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My boss once said to me, in a condescening way, "I don't kno what you're thinking when you did this! I don't know, maybe you're too distracted because you're getting married."
He convinient forgets that the stuff I have to work with are from his unorganized clients and unorganized self. HMPH!
Bless his pointed little head. All I can say is when you are in severe pain you can get a bit self centered.
So anyway - WOW you are getting married in October! I personally think Fall weddings are super gorgeous. My son's birthday is in October and I love halloween. So congratulation on an October 7th wedding! I think October is a perfect time to get married. My parents were married in October!!!
This should undo all his negative mojo!!!
Run while you can!
Don't do it!
It just ends badly!
Why wouldn't you just want to live together!?
ugh people say the rudest things. My relatives are all happily married, I wish more people put a good spin on marriage because we are just psyched about it!
I had someone do the exact same thing to me at work. Some Eeyore type of a sad sack asked when my wedding was and when I told him December 30th, he told me that was the day he married his third wife. And that they were bitterly divorced. Um, thanks a lot a@&hole! Lol
A friend of a friend belittled me for "making them wear matching dresses" repeatedly. It was so offensive to me that it made me not like her anymore...I can't get over it. But I figure since she didn't know me all that well she must have forgotten that she laid down the same insult every time I bumped into her and trotted it out again.
i was standing outside a bridal shop the other day admiring the dress in the window and a random stranger said ' don't do it duck, it's not worth run while you still can' i just laughed and gave him a silly look, his mate then came back towards me i thought here we go he said' ignore him he's drunk'
at 12 noon oh dear, most people just think it's right. i got the date thing my mum told my aunty that i was getting married an dec 16th and apparently she said tell her don't do it thats the date me and my first husband got married... hmmm and ...actually mum it's the 15th so don't be a day late lol
I had someone tell me they couldnt imagine getting married because they had so much they wanted to accomplish in life before they tied themselves down.
I was like, what makes you think I dont have a ton of goals and things to accomplish? Why would my husband prevent me from reaching them? We already have a huge list of different countries and cities we want to visit together, a good partner helps you achieve your dreams.
I feel like that person must not have realized they were implying people who get married dont do anything interesting after that or have other goals.
Other people say, "Dont do it!" or "live your life first! you are too young!" hello, I am 25 and I dont exactly plan on staying at home barefoot and pregnant now that I am married.
People have some strange ideas about marriage, i.e. marriage = the end of your life/goals/freedom.
How about this for a good spin:
My 94 year old grandfather recently gave a speech regarding the fact that my brother is getting married. He said that he and my grandmother were married for over 60 years before she died. He talked about how much he misses her and what a great marriage it was. He told us that marriage is all about being together and enjoying eachother and that it's a wonderful thing to be getting married.
I hope this helps!
I usually get negative comments about how short my engagement. Ive been told that a long engagement makes you realize whether or not you are doing the right thing.
Ive gotten:
"Are you sure?" <this one always gets me because obviously i am if i said yes!
"You should have dated longer"
"1 in 2 marriages end in divorce"
"You should live together at least a year beforehand"
"Youre seriously getting married??!?!?"
Its silly, Ive started to let it roll off my shoulders. Ive gotten rude comments on everything from the ring, the dress, the budget, etc. At this point, so close to the big day, I could care less!
@Annabelle86: I HATE HATE HATE when people tell me "I would get married now too but I have so much I want to do in my life"
My boss asked me the other day what my name would be after I got married. I told him and his response was, "well that's very vanilla".
Yes, my FI has a very, very common name, but I'm honored to be joining his family. I will carry his name proudly and I do not appreciate comments like that! So rude!
My FI's best friend had a few things to say. I knew he would, he hates the premise of marriage. Once he said his piece he was done though and has been supportive ever since. I had a bit of resistance from my parents but I think it was mainly because I'm their oldest.
Luckily, the rest of our friends and coworkers (including a few recent divorcees) are very supportive.
A (then) boss of mine, upon hearing of my engagement, basically told me to get out while I still can.
I'm not married, but at a friends wedding (immediately after the ceremony, outside saying congrats, etc), I heard an ex-friend of mine say to the couple (sarcastically): "Have a nice life..."
The bride and groom were mortified.
i remember one rude and bizarre comment i got during my engagement from my boss at my internship last year. Funny too that this was the THIRD time i had to tell her i was getting married. Like she had already previously signed off on the vacation time i requested and knew it was for my wedding/honeymoon.
so at this point i thought she knew i was engaged and when she offered me to take pizza home after a teen group we did, i said "no thanks, i am on a wedding diet".
her reply was: "oh you're getting married? ..... my condolences." !!
i was so baffled by her reply that i had to clarify: "Did you mean condolences because i can't take home the pizza or because i am getting married?"
