(Closed) Rudeness at my bridal shower (Sorry-Long!)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This might sound catty, but to bad it wasnt in a bigger place, because I would have moved everyone into another room and told them we couldnt hear with all the chatting. But they were rude. At get togethers sometimes people get caught up in the talking and their own lives. At my highschool grad everyone just kept talking to my older sister who just went to thailand. It definitly hurt my feelings so I know what its like! If in a few weeks it still bothers you, give them a call. But the issue with this is that they could take it seriously and not agree what they did was wrong. So as much as it sucks, I would let it go, and enjoy your wedding coming up!

Post # 5
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know how you feel, I agree that its probably smart not to try to stir up drama before the wedding. If they are self-absorbed its not like anything you say will have a postitive impact. 

My Future Mother-In-Law came up for my shower and I learned that she is also fairly self-centered. Its a hard switch because when we go to visit her, its always about her, but when she comes up for my family’s/ friend shower you would think that she would put the focus on me, and for the whole weekend that was not the case. 

Throughout the day of my shower my Future Mother-In-Law made a point of constantly trying to get my attention when I was conversing with other people, and numerous times had outbursts that detracted from my day. I’m normally cool as a cucumber not being the center of attention, so it was really hurtful that she tried to take away from my day. 

Now I’m really nervous about the shower she is hosting for her family, that I’m either going to get ignored or get 20 questions instead of a normal shower. It’s very difficult because you want to be happy and grateful and not everyone will be bad, and in normal circumstances they are good people. 

Post # 7
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@cmvmph:  Christina – that really really sucks.  I’m so sorry that you are dealing with annoying family members.  And I’m sorry that it hurt your mom, which in turn hurt you. 🙁  

I don’t have an identical situation to yours, but similar in that I basically have no support from my family.  Even though my relatives (grandmas, aunts, cousins) came to my sister’s wedding shower last year, so far they have all RSVP’d “no” to mine.  My grandmas told my mom they didn’t want to drive (4 hour drive) which is understandable since they are elderly, but then my immediately family (mom) was complaining to me about having to give my grandmas rides so they could attend the shower.  My mom, dad and sister have never once asked me how the wedding planning is going.  They show no interest basically.  

One thing that has helped me that will hopefully help you is simply to focus on the positive.  Focus on your FH who loves you, focus on your friends who are there for you and your mother and father who really care about you.  You can’t control what other people will do, unfortunately.  I would not remove the little boy from your wedding party as that might only create more drama.  Plus he is just a little kid and he won’t understand and may even think he’s being punished for something.  Ignore the annoying relatives and focus on the positive, and when your wedding day is over with, distance yourself from those annoying people in your life!

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