Post # 1
Just feeling fried — major work changes + wedding planning + health condition = no juice left.
In the last month or so, I started reporting to a new boss, have a much heavier workload, am in the thick of wedding planning (my fiance was helping before but is now 100% focused on work and a big exam) and am juggling a health condition (not very well). It’s also been a wierd year so far — 2 family friend deaths and more than a handful of our dear ones falling sick/getting injured.
Feeling super fried, and I’ve still got 3 months to go.
I can’t remember the last time I had the time — and the energy — to get my nails done, go for a haircut, shop for new clothes, etc.
More than the wedding planning, the job or anything else, I know that my highest priority right now to is to find a way to reduce my stress level.
Anyone have any good tips for reducing stress? Know of any good meditation resources? Thanks, bees.
Post # 3
@36goldfish: Hugs!! Mental health days are a godsend. I think it’s always important to take a day (or two…or three) to yourself and do things that you love to do, whether it’s with your FI or by yourself (whichever is best for you). It’s really about the breaks!
Post # 4
I work out when I’m stressed. I work out regularly anyway, but if I’m stressed I really get some good ones in. Specifically, boxing is really helpful for me when I’m stressing. Its hard if you are fried and have no energy, but I find that exercising gives me energy.
Post # 5
Me personally? some sort of reality wedding show, some big comfy pajamas and a milkshake from whataburger. oh, and smoking. which, yeah. I know is bad. lol.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Going for a walk helps, as does yoga and meditation.
But when I am super stressed, sometimes I just need a good, long, snotty nose, hyperventalating cry. I know it’s not pretty. But when I’ve hit my true overload point and I simply cannot handle yet another thing that life is throwing at me, it’s the only thing that helps. And truth be told, when I hit that overload point, I couldn’t stop the tears if I tried. So it’s probably a good thing that I tend to overload right around 11pm. At least I’m at home when it happens.
Post # 7
Good ideas, everyone! I had a dream yesterday where my mom asked me if I needed any help, and I said, “No, I’m good.” But then, in the dream, I *really* did need help.
I thought about it some more this morning, and figured out that I have had several people asking me if I need help with wedding planning — the problem is that I feel they aren’t really in a position to help. Meaning, to ask them to do something would be to impose on them at the wrong time. 2 of them are pregnant, one is dealing with her father’s surgery, one is dealing with some major anxiety, you get the idea…So, I’m feeling a bit alone in all this wedding planning. Now that my fiance has to get focused with big stuff in his career, I’m on my own until the wedding time — when more guests will be in town and can possibly help out.
Just feeling stressed about that + work being crazy.
I like the idea of taking a day off and chilling out. Or even boxing to get the stress out!
Post # 8
@lovekiss: Thanks — how do you do the meditation? Do you meditate in the mornings? Every day? Is there a particular technique you use?
Meditation is something I’m seriously considering. I’m already going for little walks with my fiance. And eating right and trying to get enough sleep.
Post # 9
A very large glass of wine.
Post # 11
@1stRosie: I’m changing my answer to this!
Post # 12
@1stRosie: +1 – orgasms are the best stress relief
Also I run long distance for stress relief.
Post # 13
I don’t. I’m horrible. Stress is going to kill me one day, I’m convinced!
Post # 14
cry, eat, alcohol, sex (or self-help :P), shout and stamp and have a tantrum (by yourself!) like a 3 year old! 🙂 HUGS
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@36goldfish: The easiest way to start out is to just sit in a comfortable spot (in a chair where you will sit up straight or on the floor, either way works), make sure the room isn’t too hot or too cold, and just start focusing on your breath. Sit up straight with your shoulders rolled back; it’s important. Keep the rest of your body relaxed. Try to breathe from your diaphram and not your chest. Keep your breaths slow and smooth. As you start, notice any places where your muscles may feel tight or tense, even the muscles in your face Intentionally tense the muscle more, and then intentionally relax it. You can count the number of breaths that you take or you can choose a mantra. My favorite mantra is a simple “sat nam”, silently and slowly saying “sat” on the inhalation and “nam” on the exhalation. Thoughts are going to come into your head, and that’s totally normal. Just acknowledge that you had the thought and brush it off to the side. If you are counting and lose track, it’s no big deal. Just start again at 1. The point is to calm your mind, control your breathing, lower your heart rate, and lower the stress hormone levels in your body. Notice that I did not say the point was to be “perfect” at meditation. it’s not a copmpetition or a challenge, so just accept yourself as you are and let it be.
You can also choose a guided meditation where you listen to a voice guide you through a relaxing scenario. My favorite walks you through tensing up and then releasing every single muscle in your entire body. When you are laying there at the end, it’s total bliss and relaxation. Just make sure to cover yourself with a light blanket before you begin, because you will feel a chill by the end. Other guided meditations walk you through fields, meet your mirror image, etc. they can be amazing journeys. And if you have cats, kick them out of the room, or you will end up with a pile of furballs on your chest in the middle of meditation. LOL
And my third, and possibly absolute favorite meditation, is chanting. “Om Namah Shivaya” just makes me happy. I think it’s on ITunes. I listen until I start to feel it, then start chanting along. I usually end up swaying and smiling by the end, and sometimes put it on repeat. I probably look like a crazy person, put I’m cool with that. 🙂
Explanation of “sat nam” here http://www.kundaliniyogablog.com/-2006-11-12-sat-nam-definition/
I love meditation, in case that isn’t obvious. LOL Anyone can meditate. You just do it. There’s no wrong answer or score to beat. And it really helps de-stress. What does it hurt to try?
Post # 16
@36goldfish: honestly, if they’re offering, even if you think it’s a “bad” time for them, maybe they need the distraction? just be cognizant of their limitations. so pregnant friends – stuff they can do while sitting (craftsy vs running errands), friend with sick dad – stuff that she can do at/near the hospital or home. And for both of them, stuff that isn’t suuper time-sensitive, ie. can be done over the course of a week or two so that if dad has a bad day, or they have a wicked awful day of morning sickness or exhaustion, it’s no big deal. Friend with anxiety, make it a date so it doesn’t feel like something on her plate. So crafting on a saturday afternoon from 1-4, or running specific errands at a certain time so you have company and extra input. If you manage it, you won’t add to her stress-load, and it might be a nice time-out from her life (assuming she doesn’t have stuff she needs to get done right.now.) And of course, you can invite the others to these days too – I’m sure they could use with your company and some light-hearted distractions! If you’re worried about them not coming through, give them stuff you weren’t going to do until a bit later (ie. may), so then if one or more falls short, you can do it when you would have anyway, but hopefully at least half of the things you delegate out will be done!