(Closed) Rude Registry Remark

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yep I had this b/c i registered at Wiliams-Sonoma. I simply said, “Well, i’m big on my kitchen stuff and I can tell the quality”

I registered for cheap stuff there, like $20 appliances. Not even pots and pans!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

OMG that’s so rude! I would have responded the same way too—although I really would have loved to say, “Then buy something else if you want!” Jeez. I once had a friend who complained (she lived in western Kansas where there isn’t much in terms of shopping other than Wal-mart and JCPenny or Dillard’s) about her cousin’s wedding she was going to. The cousin lived in a big city and registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond for some sheets she wanted. This friend of mine said it was rude she didn’t register at Wal-mart so people who didn’t live near the store could actually buy her something. Um, hello, really?! Heard of online shopping? Heard of a card with mulla?! RUDE.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I never imagined guests would do that.  My FI and I haven’t registered yet, but I don’t want this to happen to me.  If someone thinks something is too expensive, don’t buy it.  Why make a comment?  Sorry you have to go through that.  

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s been gently suggested from a couple different people to remove the KitchenAid Stand Mixer from our registry because of cost, but so far thats the only rude comment(s) we’ve received.

I said that it’s our registry, it is something we want and just because something is expensive doesn’t mean a group can’t go in on the purchase of it making it a cheap gift for everyone!  My cousin had the same thing happen to her, but she left it on there and someone was nice enough to buy it!

It’s your wedding – if you can’t put what you really want on your wedding registry, then when else can you?!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I can’t imagine why someone would make such a rude remark! She can still just buy you whatever she wants to, she doesn’t have to criticize what you chose. It’s not a demand or a shopping list.

I got some towels that were not on my registry. I think the quality is poor, but at least my uncle looked at the colors I registerd for. He didn’t say to me that the registry towels were too expensive, he just bought something else in a similar color. (FWIW, I registered for mid-range Macy’s towels, not that much, but still, cheaper are available.)

Another comment I got was kind of nice to hear, a coworker said, “My husband thinks Crate & Barrel is too expensive, but I really like that store.”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s a gift registry!  You aren’t supposed to be practical!  You are supposed to register for things you wouldn’t splurge on yourself!  Just ignore the comment!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

That’s so rude. I don’t even understand why someone would feel the need to comment on that! It’s your registry, you can put whatever you want on it.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I haven’t recieved a comment…but I think it’s only a matter of time.   I think that I have a nice range of items on our registries – but our Crate and Barrel registry cracks me up.   The 99 cent pan scraper that I registred for is listed right above our $1,500 couch!   Now do I anticipate anyone buying us the couch? Absolutely not!  But since we ran out of small items that we wanted, we thought adding a bigger ticket item that people could purchase gift cards towards would be a great idea.

And once you tell everyone you get 10% off anything left on your registry post wedding…they understand the couch a lot more. 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had a set of $400 calphalon pots and pans, with a bunch of other calphalon addition s (griddles, grill basket, etc) and a Kitchen-Aid mixer, etc.  My neightbors growing up (about 8 fmailies) each chipped in and they bough us the pot and pan set and the other parts that went with it and it cost them just about what they’d have spent on their own anyways.  Dont let anyones opinions sway you or make you second guess…its YOUR registry, and just because you’re asking for a high ticket item doesnt mean you EXPECT them to get it.  Ugh people are so rude…and also keep in mind, people dont know that you get percentages off (10% at Macys etc) after the wedding for anything remaining unpurchased off the registry.  LEt it slide, people have no manners.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I haven’t recieved any comments about the price of things, but knowing some of our guests, I’m sure they think that some of the things are expensive. I look at it this way: We are in our 30’s. The stuff we get now, we want quality stuff that will last. 2nd, our registry is more of a suggestion. You see we need a blender, a toaster and towels. You can also see what colors we have registered for. So if you want to buy something similar that’s not on the registry, fine. At least you have an idea of what we want/need.

We did get comments from our aunts and SIL that we should register for more stuff and more expensive stuff-like the Kitchen Aid mixer. Because either a group will buy or we can get it at a discount later. But we didn’t register for something just to register. We registered for stuff we actually need and will use.

Just smile and say “We registered for gifts in all price ranges. We understand not everyone has the same budget.”

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

haha, too funny! We registered for lots of cheap stuff, but also a few pricey items! don’t these people KNOW that you get a discount on post-registry goodies?! C’mon now, 20% off a $300 mixer that you REALLY REALLY want is $60 off.

If you don’t like what’s on my registry dont’ buy me something! Pshaw.

You could always say, “well, i have fine taste, sorry” haha. Sorry, I LIKE nice kitchen gear. Then I’m not cmplaining about that piece of crap pan and replacing it in 2 years =]….much like my Walmart nonstick pan that has seen its day

Post # 15
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Newbee

Ha! We almost have the opposite problem! We registered for a lot of little/cheaper things because those were the type of things we really needed and we wanted our friends to get — but my MIL insisted we register for more expensive items — a few of my FI’s parent’s friends are coming and they are pretty well off — so here we go $300 stand-mixer (which we do not even have space for!!!!), fine china (ditto!) and $200 suitcases!

Smile 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh yeah – I’ve apparently lost a good friend over the fact that my registry was full of ‘unnecessary’ items – that weren’t all made in America.

I’m still not entirely sure why – I don’t require a gift at all.
As a matter of fact, if everyone sent me a card and a hug, that would make my day.

After all, at 29, I’ve got tons of stuff I need already!

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