Post # 1
Since I’ve been engaged, I’ve not had anything rude said to me until today. I was leaving my kid cousins graduation party with my lovely FI and as I am walking out, one of my aunts sister in laws says, “oh congratulations you two! Better late than never!” Um WHAT? I’m 26 and he’s 28! We got engaged last year when I was 25 and he was still 26. lol what she said wasn’t horrible but kind of rude. We had a good laugh about it in the car because we thought we were somewhat young but guess to some we are old!
What are some of the things people said to you and your SO that made you go, “wtf”?
Post # 3
You look to young to be getting married…..
Im 25 and will be 26 when we tie the knot.
This was from a complete stranger when I was talking to another lady about my wedding in a gondola during skiing… Literally wasn’t talking to this person when he came out with that.
Post # 4
26 has been the average age of a groom for about 150 years.
Post # 5
@CestTresJolie14: I was engaged at 18, and have had a trillion you’re too young comments, are you pregnant comments etc.
But the other day was probably the worst. Our friends are engaged and they are getting married before us. I asked him if his invitations were coming out soon, and he says to me “why are you trying to copy us?” and i’m like “yes, clearly”.
They have been incredibly competitive and making rude comments from the moment we got engaged. And when they got engaged (about a 18 months after us) the ridiculous competitiveness has continued!
I am seriously wanting to punch them both in the face, or boycott their wedding alltogether.
Post # 6
One of the customers at my old work told me I was far too young to be getting married, then asked my age. When I told her I would be 24 on the day of the wedding she told me I looked like I was 17.
Post # 7
i’ve gotten “don’t do it!” before.
i mostly get rude comments about my ring, like “it’s so small” or “he could have done better” or “is that a promise ring? it doesn’t look like an engagement ring” or my personal favorite- “i’d never say yes to a ring that small and tacky.”
Post # 8
There was this creepy old man that was obbsessed with my husband, then fiance, at our workplace, and I remember there was one night when I really didn’t want to deal with this customer because my fiance and I had had a tift earlier in the night. I don’t remember the exact conversation, but I told the man that I was not going to call my fiance for him (who was at home on his day off), because I didn’t want to speak to him. The creepy old man replied to me: “Well, what do you expect when you date a teenager?”
Oh boy how I wanted to just reach across the counter and smack that old man. Of all the nasty comments that I thought in my head, I just shrugged at him and walked away. To clarify, my husband was 19 at the time, but still. That old man did not know me on a personal level or my relationship with my fiance to be saying things like that.
Post # 9
As the wedding day has gotten closer, I’ve heard several people ask “are you getting cold feet yet?” and one lady commented to my fiance “it’s not too late to run”. Her comment had nothing to do with US specifically, but I think more so because she had a horrible experience in her marriage. Still! Why are people so inclined to think that either one of us is going to have second thoughts?? Rude!
Post # 10
@skipanther: Maybe he meant it as a compliment? Kind of rude to butt in like that, though and say it!
@Duncan: Well apparently to her we are way behind in the game! Neither of us have been in the financial position to leave the nest, if you will, and get married. I went back to college when I was 22 and started at square 1 to get my BA and teaching credentials so I am behind in those regards. But sheesh, I thought finishing school was the more secure thing to do!
@ms-valentine: Wow wtf? What rude people! Why on earth would that even be the first thing to say when you asked! They sound crazy! I would reevaluate my friendship if anyone ever said that to me. Oh and congratulations!
@TorontoBride2be: LOL she must have felt like such an idiot! When I was 21, I was at a hair salon with my mom and told an older lady that my mom was my best friend and she said, “Your mom should be your mom, not your friend.” and I nicely told her that her statement was true when I was a teenager but seeing as how I was 21 and old enough to make my own adult choices, she’s my friend now and doesn’t talk to me like a child. She then proceeded to tell me that she thought I was 14. At least we age well haha.
@colorofmyheart: I feel like that has to be one of the worst comments anyone can make. If he did his best and he is dedicated to you, then why make such hurtful comments? Next time someone calls your ring tacky, tell them that they are the only tacky thing standing in close proximity to you and that your ring has more class than they ever will.
@Twyla_Smith: While it’s true that 19 year old men are idiots, they are still idiots at 29, 39, 49, and so on haha. I’m only half serious, btw. Why did he want to talk to your husband? That’s kind of a weird request from a customer, unless I am missing something in this story.
@SkyChick: lol yeah those comments are so stupid. Some people might have had bad experiences in marriages, but that’s probably because they married a crummy person. Doesn’t mean we are all going to have the same experience. She must have not thought was she said through.
Post # 11
@CestTresJolie14: No, it was deff a negative comment. I would understand if he had an upbeat body language but it certainly was not.
Post # 12
@skipanther: Oh ew. Then he just sucks. Some people are just not very smart. If he has a brain he would know that a lasting marriage is based on lots more than looking too young. Since when is that an issue or a bad thing?! lol some people I tell ya!
Post # 13
@CestTresJolie14: Oh, this customer wanted to talk to my husband about anything and everything. On this particular night he wanted my husband to check his e-mail for him, which isn’t that big of a deal, had my husband not showed him multiple times and written down the instructions for him. But he wanted my husband to go to his hotel room to help him out.
Post # 14
The son of a family friend (15) said to me, “Don’t do it! It’s too much pressure!” It was dumb, but it was actually kind of funny that he thought that would change my mind. Idk where he was coming from with that. Any other rude comments have just been people tearing apart my plans in favor of whatever they think I should do.
Post # 15
Oh I got “marriage will ruin your life”, “it’s not too late to back out” “what’s the point of getting married if you’re not having kids?” miscellanious comments about the ring, etc etc. Yes, people are rude as f***.
Post # 16
Whenever I bring up any detail about the wedding my sister chimes in and says “Don’t worry about that, you won’t make it to the wedding…he’s going to leave you.”
Every. single. time. She is so bitter.