(Closed) Rude? Not Rude?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Reply– “I’m sorry– it is not going to be a kid friendly event and we are trying to keep it to our closest friends and family because of space limitations. I totally get if that means that you cannot make it, but I hope to see you on Saturday!”

Post # 5
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

we are quite limited on space as it is so two more people is a bit of a difficulty” 

You answered your own question– this is exactly what I would reply with:

we are quite limited on space as it is, so two more people would really be a difficulty. 

As for the kid; it depends on WHY she’s asking to bring him, is it because she can’t find/afford a sitter? If so, it depends on how much you want her there– for some people kids are just part of the package.  

If she tries to argue just tell her the decision was your MIL’s since it’s her house, and you’re really not comfortable stretching the limits. 

Post # 6
14347 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not really rude, at least she asked, but  I think pollywogs response is perfect.

Post # 7
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would leave out the “kid friendly” line. I have seen that line used and end horribly. I would just stick to something wedding etiquette like and say “sorry, it is an adults only birthday celebration. i hope you understand!”

Post # 8
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would just say it is an adult party. She might not get that impression with the theme and leave it at that.

I am so confused as to why she would bring her family members? Maybe they could stay home with her son:)

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just say no. Explain that there will be liquor there and you aren’t inviting children.

Maybe she thought it was child friendly because of the theme? People are so rude.

Post # 11
869 posts
Busy bee

I agree with Pollywog.  Or, if you don’t think your Mother-In-Law would mind, you could always say that you feel like you’re already imposing by using their house/yard, so you don’t think you should invite any more guests.

Post # 14
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s really weird to ask to bring strangers to a friend’s birthday party.


I don’t have any advice I just hope you post pictures!  It sounds like this party is going to be a blast!

Post # 16
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Absolutely rude. Her kid and random family members were not on the invitation, which means that they’re not invited. I guess it’s nice that she asked before just bringing these people along anyway but common sense would indicate that the only those invited are welcome. If she can’t get a sitter and/or is entertaining her family that night, she’s more than welcome to decline the invite.

And I agree with Pollywogs suggested reply.

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