Rude people you've encountered when wedding planning?

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When we went to look for venues some said “are your parents coming?” which I found pretty rude. Yes we were 19 and 21 but I don’t need mommy and daddys approval for my wedding venue. I think they were more concerned about who was paying for it. I guess I look poor too! lol

Post # 5
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I asked my caterer/event manager, “you’ve seen a lot of weddings, do you think getting a photo booth will add a lot to my wedding?” To which he replied, “you’re skimping on the food and shaking me down for discounts, so you can’t afford one.”

Note: this is because I wanted stationary appetizers instead of passed appetizers, because I prefer them. At no point did I ask him for a discount.

Post # 7
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  Yeah, he was awful. One of the best things about the wedding being over is that I never have to see him again. During the wedding, one of the people in my wedding party actually ended up threatening to punch him in the face. 

Post # 8
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@likewoah:  You have to wonder how people like that end up in an industry that requires a lot of interaction with people. 

 

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ImmaBee:  Oh, I thought of another! The person renting out the venue said that a new policy was to require you to hire a security guard. I told him that I wasn’t interested in doing that, and it wasn’t in my contract. He told me not to “cheap out” on security. I somehow managed to hire all of the most unprofessional vendors in the bay area.

Post # 10
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

When I sat down to book our venue the guy I was talking to asked “are you pregnant?” He knows DH’s parents too and asked them the same thing. Ya we were 18 at the time and 19 now, but that does not mean I’m pregnant! He also had a thing for calling our dads and tattling on us when we were working for him (summer camp). We didn’t even do the stuff he said though so it didn’t do him any good!

Post # 11
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1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

One invitation vendor we contacted said they don’t do inner envelopes because they’re expensive and anyone who gets them is just an idiot wasting their money. We didn’t end up doing inner envelopes in the end (it was a compromise, the only letterpress invitations I found that I liked were almost 3 times what we ended up paying on invitations. It was either do the cheaper letterpress without inner envelopes or digital printing with inner envelopes. I chose letterpress). Needless to say we didn’t end up going with that vendor.

Post # 12
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We went to check out a venue at a golf course and I asked the lady if during the ceremony there would be golfers in the background and she laughed and said oh no one golfs that late. Anyone who’s a real golfer obviously knows that you don’t golf in the evening.

Yeah I know that but seeing as it was 4 in the afternoon and I saw a ton of golfers I thought it was a legitimate question to ask. She literally spent 5 minutes with us and because of her we didn’t been consider this venue. 

Post # 13
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1179 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I checked out a golf course, & the lady discouraged us to use the venue for our ceremony. This is the only venue that did this. My one must have was I wanted the ceremony and reception at the same venue.

Post # 14
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since DH didn’t get a ring to “propose” (it was really more a conversation… I want… you want?” sort of thing).

So we ring hunted.  One place the lady was so crazy and pushy I tugged on his sleeve “Can we GO NOW?”.  He laughed.  She was totally ignoring “I want something simple I can wear everyday.”.  She showed us some blingy scary (to me) ring and I literally went “AAah! No.”, it was a gut reaction and she acted like I beat up her favorite puppy.

Another jeweler, we were looking and he was friendly.  We asked a price on a ring just to get a ballpark started and it was over $3k.  I said “I don’t want anything over $3k on my finger!”.  Jeweler said “What woman doesn’t want over $3k on her finger?”.  DH grinned and said “That’s why I’m marrying her.”.

We were given a (pointy stabby scary) ring to do what we wanted with.  It was marquise which I didn’t think I even liked, but found some east/west settings and set about finding someone to recast/reset it.  One jeweler scoffed at me, said “I could make it, but you wouldn’t like it, it would look horrible.”.  Needless to say I left, and for the record, I’ve had the ring over a year now… I can’t imagine anything better.  So ya, he did NOT get our business.  Snarky part of me still wants to go back and go “Remember me and that ring I wouldn’t like?  Love it… to bad you didn’t get the money for making it.  Have a nice day!”

Oh, for fun times… my engagement ring and wedding band appraised at $500 under $3k, so DH teases me, “Oh that’s not $3k on your finger.”.  Lol 🙂

Always someone some where being judgemental… don’t humor them, just thank them and LEAVE!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

@BruinBeeMPH:  I did not have any experience with rude vendors. The most rude people that I have encountered during the whole wedding planning thing has been other brides. In particular in bridal dress stores.

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