Post # 1
The other day, I went to Fedex to ship my ring back to MCo to have a repair done, and the Fedex guy was just…so rude. Told me (before I could tell him what it was) that my husband bought me a “cheap fake CZ” and he “knew diamonds because he once bought his gf a 1/4 ct diamond earring, just one”, took out a magnifying glass from his pocket to examine it (I swear to God), and then, when I explained what moissanite is, and that I know what it is because I designed and paid for it jointly, told me my husband must not love me to allow me to pay for it.
I know I was in sweatpants and flip-flops (I was gardening and had to run to Lowe’s, thought I’d finally just drop it off), and I’m young, but seriously, NONE of that justifies rudeness or poor customer service.
Needless to say, I was foaming at the mouth.
So this got me to thinking – what’s the rudest thing anyone has ever said about your engagement/wedding ring, and who said it? This was my first encounter with rude – I want to hear others!
Post # 2
dude, your post is SO timely for me! i have a huge lab created emerald ring that my fiancee and i designed together. for the most part people absolutely love it, but yesterday i had the following exchange with a coworker:
she – “that’s awfully light for an emerald”
me: “oh, it’s lab created…that’s what i wanted. i think the color is gorgeous!”
me: “well, i felt more comfortable getting something lab created…it’s eco friendly and i know where the money is going”
she: “you assume the people in the lab were doing things responsibly?”
me: “yes, i researched the lab and recommended it to him”
she “oh you’re one of those. does he know what he’s getting into?”
me: “uh…yes, he does”
she: “well, i assume you’re vegetarian”
me: “acutally, yes, i am”
i almost hit her…i literally had to turn on my heels and walk away from her at that point. it was SO incredibly rude. she is from a different culture, so that may have been part of it, but SERIOUSLY. UGH!!
Post # 3
My old engagement ring, I had the typical ”its too much ring” etc but I was at a ”friends” house and her toddler couldnt stop trying to grab my ring, of course because its all shiney, and she says to her son out loud in baby talk voice ”Oh you just love nessas ring dont you… mommy wont ever have a ring like that, mommy doesnt like rings that big and look fake”. I bit my tongue and cut the visit short and I havent seen her since.
Post # 4
MrsPPP: “I like that it’s small.” By a good friend’s now-ex gf. Umm, I don’t think my ring is small, thank you very much!
Post # 5
Of the 3 years I have been wearing my ring, no one has said anything other than “pretty ring”.. and my sister told me once I needed to clean it.
I find conversations centered around engagement rings pretty few and far between.
Post # 6
My old MCo ring was a 1.5ct rb. I was wearing it at work one day when a friend of the owner came in to purchase items. As I was cashing her out she asked if it was my engagement ring to which I replied yes.
As she was leaving she tells me “You have a rock like that on your finger but you’re working in a place like this?!”
I just smiled and said “Well I have to keep myself occupied somehow don’t I?”
Post # 7
My friend got engaged last year and was showing off her ring. Another friend took a look at the ring and said, “I would never get a ring that big. It’s not my style. Thank God I don’t have to have a ring like that.” This year, I got engaged and the same friend didn’t say congratulations to me even when I told her in person. 🙁
Post # 8
“Is it real?” Unfortunately I get this a lot and it is highly annoying because it shouldn’t matter. My hubby did well, what can I say?
Post # 9
I have a CZ engagement ring and haven’t heard any negative statements about it (to my face, at least). I did, however, hear a rude statement when FI and I shopped for wedding bands the other week. I really wanted a plain metal band because my 3-stone setting is already pretty blingy, and I would like the option of having something plain for days I don’t want to wear my e-ring. The salesperson was super nice and I decided on a plain flat palladium band within 5 minutes. Another customer near us told me that I was “settling” for plain metal and not looking hard enough for a blingy band. She then turned condescending and acted like we couldn’t afford anything “nicer” than plain bands. I told her that I’ll buy what I want.
Post # 10
ladyhavoc: Bahahah! I’m a steak eater who won’t buy conflict jewelry! I’m even a…gasp….LIBERTARIAN!
Lord knows you must be one of those tree huggers if you care about the world around you!!
Post # 11
Mrs_Amanda: I don’t, because I’m one of those jewelry people who loves to compliment other people’s rings. I also visit one of my clients, who is a jeweler, pretty frequently, just to talk jewelry. Maybe that’s just me, though.
Post # 12
bleusteel: I didn’t mean to imply there is anything wrong with CZ – there isn’t – I just ordered a 14K rose gold and CZ curved ring from TwoBirch (Mama LOVES jewelry, and I’d rather the metal than the diamonds). I just cannot believe the audacity of some people.
To explain, I took my ring box out, explained that I was using my business account to pay for the shipping, I just needed a good box and some stuffing to pack, and he asked to see it.
Post # 13
I once had someone tell me that because my diamond is dainty it doesn’t count as ‘being engaged’, that it is just a promise ring and I should not say I’m engaged (even though I’m actively planning my wedding BECAUSE my boyfriend did propose to me) until I get a proper ring and not a ‘promise ring’. I happen to be very proud of the ring my FI chose for me and proposed with! You can’t let the bitter-hearts get you down though! 😉
Post # 14
MrsPPP: Oh no I didn’t mean that at all. I’m sorry. I was just saying that I really like my CZ and I’m surprised that I’ve gone almost 2 years without hearing any crap about it IRL. They tend to be the targets of a lot of ring snark.
Post # 15
The rudest wasn’t what someone said, it’s what they didn’t say. Last summer, my cousins wanted to see my ring so I showed them. They both looked and neither complimented it. Neither even said anything. It made me feel like crap. Now a couple of weeks ago I saw them again and once again, they asked to see it. Well, this time they commented on how large it was. I think they had a touch of envy last year which doesn’t make me feel great but they could have said they liked it. Heck, I was polite when I looked at their rings. They were not my style but I was still complimentary.