Boss: "Because you are getting married. I always tell people that when they get married. Marriage is not as easy as it seems."
Me: "Ummmm, ok." silently pack my things and go home bewildered.
FYI: she is divorced. of course.
I get told I'm "too young" all the time. Um. Hi. I'm 21, not 12. Thanks though.
when my mum got married (third time) 10 years ago i was sitting next to my nana as they were saying their vows she leaned over to me and said (quite loudly) i wonder howlong this ones going to last. i didn't know what to do with myself it made me laugh so much.in fact most people sitting around us were laughing no one else ould have gotten away with saying it.... bless her ...she was a funny old dear
my mum found it funny too :)
@BrightGreen: yours reminded me of another one. i don't know if it was rude per se, but a good friend told me a few weeks before my wedding that she has decided that she probably does not want to get married ever because she "has seen stuff" and how unhappy some people are. it was something to that effect anyway that she said. i just thought it was an odd thing to say to me right before i got married. i was like "uhhhh, well obviously i don't think so..."
can i toss my husband into the didnt think before he spoke group when a friend got engaged about 2yrs ago
hubby: congratulations - cant stay single and happy all your life
oh another one! not me though. my sister, who got divorced and then remarried to a better guy years later. my uncle said to her "don't get divorced again" !
For me it's our friends that have been married, are now seperated some divorced, they all ask us why we waited so long to get engaged and married. Our answer: "we learned from your mistakes and waited a bit longer to see if it works", stupid ppl.
It's SO expensive to be married. So not worth the extra money. Save a lot by just dating.
Heres a good one
" Shes to small ( Petite ) to get married."
and before being engaged..
" Why havent you found a man yet? " Or women talkig to my mom " When are your girls gonna get married already?"
no pleasing anyone ! hahah
My reply is "I know its devestating that I am off the market, but you will survive"
I have seriously never gotten any comments like these! Where do you all live? Who are these people? Is this real life?
The only rude comments I ever got were about my lack of a traditional engagement ring.
My boss on a weekly basis says the same things...
"What is with people your age and getting married?!??!?!"
Me: Umm were at the age where people decide to get married...
"Well if I could go back I would never get married. So much trouble"
Me:......Ok...
ITS SO AWKWARD!!!!
@PurpleUnicorn: Of course. Her lonely and sad butt can take the pizza and shove it. Geesh.
a non married foot im mouth moment before i met my husband i was going through my 20's i am super indepedant woman that was enjoying single life and one of my moms friends said "you dont need to get married - as long as you have your mom you will be happy"
i couldnt decide if i should throw myself under a bus or slit my wrists at the thought
Right after I told everyone we were getting married! My FI leaves to use the bathroom after we answer everyones questions, then...
"Why are you doing this? Don't get married... save that money and take a nice vacation, it's not worth it anyway. When your going through your divorce don't come talking to me about it. I already had a divorce." - My mom.
Thanks for being supportive mother. >=/
8 months later she decides to buy us our wedding cake... so confusing.
Oh and 1 that was directed to my FI...
"Ready to take the plunge?... Give up your life?... That must be a tough choice to have to make" - FI's friend
"Well when you find the right one it's the easiest choice you'll ever have to make" -FI... *bonus points were given for how cute his response was/ and I wasn't even around tehe.
Most of these don't sound rude to me, just a little misguided. I've had the whole "giving up your life", "you're too young" kind of resopnses but I just laugh. I'm sure I've said things that have ticked people off about marriage (esp about how vocal I am about keeping my own name haha) but it's never intended to be hurtful. I think most people just blurt out the first thing that pops into their head and they don't even realise some people might think it was rude. It's harmless most of the time.
I haven't gotten comments like this really, but FI has! He says most men tell him not to do it, which is weird because most of them are still married!
I told my new coworkers how I met my FI (online), and a few of them said, "Wait, have you two even met in person yet and you are getting married??!!!" Of course we have!!! Multiple times! Grrrrr.
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I ran into a co-worker the other day, who did not know I was getting married. He saw my ring and this is how the conversation went:
co-worker: "Oh wow, are you getting married?"
Me: "Yes, I am"
co-worker: "Huh, my wife and I just split up!" he said with exclaimation
Me: "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that."
co-worker: "when is the wedding?"
Me: "October 7"
co-worker: "Wow, that's a bad time to get married, isn't it?"
Me: "not for us"
co-worker: "well, I got married October 6"
I then politely excused myself.
I felt sorry for him, but sheesh! What idiotic things have people said to you?