(Closed) Rules for Rehersal Dinner Attire?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What you where is up to you. It can be any color and any style. The location of the rehearsal will dictate how fancy it is.

How about changing just once? Setting up attire you want to be comfortable and noce nice so just change into a nice dress or pants and top for dinner, then throw on some fun jewelry for the hen night.

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Wear whatever you want! This was my dress- orange was one of our wedding colors.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@alishaloo:  I got it from Modcloth.com- lots of *really* cute dresses there.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been to RD’s where the bride was wearing jeans, formal dresses, and a tight short black cocktail dress! You can wear whatever you want, I don’t think there are any rules.

On another note three hours of practice?!?!?! Dang girl you will be ready, ours was only 1/2 hour!!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t wear white. Wear whatever you want!

Your rehearsal is 3 hours?? Yikes!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

The thing that troubles me most about modern weddings, is the mythos that has somehow built up, that special rules and special privileges exist for wedding-related events, completely out of alignment with the norms of everyday good manners. It’s a myth that leaves brides fretting in uncertainty, all their normal confidence undermined; and at the same time lures them into impositions on their friends and family that their normal good sense would never allow. And on top of those two humane concerns for people’s feelings and well-being, the myth results in the most apalling mismatch of formality and casual nonchalance. Neither of those are bad alone, combined they can be tasteless or even tawdry.

So let us attack the myth at its roots: No. “They” do not have any rules that you know nothing about. If you have reached the age of marriage without learning that one never wears formal evening dress in the daytime, or that a formal dinner dress must always cover one’s shoulders, or not to wear white shoes after labour day — then those must not be rules that apply in the social circles you move in. That means that your friends are not going to suddenly expect you to follow those rules: they expect you to follow the rules that you, and they, grew up with. What kind of dinners do your friends normally have after a group commitment that they’ve all had to pitch in for? Is it semi-formal? then, yes, that’s what this dinner should be. Is it whatever everyone happened to be wearing for the team  commitment — then yes, that‘s what this should be.

If I am understanding your description, the rehearsal dinner itself is potluck. Potluck is normally a casual neighbourly meal without rigid conformity to the roles of host and guest or the other formalities of entertaining. So, formal dress would be out of place (one of those mismatches I referred to above). I’m guessing your bridesmaids have to be at all three events and don’t want to change three times either. So, either find something that is both sturdy enough to wear for set-up and dressy enough to wear for the hen-night and don’t bother to change; or change once from your set-up-and-practicing clothes (which may get dusty or sweaty while putting up tables in the church hall and digging multi-branch candelabra out of the undercroft) into something a little dressier that works for both hen-night and dinner.

As for wearing white: there is no traditional rule that brides must wear white, or even that only brides “get” to wear white. That’s a modern convention due to the modern importance of photographs — being the only one in white makes the bride stand out and “pop” in the photographs. The traditional rule is that all girls who are not yet of dating age are supposed to wear white, and all ladies are supposed to wear light pastel colours to express the general light-heartedness and joyfulness of a wedding. And even the modern “only-the-bride-gets-to-wear-white” convention applies only to the wedding day itself. So you — and your guests — can wear whatever you or they please to your other parties.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I never did understand the this “rule”.   I wore ripped jeans, a tank top, and a cozy knit sweater to my rehearsal dinner…… and flip flops.  

But then i again, i don’t usually dress up for anything, haha. 

This seems to be such a dilemma for alot of brides i guess i don’t understand why you can’t just wear your everyday clothes??  everyone coming knows you are getting married and you are the bride and groom so what does it matter what you wear? 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is going to my rehearsal dinner dress. I found a great copy that was in my price range. You should do whatever the location dictates and what you feel comfortable wearing.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wear what you want.  There are no rules.  I did wear white, but only because I’d had a white sundress for over 10 years that I like, but almost never get the chance to wear.  My MOH wore shorts.  It was all good.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

There are no rules, and I actually prefer that the bride doesn’t wear white to wedding events other than the wedding.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m wearing a black dress.

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