Post # 1
Our reception was ruined after my mum had a go at myself and my partner for our groomsmen not talking to her new husband! She then had a go at my brother then my MIL then the new husband got involved pushed my MIL in a drunken stupor, which escalated and the MOB and new husband were asked to leave..by management or else they would call police! Fortunately myself and the groom did not witness the entire thing only the seperation after the fact. Needless to say I am not on speaking terms with the mother at the moment and she blames it all on anxiety attack after seeing her ex, my dad and claims she doesn’t remember anything except being escorted out!
So my question is how to do word a thank you note? They did purchase my dress and accessories so I would like to say thank you and do the right and acknowledge them for that but I don’t see how I can thank them for the day? Or do i just write something generic? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
Just thank them for the parts you are thankful for.
Post # 4
I think you need to have a discussion w/ your mother about what happened–forget the thank u note for now.
Post # 6
@Natalieh86: + 1… sorry you are having to deal with that dear !
Post # 7
Confine the note to the things for which you are thankful.
Post # 8
Woah! That is CRAZY!
I guess I’d thank them for the dress and avoid saying anything else!
Post # 10
@MrsPHopefully Thank you I have had a discussion with her about what happened, so has my partner. It is upsetting as we had a really good relationship beforehand but was trying to control our whole day to include my dad the least as possible. She suggested my two sons walk me down the aisle instead of dad, then also said why doesnt dad just meet me at the park to walk me down the aisle why does he have to come to the hotel first. She was warned by my brother on mutiple occassions and we honestly thought it would be her husband that would cause a scene not her. I know she is not well mentally..obviously, but it was one day she had to grin and bear it? At my bridal shower all ladies went around said their favourite memory of me and mum instead chose to speak about how her and my MIL got drunk and wet my sons head 4 yrs ago! You can’t tell me a mother has nothing sentimental to say to her daughter at her bridal shower. Also a petty thing but she did not give me any gift on the day? I know the dress was from her but I had always imagined her giving me an old bracelet to wear or something? I had a garter from my dad and step mum and a blue pearl pendant with my date and initials from my MIL, I rang my nan and asked her for something old and borrowed and she gave it to me after the ceremony.
Just a shame she cannot own up to it and has to blame it on anxiety from seeing my dad.
Gotta love divorced families huh
Post # 11
This has gone a bit beyond thank you notes, don’t you think?
Post # 12
Yes I agree, but should I at least thank them for the dress?
Post # 13
If saying thank you doesn’t feel right (I can only imagine how hurt you and your husband must be feeling) instead of thank you for the dress and accessories you could say “I appreciate your generosity in purchasing my wedding dress and accessories.” and maybe how you felt special in such a beautiful dress. At least the cops weren’t called…and as for her blanking out…I am sure the whole day wasn’t a blur and she’s probably really embarrassed!