Running Away

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Ellicott:  I am not eloping but I thought Id mention that you are not alone in that. There is section on the site just for that topic! 🙂 


Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t elope, but there are a TON of elopement brides!

Post # 6
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We wanted to and had planned on eloping in Hawaii, but our family and friends seemed visibly upset at the thought of it so we decided on a small wedding instead. We figure if they love us enough to want to celebrate with us then we will throw them a party! 🙂

Post # 7
43 posts
  • Wedding: October 2005 - Grand Ole Opry

 I don’t know how to move a thread so I’ll just answer here. 

We’re from NY and got married in TN.

Hubby and I wanted to spend the expenses of a wedding on a fun honeymoon and new house.  There was some initial crankiness from the parents but once we let them know why we were eloping and that it wasn’t personal (no one was invited, we had a city hall member as a witness) they got over it.

SO and I are HUGE Baseball fans.  I wore a white jersey of my favorite team and player and SO wore a black jersey of his favorite team and player.  There was a fair amount of planning as we wanted a ‘destination’ elopement (ceremony and honeymoon in one).  Mainly internet searches on ‘How To’ get married in the state/country of your choosing and making sure I had all the vital paperwork packed!

When we returned home we had a big, yet informal, get together (Swimming and BBQ in our new place!)  Just getting to spend time relaxing and celebrating with us seemed to be what was most important to our friends and family.

Post # 8
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ellicott:  So we eloped.  Actually I was planning an immediate family only wedding (only because I eloped the first marriage 10 years ago thinking it was high time family saw me get married), and family was not able to come out (no money, no vacation days, hates flying) nor were they really interested in a wedding.


So with all that disappointement left behind, we just went on a really cool vacation and got married there.  It was in the Canadian Rockies.  It was perfect.  And you know what I think it turned out better than anything that would have involved my family present.  There just wasn’t any stress, I didn’t have to worry about anyone else but me and H.


I did not think of it as running away.  I told anyone and everyone that asked about it.  So it was not a secret.  It was just a private wedding.


Were your family members disappointed that you didn’t have a big wedding or the fact that they weren’t there?

I don’t know of anyone who was diasspointed.  I think I really did them all a favor but not having a wedding, saved people money and vacation days.  Now we did invite H’s parents.  They are retired, know how to RV and they wanted to be there, but we were prepared for them to say it was too far.  They were our legal witnesses.  otherwise it would have been the wedding planner guy and our photographer who would have signed the license.


Did you wear a traditional wedding dress or something else? 

I wore a full lace gown by Casablanca.  We were dressed in full wedding attire.  I hired a professional photographer.  I did my own hair and make up though.  Click here for some photos.


How well planned out were you beforehand? 

Well we planned the whole thing in 15 days, but I had been eyeing the lodge/elopement package for about 5 months so I did all the up front research prior.  It was an 11 day/10 night road trip, 2500 miles to Canada.  It was harder to figure out where we were going to stay for each night rather than plan a wedding.  We stayed 3 nights at a beautiful lodge in one of Canada’s National Parks.  They had an elopement pacakge and their wedding coordinator took care of everything – officiant, flowers, champagne, breakfasts, three course wedding dinner, cake.  I had my say in it all, and he just made it happen.  Talk about easy!  We just had to show up and look good.


Post # 10
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Ellicott:  Welcome 🙂  I am also new to wedding bee and my fi and I are considering eloping.  We want to put money towards house too, and have a fun vaca. We are debating between doing this or an immediate family only wedding.  The guest lits can be a little tricky though.

We have discussed the idea of eloping with our close family and they are very supportive of whatever we want to do.  Some of them even said that they wish they had eloped.  We may have some family and do a semi-elopement, or have who we wanted to be our MOH and best man, and their significant others come.  (still deciding)

I am not going to wear a traditional wedding dress.  I have read on this site that a lot of ladies wear dresses from JCrew, as they have some really nice dresses!!

As for planning, if we do decide to elope, we would need to plan where, what we want to do for our vows, the attire, if anyone will come, if they do what we will do afterwards (possibly restaurant for lunch or dinner) and what fun things we will do on our honeymoon 🙂  If we do elope, we are thinking of either Vegas or Niagara Falls, ON (which is about 2 hours from us! 

Good luck on your decision 🙂


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