Post # 1
Just a quick vent, so no need for nasty comments please…
Ok, so the RSVPs were due last week and I have yet to hear from about 40 people! Annoying that I now have to run after and track these people down – as if I don’t have anything else better to do with my time. Rude people annoy the bageebers out of me and despite my aversion to the idea of now having to follow up on these rude and inconsiderate guests, I bite the bullet and go ahead with the follow ups.
I finally hear from my cousins (two boys and a girl combo) who proceed to tell me that one of their brothers cannot come so a friend will be taking his place. WTF! I sent the invitation to my cousins and NOT their friend! This is not an open invitation to now invite a random stranger just because there’s now “room” for that individual.
So to sum things up, my cousins who had 2 months to get back to me before the due date, don’t even bother to respond in any way shape or form until I gently remind them AND afterwards, have the audacity to tell me that they will be bringing some random stranger as oppose to their actual brother! Who on earth does this? It’s a double slap of rude!
I’m so irritated right now! So of course, I will have to contact them back and nicely tell them that this guest replacement idea is not ok. Good grief, I had no idea people were this bloody stupid!
Have you experienced any messed up situations regarding your RSVPs?
Post # 3
Cut them off! If people didn’t reply to your RSVP then they are not coming so who cares about running after them? Serioulsy they are rude for adding a friend and not RSVPing on time especially on something that’s a formal occasion….so I’d say they are not welcome anymore….remove them from your invite.
Post # 4
arghghhhh I am so dreading stuff like that! Mailing out the invites tomorrow. Man oh man, if someone tries to pull something like that, I am so laying the law down. Tell them they CANNOT do that!!
Post # 5
@Red Dragon: I wish it were that easy but some of these inconsiderate guests are actually family members, such as aunts, uncles and cousins. Boo urns to family politics!
Post # 6
@berkie: Good luck with your RSVPs. Hopefully you’ll have better luck than I did. I’ve been warned by many that it’s the “RSVP return dance” that will not only drive brides crazy but show people’s true colors…I just had no idea people would have the balls to invite random strangers! That one is new to me.
Post # 7
@Mrs. LuvsDisneyland: LOL, sorry, I can’t help but to laugh at your statement _”Good grief, I had no idea people were this bloody stupid!
Post # 8
I think after reading the bee for the last few months, i may have to make an addition to my invitations…
“Anyone who has RSVPed by such and such date will not be on the final guest list. Those who are not on the final guest list may be escorted off the premises if they attend.”
Strict… but fair.
Post # 9
Yup, people suck. We’re still waiting on 56 people to reply, our deadline is Friday. Thankfully so far, we’ve not had anyone try to substitute guests in. And surprisingly so far not one RSVP without a name on it.
Post # 10
I think this is all normal, which sucks, but true. I know before I got married, I was a late RSVP’er too. I think you don’t realize how important it is until it’s you.
Post # 11
We are still waiting on ~75 RSVPs due TOMORROW-it’s email or phone so there is no excuse. The best is my FI’s stupid cousin, whose family is well-known for never RSVP’ing to events – sent me her bridal shower invite (6 days before my wedding) asking for an RSVP, and has yet to do so for my wedding.
Post # 12
About the whole guest subbing thing – I think that sometimes people really don’t realize that that wouldn’t be ok. I remember a wedding I went to years ago, with an ex-boyfriend, where the ex’s brother could not attend, so his mother told him to bring me (it was the wedding of a cousin). We certainly didn’t think we were doing anything wrong, in terms of etiquette, but after immersing myself in my own wedding planning, I realize what a faux pas it was! So, give them the benefit of the doubt that they might not know that guest subbing isn’t cool.