Post # 1
My DH’s friend just posted a status on Facebook saying people only have 12 more days to send in their RSVPs for his wedding and then tagged a bunch of people who haven’t returned them yet.
I think that’s a little rude when you could just send someone a private message or text them.
What do you think Bees?
Post # 3
desperate times call for desperate measures?
Post # 4
I kept all wedding chat off of facebook because not everyone on facebook was invited. It doesn’t seem like a classy move to me, but that’s just my opinion 😉
Post # 5
@DaneLady: It’s funny you’d say that because someone commented and said “it’s hard to send in an RSVP when you weren’t invited” Awkward!
Post # 6
It’s a little tactless but maybe he’s tried calling/texting with no response so he’s hoping this will get their attention?
Post # 7
a phone call, email, text message, or private message on FB should have been done instead of a status post.
Post # 8
I just saw this on my Facebook too! I found it weird because the RSVP date hadn’t passed and I don’t think you should contact people until they are actually due.
Beyond that I didn’t feel badly that I was invited. If it’s past the due date maybe this was the only way to do it. However, they probably should have just sent a personal message.
Also, I see in your case they weren’t due yet. So I think it’s rude to call them out but only because they aren’t overdue yet (not necessarily because it is on Facebook).
Post # 9
@MrsBeck: That’s a great point that I didn’t even consider.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@LedeLady: A PM to those guests would have been way more appropriate.
Post # 11
@LedeLady: That is so rude, any asking of RSVPs on facebook in a manor of chasing them down publicly is rude. We waited things out, and a few days after the date I politely asked them individually to see if they were able to join us for our wedding.
Post # 12
yes. That was not the best move.
It wasn’t horrible either, but it wasn’t smooth. Now RSVP already!
Post # 13
Ewww… that was pretty tacky of her. Maybe sending people individual FB private messages after the due date has passed would be okay, but calling them out like that is not.
Post # 14
@LedeLady: totally inappropriate. not only are you centering people out for not rsvp’ing, you are announcing to some fb friends that you aren’t even good enough for an invite.
a pm message would have been better.
Post # 15
1. LOL well that took some balls
2. it’s a little rude but i get the frustration. been there, friend.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
yeah I will definitely not be doing that, no matter how frustrated I am… first and foremost, I sort of think you shouldn’t be calling people out to RSVP until the actual date has passed. I made sure that I gave myself a buffer time from the date until when I really truly need to know for that reason!
Also, public fb is not my style for the wedding, for the exact reason that not everyone on fb is invited and while some would just scroll past it, some might be offended. I would call, email, text, and private message people for that one.