Rude to call someone out on FB for RSVP?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

desperate times call for desperate measures?

Post # 4
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I kept all wedding chat off of facebook because not everyone on facebook was invited.  It doesn’t seem like a classy move to me, but that’s just my opinion 😉

Post # 6
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s a little tactless but maybe he’s tried calling/texting with no response so he’s hoping this will get their attention?

Post # 7
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

a phone call, email, text message, or private message on FB should have been done instead of a status post.

Post # 8
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I just saw this on my Facebook too! I found it weird because the RSVP date hadn’t passed and I don’t think you should contact people until they are actually due.

Beyond that I didn’t feel badly that I was invited. If it’s past the due date maybe this was the only way to do it. However, they probably should have just sent a personal message.

Also, I see in your case they weren’t due yet. So I think it’s rude to call them out but only because they aren’t overdue yet (not necessarily because it is on Facebook).

Post # 10
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@LedeLady:  A PM to those guests would have been way more appropriate.

Post # 11
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LedeLady:  That is so rude, any asking of RSVPs on facebook in a manor of chasing them down publicly is rude. We waited things out, and a few days after the date I politely asked them individually to see if they were able to join us for our wedding. 

Post # 12
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

yes. That was not the best move.

It wasn’t horrible either, but it wasn’t smooth. Now RSVP already!

Post # 13
3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ewww… that was pretty tacky of her.  Maybe sending people individual FB private messages after the due date has passed would be okay, but calling them out like that is not.


Post # 14
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LedeLady:  totally inappropriate.  not only are you centering people out for not rsvp’ing, you are announcing to some fb friends that you aren’t even good enough for an invite.

a pm message would have been better. 

Post # 15
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


1. LOL well that took some balls

2. it’s a little rude but i get the frustration. been there, friend.

Post # 16
2372 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

yeah I will definitely not be doing that, no matter how frustrated I am… first and foremost, I sort of think you shouldn’t be calling people out to RSVP until the actual date has passed. I made sure that I gave myself a buffer time from the date until when I really truly need to know for that reason!

Also, public fb is not my style for the wedding, for the exact reason that not everyone on fb is invited and while some would just scroll past it, some might be offended. I would call, email, text, and private message people for that one.

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