Post # 1
Before the wedding people were all “you’re getting married? Don’t! Ha ha ha” or “you’ll regret it, I know I did.” Now that I’m married it’s all “I’m mad you didn’t invite me (in a humorous tone of voice)” or talking to Darling Husband about mysognistic stuff like the honey-do list. They’ll also ask if we have kids and I say no because we’re waiting for a year or two and they’ll say “don’t have kids, they’ll ruin your life.”
OMG I just really don’t get it. I’d never say ANY of this stuff to someone else, especially someone I don’t know really, really well. One of my dad’s old ex-coworkers told me in a laughing tone of voice that she was mad she didn’t get invited to the wedding. You know that tone of voice, The one where they say one thing pretending they don’t mean it but they really do. Ummm… I’ve met you like 3 times in my life. Our wedding only had 40 people and it was 99% immediate family.
I wish they’d keep their rude, unsolicited advice to themselves.
I know I’m not alone! What’s the rudest thing someone’s said to you about the wedding/marriage/babies/etc…?
Post # 3
I find it rude when people ask if you’re planning on kids (in my case more as I have one 8 yr old) and you say no, and they say “NEVER say NEVER” “I’m sure you’ll change your mind” “Why WOULDN’T you want another?” ” I don’t know, I bet you WILL!!”.
First of all, I’m 31 with an 8 yr old. I think I know whether I want another or not. I also think you should eff right off when I say no, and you continue to badger me infront of a group of people.
Second – I have endometriosis, it took me 11 months to get pregnant starting at 21 yrs old. With my ex who’s new wife has gotten pregnant within a week of trying TWICE. I don’t think it’s him. I’ve had 3 surgeries, and have a retroverted uterus. There’s a really good chance I couldn’t get pregnant even if I wanted to.
I have a friend at work who hears these things, and I know that she’s been trying for over a year and is now starting treatment to try and get pregnant. What if someone said these things to her. What if the reason I didn’t want one is really because I can’t have one? PISS OFF with your comments, just because you don’t mean them to be harmful to someone, doesn’t mean they don’t hurt someone.
Post # 4
I always get the “You’re NINETEEN?! WHY IN GOD’S HOLY NAME ARE YOU ENGAGED RIGHT NOW?!” from customers at work, family members, friends etc. It pisses me off. Especially when they say this and then right afterward say “But I am invited to the wedding, right?”
Obviously if I thought I wasn’t ready, I wouldn’t have accepted the proposal. One reason I’m having a long engagement is because of this. Plus I’ve known my guy for almost seven years now, and we’ve been together for three years. We’re both mature for our ages (not like mid-30’s mature, but we’ve been through a fair amount together and still managed to survive as a unit), and I feel like I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
So people need to shut up! Mini-vent over, lol.
Post # 5
er i got racist crap about marrying a mexican and how im doomed to have an unfaithful husband who possibly beats me. and this was from somone i barely knew
i fumed but then thought eff it, they don’t know us/ My husband is the greatest guy i’ve ever known and i think its pathetic they have these stupid stereotypes
i also dont like being badgered about having babies. i mean seriously, youre asking me essentially whether im having unprotected sex with my husband. not cool.
Post # 6
I am 32 and I have gotten, “oh you are FINALLY getting married” or like my uncle who said “you are getting married at LONG LAST.” Uh sorry but I enjoyed the hell out of my 20’s and my freedom and I am getting married at the exact time that is right for me. (No offense to younger brides, this is just what was right for my life.)
I am pretty sure i dont want kids and I had a lady ask me “then why are you getting married??”