Rude dinner guests?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@NotablySidedJP:  Who takes 3 muffins before the host even sits down?  You have some rude-ass friends! 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NotablySidedJP:  I always offer to help clean but I am always turned down by the host and as the host I always turn down offers to help clean as well. I think it is certainly polite to offer to help but I don’t think people necessarily go to a hosted event and expect to help clean up.

ETA: the muffin thing was a bit rude.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t expect people to clean up after a full-on dinner party, since they are my guests so they shouldn’t have to do any work, but I certainly appreciate if they OFFER or at least gather the plates and carry them into the kitchen. Taking all the cornbread though? that’s terrible. I’ve killed a man for less.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Um yeah I am pretty good about making sure I don’t take a lot of food before I KNOW everyone at the table has had a fair shot at it! Wow!

I would usually offer to help, as well. The two who had to leave, the might have had another thing that they really needed to go do so I wouldn’t hold that against them… I would hope that if I was invited somewhere and had to leave right after that my host would be ok with it, since we’re friends and we would have mostly been there to enjoy each other’s company. And of course, I would be understanding if the situation was reversed.

I would be slightly more annoyed by no offer to help and they crashed in your living room to start a DVD without you… that is kind of, ouch.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

It’s rude, but a lot of times when you go to someone’s house for dinner they won’t allow you to help clean up. While I would always make it a point to try, I guess these people don’t think like that. How the heck did the corn bread go so fast?! Must have been delicious.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@NotablySidedJP:  I don’t expect people to help clean up after an event I’m hosting, but my friends and family always offer. My sister will just start cleaning up without asking or being asked because that’s just how she is. I would find it very rude that people came over, ate, and left though. I would also find it rude if people were disgusting gluttons.

Personally, I always feel that dishes can wait. If I’m hosting, I will clear the table and do the basic, but I can clean up fully when people leave. I actually think it’s rude to ignore your guests and start doing dishes. I’ve never had a dish that couldn’t wait but I do enjoy spending time with the people I have invited into my home.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

They should have at least offered, but perhaps they just aren’t used to that.  It seems like those types of manners really come from how you were raised.  Maybe some of them come from families where typically the host does everything and people don’t help, so that’s just what they’re used to.  And the others just sort of went along with the crowd and it slipped their mind to offer?  That’s the best excuse I can come up with.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@NotablySidedJP:  Just saw your update…sounds to me like you are being taken advantage of. I sure wouldn’t be giving people food every single weekend.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NotablySidedJP:  then I do agree with you. We have three friends who eat over fairly often and they help clean every time (sometimes they even clean before I get back into the kitchen!). So in this case I do think it’s rude and it does sound like you are being used. I would probably not be cooking for them again anytime soon!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@NotablySidedJP:  I don’t expect guests to clean after a dinner party. Ever. But it’s certainly rude to eat like it’s your last meal and not leave a serving for the hostess.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have been annoyed too!  That was definitely rude behavior!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I am hosting, I would never expect my guests to clean up. They are guests! It is my responsibility as a host to cook and clean. But the muffin thing was kinda rude. 

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