(Closed) Rude ring vent

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

People are rude no matter what. I wouldn’t worry about it. Jealousy always brings out the bitchiness is women. I’ve had comments made about my ring and I just let it roll off my shoulders because at the end of the day I am marrying the most amazing man and it doesn’t matter what they think of my ring.

Post # 4
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I agree with JM1217. People always have their rude opinions, unfortunately. Just enjoy your ring, and remember that your finances with your future husband are your business. I would keep them guessing, but if you feel you need to say something, simply tell them your fiancé has a significant savings. That would shut them up real quick. The problem with people like that is their jealousy will not end. The next thing for them to be jealous of will be the savings account. You really can’t win, you know? You shouldn’t have to explain finances to friends, not to mention the fact that your future earnings together will be awesome, so what is wrong with these people? A teacher and a future doctor sounds like a nice income. I think they are jealous of your situation, to be honest. Money is your personal business, and there is no obligation to explain yourself to anybody! Don’t let people bully you. I’ve dealt with that in the past too, and some of those people are no longer my friends. 

Post # 5
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lucyv2003:  My FI started saving money for my ering pretty soon after we started dating too. So even though he was a 1st year law student, he could afford much more ring than I wanted. We’ve been together for 5 years, so even putting away 20 bucks a week adds up over time. I’m sorry your friend was so rude.

Post # 7
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@lucyv2003:  In my opinion, your e-ring should always be a reminder of your “beginning.”

This is my policy too, I can’t imagine changing it cause this is the one he proposed with.

It was rude for your friends to make those comments, they might have been worried about you but they could have phrased it better. I get a hard time from my family for spending money on a wedding instead of a house, but only the couple knows their situation, needs and future plans.

Post # 10
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@lucyv2003:  I had to edit that 3 times, the rest of the reply didn’t show.

 

I like that idea, another bee once wrote that she likes her ring even when it’s small cause it’s a reflection of who they were and what they could afford in this part of their life.

 

PS: He saved for a ring even before meeting you?! that’s a prepared man.

Post # 11
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14305 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think the comment “Ok, so you have this amazing ring to remind you of the beginning of your amazing debt?” itself was necessarily a put down to you.  People who are savers just cant fathom being able to save and having a significant amount of savings.  It’s unfortunate that they are projecting their opinions of money on you, but whatever, this is probably why talking about money is so taboo most the time.  I’d just not even worry about it, you know your situation best, and there’s nothing to prove to anyone.

Post # 13
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Oh, right- I forgot how doctors are sooooo underpaid. 

What a stupid comment. I’m sure your ring is lovely and perfect for the both of you.

Post # 14
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

People can be so rude!  I don’t think that I could ever say something like that to someone even if I was thinking it.  Especially to a friend!  I’m sorry!  But at least you have a pretty ring that will make you smile!  🙂  Congrats on your engagment!

Post # 15
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@lucyv2003:  I would be annoyed too at those types of comments.  It is very rude, I agree.  I feel like sometimes when women get engaged, it brings out bad sides in some other women (maybe they are jealous?)  Try to focus on the positive – your FH loves you and got you the perfect ring! 🙂

Post # 16
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Also, since I have nothing better to do on a Sunday evening in Canada than stalk weddingbee:

Your ring is amazing!

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