Post # 1
So I recently became engaged (Yay!) and there are some acquaintances (through mutual friends) who have not yet seen my ring. This weekend, we headed over to a friend’s place to chill and when we first stepped into the house, a friend’s girlfriend screamed across the room, “Let me see your ring.” No congratulations or anything. Is it me or are people sometimes very rude and focus too much on the ring and not the meaning behind the ring?
Post # 3
They exist everywhere, and they are just jealous!
Post # 4
Everybody wants to see the ring, for sure! I don’t think it’s that they aren’t focusing on the meaning of it (maybe in this case?). But i know my friends are very excited about their engagement rings so I make a fuss over it and how excited i am for them and their face lights up. But right after, “omg i’m so excited for you” and squeals and stuff, my friends demanded i give them my left hand. i always happily obliged
But to not congratulate you or say anything, well, awkward.
I’m totally picturing this girl screaming, flying across the room, waving her arms, hair flying, wanting to see your ring though =]
Post # 5
I dont think she was being rude. She was probably just excited for you! I know when I first see someone who got engaged I always want to see their ring too!
Post # 6
I don’t think people think they’re being rude, they’re trying to show excitment. But it was definately a comment or the hand grab that really would make me tense up.
Post # 7
It’s not just you. Tons of people place ridiculous amounts of focus on the ring as though it is what makes you engaged and keeps you together when it is not. Many even go so far as to say that you are not engaged if you don’t have one, which is absolute BS. The commitment between you is what makes the engagement, nothing more, nothing less. The ring is just an outward symbol that doesn’t have a single magical power at all, contrary to popular belief. While some people should mind their own business, they don’t and they don’t care that they are being rude, if they have any clue at all that they are. Either ignore them or have a snappy comeback ready.
Post # 8
I think it depends, if it’s a close friend who doesn’t congratulate you, and is only focused on the ring, that’s rude. But if it’s someone you aren’t really close with, they’re probably just being nosy. Maybe I’m biased because one of my close friends did that to me and I don’t remember getting a congrats so I was a little bitter. As soon as I showed up on her doorstep after getting engaged, she grabbed my hand and seriously started comparing her e-ring to mine. She held her ring up next to mine and was examining them from all angles and I was like umm can I come in?! haha
Post # 9
That really bothered me when I first got engaged too, especially when it came from a certain coworker. There is a lot of emphasis put on that ring, so it’s not personal. It’s probably their way of showing interest.
Post # 10
Congratulations by the way! lol
Post # 11
Thanks for the comments ladies. I think I am being overly-sensitive. But usually when a friend of mine or even a coworker who I am not close with gets engaged, I congratulate them first and then ask for the story behind the engagement. I don’t focus solely on the ring (although I am usually curious) 🙂
Post # 12
I’ve actually gotten, “How many carats is it?”, which I find to be very rude.
Post # 13
Don’t sweat it 🙂
People want to see the ring, it’s a nice piece of jewelry that is associated with engagements. I don’t think anyone thinks it says anything about your relationship or is the most important part of your relatinship/engagement.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t worry about it. She was probably really excited for you, or she would have shown zero interest. She probably just communicated it in an odd way lol
Post # 15
Most people are really rude! My “bff” who got engaged about a year before me but was having a long engagement- her first words to me were ‘when is your wedding date?’ Obviously all she cared about was making sure hers was before mine..