatting about, then someone will eventually see yours and reply to you too. I just did that in the last few days for the first time and it really helped me feel like a bigger part of the community. :)
@Firie: I'm sorry you didn't get any positive replies and deleted your pictures! I would have loved to see them. Don't get discouraged.
this thread has shown that people will respond to your comments :) stay :)
I noticed that lots of your posts are very short with no background information and little detail, like the one about your ring, or the tuxes, or being an aunt. If you told us more information or told a story I think you'd get more responses. Also you don't really ask for opinions on things, but just sorta throw stuff out there with no context, so maybe think about that?
This isn't meant to be snarky, just constructive criticism (as I don't like to be called rude)
Don't take it so personally, it's only the internet. I've been known to kill threads myself and I just click on to the next one. There are a lot of great Bees here with great advice if you just take this site for what it is.
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i have been reading on here for awhile now, decided to join and i kinda wish i didnt. everytime- well most of the time i post something no one ever really says anything. or i comment on a thread and no one responds to what i have to say, but will talk to others around me ? am i invisible. just think its rude, i understand some of the girls are good friends, but how can you make friends if people wont talk. just thinkin about leaving...