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    cabanagrl9    May 14, 2011   New York, NY

    I am pretty sure I have seen this thread somewhere, but its been quite some time.  We are having our ceremony and reception in the same place and 100% plan on having transportation AFTER the reception to take people back to the hotel or to where we will have the after party (same general area).  I am torn about paying for transportation TO the ceremony/reception.  My wedding planner told me that people have had their guests take cabs and it always works out, but I feel kind of rude expecting them to find their way around.  Especially the peeps who have never been to NYC.

    What do you guys think???

     
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    NauticalBride2011    August 27, 2011  

    If you're getting married in NYC, I don't see any problem asking people to pay what like $5 to get to the ceremony?  I wouldn't have a problem with that.  If your ceremony/reception is like 45 minutes away from the city, then yeah you should provide transportation.  But in the city?  Cabs are cheap and they know where they're going. 

     
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    sloth    May 14, 2011   Philadelphia, PA

    If you are getting married in a city, it's totally normal to expect guests to take a cab to your reception. What if you were getting married in the suburbs? Your guests would have to find their own way to your wedding, right? Same thing.

    I'm going to a wedding in Brooklyn next week and Mr. S and I will probably take the subway.

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    How far is it from the hotel to the ceremony/reception site?  My guess is that it would not be a $5 cab ride since most of the time, cabs start at $3.  That being said, it will probably not be that expensive.  However, one thing to consider is if people are all leaving from the same place at the same time, it may be difficult for them all to get cabs.  I think it would depend on how many people you are having/how many out of town guests/etc.  We had a hotel in midtown and a venue in the Bronx (though close to the metro north on both ends) and even local people decided to take the bus and appreciated it.  I have to say this though - I don't think it would be rude of you to NOT have a bus on the way there, just a nice gesture, so I think you're fine either way.  Oy, was that even helpful? ;)

     
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    hilsy85    September 2010  

    It's TOTALLY fine! Expected, even. Our guests took cabs to and from our ceremony/reception venue if they didn't want to wait for the trolley (which came as part of the venue--if it hadn't, I wouldn't have provided alternate transportation, so you're already nicer than I was by providing transportation after the wedding!

     
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    nyckitten    May 14, 2011   NYC

    I think in the city people can figure it out.  If any of your guests complain you can always tell them about my guests who have to provide their own transportation to the ceremony, from the ceremony to the reception (there is a time gap so we can't shuttle them straight there), as well as home after the reception (though our venue will call people car services as needed.)  

    I'm fairly sure they will be able to stick out their arms and yell "taxi" (okay, nobody actually yells "taxi" in NYC, but you get the point).    

     
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    Krises       NYC

    While I think its ok, I think you should probably take into account the fact that its a VERY expensive city to stay in, and these people are probably spending a lot to just attend your wedding. I don't think its necessary, but I do think it would be a nice gesture to provide transportation if you can afford it. Also, have you considered how you would feel if guests arrive late because they can't get a taxi? I have been unable to catch cabs countless times in the city, I don't think its that uncommon.  Just my .2. Like I said, I think its totally fine if you do it that way, but I think you should weigh all your options.

     
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    UpstateCait    October 7, 2011   Upstate, NY

    Regardless of where you are getting married, your guests would still have to make arrangements to get to the ceremony site so asking them to take a cab or find an alternative form of transportation is fine. Actually, its something that I would have never even thought about questioning if I were in your situation. 

     
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    JrzyGurl    September 15, 2012   NY, NY

    I think it's fine! If anything with your invite you might want to include a card with directions. Maybe walking directions, subway/bus directions, and then include on the bottom something like "Of course you could always take a cab, it should be a short 5 minute trip in a cab." Everyone will figure out what works for them.

    Where is the wedding? And what hotels are you using?

     
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    I live in NYC and I've been to weddings here and no one has ever offered me a free ride to any ceremony or reception. They've not offered any OOT guests either. NYC is very user friendly I think. The cabs will probably be cheaper to use than to rent a car here. I say go for it. It's not rude to make them take cabs.

     

    Hey Sloth, if I see you on the subway, can I say 'Hi' :)

     
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    doingathing    May 2010  

    I agree that that is totally fine. I got married in a city (Washington) and did not at all consider arranging transportation for people. That's the point of getting married in the city--no need to drive!

     
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    lauren810c    August 21, 2010   NYC

    I got married in the city in August - My guests (who didn't have their cars took cabs) about 20 blocks and the night before to the rehearsal dinner in Little Italy - it was TOTALLY fine.  The only thing I did was get one limo to take 2 trips from church to the hotel after the ceremony for close friends and our elderly relatives.

     
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    cabanagrl9    May 14, 2011   New York, NY

    Well the hotel is on 29th and Lex and the venue is on 31st btw 9th and 10th.  Its hard to explain the location of the place, but there isnt much around and there is a busy cross street intersection.  I will have someone at the hotel "rounding up" the guests and helping them with questions and such, but I still have this nagging feeling that I should just provide transportation.  Its just a pain in the butt bc you usually rent them for multiple hour intervals and we would really only need them for an hour before the wedding and a few hours after the wedding.  Argh!  hahahahaha

     
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    JrzyGurl    September 15, 2012   NY, NY

    I think you're over thinking this. Give every guest a map (just trace google maps!) with a sign for the hotel and a sign for the ceremony. Inform guests that if they'd like to walk it'll be a 20 minute walk. Or, if they'd like to brave the bus system they can walk to 34th St and take the M34 or M16, this will also take about 20 minutes. Or they can take a 5 minute cab ride.

    I really don't think you need to be too concerned about this. If you supply a map with a few options everyone will figure out what works best for them.

    Could you ask an NYC friend to act as the "tour guide" and meet your guests in the lobby and escort them over to the venue? They could turn it into a walking tour maybe?

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    @cabanagrl9: seeing your two locations, I actually don't think you need to provide transportation - that's really very close!

     
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    LizzieDee    August 6, 2011   New York City

    I'm getting married this August and having my guests take cabs to the ceremony/reception. Hotels are in Midtown and the party is at The Boathouse. I think a cab ride will be under $10, which is less than gas and parking for any wedding I've been to out of the city. I'm going to make sure to provide directions and what to say (literally) to the cab in the welcome bags for out of towners.

    I'm with you - trasnportation at the end of the night is thoughtful! Hundreds of intoxicated guests fighting for cabs on 5th Avenue would be a disaster.

     
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    mokara723    July 23, 2011  

    to all of the above posters that didn't provide transportation for general guests - did you provide transportation for your wedding party/family?

     
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    frenchie44    July 21, 2012   Columbus, Ohio

    If you are providing transportation home, then you are doing more than your part. One cab ride is fine!

     
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    bklynbridetobe    December 2011   Brooklyn Born

    No need to provide a cab. Thats way too close to be overly concerned.

     

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