Rude comments towards your dress?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
Member
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Nothing in real life, but someone commented on a thread here that the dress I picked is “trashy”. It wasn’t my thread, it was a thread someone posted regarding helping her pick a dress. I commented because one of the options was my dress and of course, I love it and I thought it looked great on her! But someone else commented that it was trashy and I was offended on her behalf and my own. Even if you don’t like something and its not your style, I fail to see how making rude comments to a bride who has already chosen her dress is helpful, kind, or necessary. Keep it to yourself. 

Post # 3
Member
884 posts
Busy bee

I am on dress #3 and decided to not show anyone really since the lack of enthusiasm was bad for my other ones.

My MIL was HORRIBLE shopping. I went to a sample sale with her and bought dress #1 for $99. I bought it since it was so cheap, but she made some awful comments. She wasnt the only one. I ended up selling it since I deeply regreted it, espeically with all the lack of support.

#2 was better. Most people liked it, I think but I got a lot of ‘oh, yeah…thats nice’. I think once a bride buys a dress people should learn to show enthusaism. Like “Oh thats beatufiul! It will look wonderful on your wedding day! even if it looks like a sack of potatoes! My MOH was really disapointed in dress 2. She really wanted me in lace.

I love dress 3 so much I havent even told anyone (parents/fiance/MOH) that I got it .Its a secret dress since I want to avoid critizm and opinions. I will keep this one to myself!  

Post # 4
Member
884 posts
Busy bee

littleanchor:  Thats to0 bad….I know I will say I dont like a dress on someone if they havent bought it, but I didnt think about other bee’s who have the same dress reading it! Good point!

 

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve had some people make comments on my dress because it’s a ball gown, and obviously, not everyone likes ball gowns.

If I don’t like someone’s dress, I just say that’s pretty and leave it at that. I’m really not a fan of pickups but I wouldn’t tell someone that their dress looks cheap.. or like a blanket.

Post # 6
Member
7755 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

To be honest, both those comments are true but they’re not right to say if she’s already bought it and wants to keep it. If she was still considering, sure. But when someone buys something, if you don’t have something nice to say…. Just lie! Haha

Post # 7
msangelfishMember
35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: Patuxent Greens Golf Club

I told my FMIL I bought my dress. She asked what color it was. I said white. She said “really?!?!?” with a look like I was the town harlot. Then she kind of turned her head and changed the subject, talking about how wonderful and amazing her niece’s wedding was last month.

Post # 8
Member
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Firehouse Restaurant

littleanchor:  im not sure if your talking about my thread but someone did call one of the dresses i am considering trashy and yes it hurt my feelings. You could always say its not your style theres no reason to be rude. 

Post # 9
Member
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

elombardo:  Yes, that is what I am referring to! I am wearing the 2nd dress in your poll, so I was offended as well! I mean, I get that it may be a little blingy for some people’s taste, but I just can’t imagine how anyone actually thinks its trashy. It’s not see through, showing a lot of cleavage, etc… Regardless I still love my dress and I think it looks amazing on you, and I think you should pick that one! Not just because I love it, but it looks amazing on you and flatters your figure so well! 

Post # 10
Member
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Mrs.Z.:  There were actually several people on the thread that I am referring to who said they were wearing the same dress, so I just thought it was very thoughtless for someone to make that comment. Generally if you say you don’t like a dress on a thread, people shouldn’t be offended because everyone has different taste. But to bash a dress and call it ugly, trashy, etc, I can imagine people reading that thread who had also chosen that dresss would be offended. I mean, its the internet so I don’t take it too seriously, but sometimes people are just unnecessarily rude.

Post # 11
Member
884 posts
Busy bee

littleanchor:  yeah I agree. There are nice ways to say it’s not your taste. Although now I feel bad bc I said a dress looked like a basket on a thread and I have seen other bee’s in it.I just didn’t think about them reading my comment….oops.

so funny I haven’t actually seem what I would consider a trashy dress……

Post # 12
Member
884 posts
Busy bee

I just looked up your dress…..SO NOT trashy. your dress is beautiful! 

 

Post # 13
Member
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not married yet, but a sweet little old lady guest of my brother’s wedding told me my SIL’s dress reminded her of a saloon girl’s dress. I was soooo glad the wedding was over and SIL did not hear because she actually nailed that description to a T, even though she actually meant it to be a compliment!

ETA: Would anybody else besides me WANT to hear this sort of thing well in advance? If I looked like something you might want to take a nap on, I’d like to know ahead of time, unless it was too late to do anything about it.

Post # 14
Member
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Firehouse Restaurant

littleanchor:  well i went and got that dress today! I cant wait to wear it. Its beautiful. 

Post # 15
Hostess
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

foreverlovex:  I accidentally once said that strapless dresses were overdone in front of a bunch of ladies that all wore strapless dresses to their wedding. 

It was a surprise bridal shower for myself, and we were doing the toilet paper dress game. I was judging the dresses and getting into Simon Cowell like “character”, giving critique to each dress. I was commented on one sad said the strapless dress was overdone, then I immidiately turned red, and I tried to fix it by sayig, how  love the simplicity and structure of it. 

No one said anything, though, it could have gone unnoticed. 

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