Post # 1
So Fiance and I are going to FI’s friends’ wedding shortly. We were hanging out with some of FI’s other friends who are also invited to the wedding and one of them informed me that it would be rude of me to wear my e-ring to the wedding since Fiance and I are ‘only engaged’ and we’re not married yet. She went on to say that since my e-ring has a significantly larger stone (1 carat vs 0.2 carat for the bride to be) it would be especially rude since I would be ‘stealing her thunder’ and that it would be ‘wrong to flaunt a ring that is obviously more expensive.’
I can see if Fiance and I just got engaged and no one we know who will be at the wedding had seen the ring yet, that it might be best to not wear my ring (I probably would though, just because I hate taking it off, but I’d try to hide it as much as possible). But Fiance and I have been engaged for several months and everyone we know who is going to the wedding has seen my ring, so it’s not like anyone would be asking to see it. And I would never for the life of me try to show off my ring, regardless of if the bride’s ring was 1/10th smaller or 10 times bigger. THAT would be rude.
I’ve never heard this before though, so I figured I’d ask you bees since you’re all so smart and proper. Is it considered rude to wear your e-ring to a wedding when you’re not married yet?
Post # 3
your e-ring is the symbol of being engaged, you don’t have to be married to wear your e-ring! it is not rude at all!
Post # 4
No, it’s not. You’re fine.
Post # 5
Never heard of such a thing.
Post # 6
I don’t understand what the problem is, honestly. At least in the US I don’t think an e-ring signifies you’re married, it signifies you’re engaged. Which you are. It would be a little odd to wear your wedding band either alone or with the e-ring to the wedding (or anywhere) if you’re not married, but I wouldn’t call it rude. Just unusual. But to be upset that someone’s wearing an e-ring because they’re engaged? No, that’s fine. Attending a wedding has nothing to do with it.
Post # 7
Huh? Of course you can wear your engagement ring, you’re engaged.
Post # 8
*blink blink* I am so confused as to why someone would tell you that. From the moment I got engaged I have worn my ring every single day. I have no idea why I would take it off if I’m going to an event, wedding, regardless.
Post # 9
I’ve never heard this before and I can’t imagine this being rude at all. I think it would be rude to your SO if you didn’t wear it. But I’m no etiquette expert so I could be wrong. Hope other bees have an answer for you.
Post # 10
Lol, your friend is dillusional !!
There is no such Rule of Etiquette (and I am a certifed Etiquette Snob)
And trust me, your wearing an E-Ring will not detract from any of the spotlight that will be on the Bride & Groom (Marriage out-trumps Engagement every time… especially when the marriage is the reason everyone is in the same room to begin with)
Really, I have no idea where people get these wacky ideas (read here awhile ago on WBee that a Bride had asked her Bridesmaids not to wear their Wedding Rings… ) NUTS quite frankly !!
Bridezilla-ism is waaay out of hand !!
Post # 11
I wonder if the bride voiced the “stealing thunder” concern to this friend, and they told you it was rude to help her out. It’s totally not true. It’s your status, not a brag. Wear the ring.
Post # 12
That’s crazy. Why would anyone think that???
Post # 13
Might I add, people really shouldn’t keep track of how big everyone else’s rings are. For that to be an etiquette fact, every engaged wedding guest would be expected to know how big the bride’s diamond is, and compare their own.
Post # 14
I don’t even see what “rude” has to do with it? You are engaged, it’s engagement ring…. if people are married, they will wear their wedding rings to the wedding…. so you wear your ring too. Maybe a little bridezilla jealousy here…. LOL
Post # 15
Sorry, but whoever told you that is an idiot. Flaunt your ring girl.
Post # 16
Thank you everyone for replying so quickly!!! I had never heard this before either, and it sounded sooo stupid to me. I swear I probably looked at this woman like she had grown a second head or something like that when she said this! She literally went on and on for a good few minutes about how bad it would be for me to wear my ring to the wedding! I know it would be rude to try to show my ring off, and I would never do that, and will only show it to someone if they ask to see it.