Post # 1
So last week I posted about my co-worker who was upset because I didn’t have any candy left, and when I said I ate the last 3 she accused me of lying about there only being 3 candies left. <-pls note: I am not sitting at my desk and munching on candy all day. I can buy a bag and it will last a few weeks between myself and co-workers. You know when you reach the end of the day and you need a boost of energy? Thats when I take one piece.
THis same co-worker is now accusing me of lying about how much weight I have lost.
I joined a gym Feb 9th. I have been going 3 times a week. And I only do cardio, now I already know that just doing cardio won’t do much, but I will incorporate the weight training in at some point very soon.
Today she asked what I do at the gym and I told her and she asked “do you feel any different?” and I said yea, my pants fit me better, I’ve lost about 8lbs. And she says “really? 8lbs is a lot, I would notice that” <–this annoyed me. So what are you trying to say exactly? I know what I’ve lost, I know how I feel and look. I feel healthier, and I feel better about how I look. I am getting to my goal.
I will admit, when I am in situations like this, I don’t know how to respond. I just said to her, “well I noticed the difference” and went back to work.
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Daizy914: I love having my own office so that I can hide away from the gossipy bee-yotches at work. I would limit conversation with her since she is obviously not your friend and so many of her interactions with you are negative. If you don’t give her any information she can’t respond with hurtful or accusatory reply.
Post # 3
beachbride1216: i would love to have my own office. i share and office with her and one other woman. and thats what I am going to have to do, just keep it professional-thats it.
I just can’t believe how caddy women can be-it sucks. I would never tell that to someone.
Post # 4
Your coworker sounds like she has some serious insecurity issues and she is projecting a lot of it onto you. With people like that, you have to have strong boundaries in place and make sure you enforce them every single time she goes over the line.
For starters, if she asks how much weight you lost and what you do at the gym, just smile and say “I lost enough” and walk away (me personally, I would’ve said with a smile “Thanks for asking. But it’s really none of your business” and walked away without waiting for her response). Seriously, how much weight you lost is personal information that is nobody’s business but yours. When she made that mean comment to you saying that she doesn’t believe that you lost that much weight, just smile and say “It doesn’t matter what YOU believe. I love how my body’s changing and I feel fabulous.” and WALK. AWAY.
People like her NEED people to become reactive to her words and behavior. Her insecurities make her feel so insiginificant, that people like that usually will provoke/antagonize other people because their reactions give them a reason to cause drama and then put the focus on themselves as the “innocent victim” — which they will then go around and try to rally support from other people.
Your coworker seems really toxic. I would recommend that you just be polite but limit contact with her by making sure you put enough distance between the two of you so that she knows NOTHING about your personal life.
Post # 5
Daizy914: I would honestly just ignore her..she sounds annoying. I’m glad I only work with 2 other females and we all get along. Someone like this I wouldnt even talk with maybe just a hi and bye to be friendly and thats it
Post # 6
She just wants the reaction. The more information you give her, the more she’ll try and pick at you for a reaction. So don’t give her anything. Keep the candy in your desk, when she asks about your workout, just say something like “oh, I just change it up once in a while”. Be polite and smile, but don’t get into details. If she keeps pushing, just say ” I’d love to keep talking, but I’ve got to get this done “and go back to working. Once you’re no longer an interesting target, she’ll move on.
Post # 7
This sounds like junior high.
Post # 8
sorry you’re dealing with that, some people are weird. to play the other side when i was reading it and came to her comment “i would notice that” i interpreted to mean if she lost 8lbs she would notice that on herself. she was saying did you notice? i would. orrr maybe she wasn’t saying it like that. either way i would take her w a grain of salt, realize you’re gonna come across strange ppl like that, and just mimimize my time w her. be polite but short and outclass her.
Post # 9
Daizy914: ew she sounds like a jerk!!! I used to work with someone equally rude and annoying… She made everyone miserable. Finally, in our 5-person office, 3 people quit in the same week and the only two people left were her and the boss hahaha.
I’ll say it if she won’t– congrats on losing 8 pounds! And believe in karma lol.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I would ignore her; it’s a waste of time and energy.
Post # 11
Ignore her and stop talking to her unles u have to. She sounds like a real peach. I wouldn’t give her any more candy.
Post # 12
kellyk1214: i know, its really petty.
FutureMrsT1221: lol thanks! And I agree, she made that comment but yet went out yesterday and had an unhealthy lunch. so yes, karma is going to get her. I love how she can make comments about what I eat but she doesn’t like the taste of her own medicine.
LIke i said, I share an office with her, so I plan to keep it professional and civil. Thats as far is it will go from now on.