Rude or would it not bother you?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you send an RSVP card without a stamp in the above circumstances?
    Don't do it : (11 votes)
    15 %
    It's just a stamp - send them anyways! : (63 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 2
    1214 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you can buy US stamps online, if you have enough time before mailing.

    Post # 3
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    sariibear:  No one can blame you for not having stamps.  If you happen to know someone going to the States then ask them, otherwise don’t sweat it. FI and I happened to be going down to the States in February so we bought some back in February. Jjust send them, they will understand.

    Post # 4
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wouldn’t worry too much.

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    Post # 5
    179 posts
    Blushing bee

    after reading the actual situation (took poll first) – i have to say no one will be upset if you don’t send them with stamps 😉

    Post # 6
    4638 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    sariibear:  It would bother me. The time and money spent to obtain the stamps was worth it in my opinion, because allowing our American guests to send back their RSVP with ease was a nice touch.

    I too live in Canada, I trekked to a coin/ stamp dealer (Arcade Coins) and bought them. My alternate plan was to enclose 2 USD for them to buy the stamp and not incur the expense.

    Post # 7
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    sariibear:  I was in the same situation as you and can’t for the life of me remember what I did.  I included postage on all of my reply cards (and received replies from my US guests), but I don’t remember having this issue.   Have you spoken to someone in a post office to see what they suggest?

    Post # 8
    5769 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We just put a handwritten note in the invites for our overseas guests to please use our wedding website to send in their RSVP’s. 100% compliance rate!!  I wouldn’t class it as rude to send the RSVP card without postage but I would still be totally annoyed at having to go to the post office to buy postage for it, and I’d probably email you my RSVP.  It’s not the cost of the postage that would bother me; it’s the trip to the post office, which, around here, always sucks.

    Post # 9
    3089 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    As a guest, given the situation, it wouldn’t bother me

    Post # 10
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    sariibear:  I wouldn’t think it was rude in a normal situation, admitted though I’d notice, let alone yours. If I knew the one sending the invitations was in a different country I’d be ok with it 😉


    Post # 12
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    sariibear:  It’s coming back to me slowly.  I believe the person at the post office actually sold me some USPS stamps, and I just stuck them on and sealed up the invites at the post office.  Again, I suggest you just speak with the local post office to see what they suggest. 

    As another poster mentioned, you can also use the international response coupon, but it is a little bit more work because the guest will have to go to the post office to exchange the coupon for a stamp, which just adds a few extra steps, but still shows consideration on your part for the guests.

    Post # 13
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    sariibear:  I am in the US and have lots of Canadians who we invited to our wedding. We left the RSVP envelopes for those out of the US without a stamp because putting a stamp on would have meant they couldn’t use it and they’d have to find their own envelope to RSVP with. 

    Send them stamp-less. I’m sure your guests will understand and buy their own stamp to send their response with (or they’ll RSVP online like most of my out of country guests did)

    Post # 14
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    I live in the US, and had the same issue for RSVP in Europe, Canada and the Carribbean (US no longer sells international stamp coupons).  I think it’s ok.  I followed up with emails apologizing for the situation and letting my guests know that they could just email me a response if it was easier.

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