running out of time/money – wedding in 95 days – HELP!!!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10899 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Is there any way that you’re able to scale back on the food and beverages just a bit to help pay for some of your longer lead-time items like the invitations?  If your wedding is in three months, you’ll need to be mailing those within the next few weeks.

Post # 4
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Stace126:  Vistaprint has lovely, cheap invitations. Check out Claire’s, etc for jewelry. It’s one day, the jewelry doesn’t need to last a lifetime. Check out etsy for bridesmaids gifts. And take a deep breath and drink a glass (or bottle) of wine. You’ll be fine 😉

Post # 5
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Cut favors and bridal party/parent gifts. Nobody will miss the favors and your bridal party will appreciate heartfelt cards. 

Use the Vistaprint groupon for invitations. Skip bridal jewelry or borrow from friends or family. For decor, I used Ikea for candles and picture frames for menus. I also used Luna bazaar for lanterns. The Dollar tree can offer some great deals too.

Since you already bought a dress, you’re stuck with the alterations; you could call around to compare prices. If you haven’t bought your dress yet, check out and order with your exact measurements. Also, ordering a corset back dress cuts down on alterations.

Post # 6
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i second ikea and dollar tree for candles, vistaprint or i did vista print for my save the dates and 123 for my invites– invites were alot cheaper for the same amount) i would skip the favors and bridal party gifts just give cards with a long note of appreciation. postage- you dont need the wedding postage just go to costco and buy a their stamp rolls.

Post # 7
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Stace126:  I agree with the PP.  Maybe you can shave off some money from other areas of the budget to help pay for things that you still need.  Also, just make sure you are staying reasonable with the remaining items in terms of what you can afford and not what you “Want”.

Check out vistaprint for invites.  They are very reasonably priced and a lot of other Bees have been able to find coupons for them (check groupon and

Decorations might just have to be minimal.  Things you can put together inexpensively and still tastefully from places like Michaels, Jo-Ann fabrics Etc.  Think handmade paper flowers or tissue paper puffs.  Vases/beads/bases from the dollar tree or dollar general (check out their websites to buy in bulk!)

Your bridesmaids gifts don’t have to be over the top.  Maybe write them all a nice sentimental card with the promise to get them each prints made up of the two of you together at the wedding.  This is what I am doing for my brothers – aluminum prints that are very nice for under $20 each with a groupon coupon.  This also gives you a little more time to save.

Alterations will be what they will be unfortunately and there’s not much you can do about how much that may cost

Jewelry – well, maybe you had big grand ideas of diamonds around your neck but you might just have to settle for some nicer costume jewelry.  Or maybe there is an heirloom piece that you can borrow from your mom/aunt/grandmother or a friend etc. 

Favors are definitely not things you should be going crazy over.  In fact, you don’t even need to have favors if you don’t want!  Maybe just a few pieces of candy at each place setting.  Check out for bulk candy in fun colors to match your wedding them.  Or, how many guests will you have? You can bake some sugar cookies, frost them, and pipe a little note on them.  Wrap them in some cello bags and use a bit of ribbon to tie them closed.  I bought 50 cello bags for under $3 at Jo-ann.  If you don’t have that store, check any crafty/hobby shop or

I know everything seems like it’s becoming overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be!  And just stick within your means.  You’ll get it done!  Call on your friends and family to help you with any DIY projects that will help save you money.  Three months is plenty of time to still get things done!

Post # 8
30 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are date twins!!! 🙂 Can you believe our days are only 3 months away??

You really do just need to take a deep breath and relax!! Everything will turn out just fine in the end!

Vistaprint has gorgeous invitations, that don’t cost a lost of money. You can find coupon codes all over the internet too. I bought my bridesmaid jewelry at Claire’s for just a few dollars, and it is their gifts! You can buy your jewelry there too, it doesn’t have to be expensive stuff to do the job for one day!

You never anticipated loosing your job, so you can’t blame yourself for being behind because of that. Wedding’s cost a lot more, and require more planning than anyone would think before getting into the planning and paying.. Just take it one thing at a time!

What is your venue like? Do you need elaborate decorations, or can you simply just ‘play’ up the beauty of your venue maybe with inexpensive decorations?

As far as dress alterations, I would call around to local seamstress shops, and get quotes to see if you can find a good deal. Sometimes the place you bought your dress is the most inespensive.

Money is the number one thing I worry about when it comes to our wedding too.. We are paying for most everything ourselves, and it can be stressful at times, but I know in the end somehow it will all work out! Be a bargain hunter like I am and do a ton of research to find the best deals on things that you can. Sometimes, even though it may take more time DIYing some items, can be much cheaper than purchasing them. Get your bridesmaids together for a glass of wine, or something a little stronger ;), and have fun making centerpieces, or decorations!

Just remember what our wedding days are all about! Enjoy the whole process as much as you can!

Hope it all works out for you!!

Post # 9
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would buy a groupon for Vistaprint and get invitations for less than $50. First thing I would cut back on is favors and decorations. You can make it happen if you really want to. Start buying things NOW every time you have an extra $50-100.

cut back on eating out and any extras

sell on eBay or a yard sale

*you can do it if you really want to. You just need to make it happen and not tell yourself it cant.

Post # 10
3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

use your store points (shoppers drug mart, etc…) to buy gifts. I got my bridesmaids nail polish, manicure sets, lotions and potions for free using my points I’d saved. Also, stay out of the bridal salons for anything except alterations.

Favours aren’t a must, and the others are right, costume jewelry is just fine for wedding jewelry. If you want to keep it nice, coat it with clear nail polish and you will have it for years to come.

I know it’s scary, but it all works out in the end. Just be as resourceful as you can and cut back on your other spending (going out for dinner, etc…)

Post # 11
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Stace126:  awe sweetie i wanna give you a huge….

1. have someone give you a massage and take some time to breath

2. invites should be 1st b.c. ppl need to know wear the wedding is, if price point is hard maybe scale down the invite to one slightly more afordable its ture some people do keep them but lots don`t and they just get stored away. Also dont post to ppl you can hand give them too save a lil that way.

3.for candles go to the dollar store you can get bags for tealights for a dollar or look for something bulk online

4.start putting a lil aside for the bm gifts, maybe even think of going to a bead store and making them something (u might find a crafty friend willing to make it for you) or check out esty alot of things are affordable and beautiful 

5.tulle shop around with preused wedding decor boards or even think of friends or friend of friend who might have stuff you could use…. or rent renting can be alot cheaper for some decor stuff

you can do this 95 days feels like only a few but its really more then u think yes it will go by fast but you have 2280 hours to get dyi stuff done, you can do this breath in breath out and have ppl help you they love you …. and if all else fails … you have food drinks a beauiful dress and the man you love by your side ppl wont care about the other stuff they will care about ur smile and his and that you let them share in your joy

Post # 12
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh, honey. We’re two months out and feeling the crunch for money, as well.

Invitations: Vistaprint with a Groupon. They always run $17 for $70 ones–I did my entire invitation suite with those. If you don’t like any of their designs, Wedding Chicks has some cute ones that are free, and you can upload those to VP. If you need to hit the $70 cap, get some custom stuff made for your bridesmaids. I was going to DIY totes for them and ended up designing something and doing the big VP totes with a 50% off code.

Decor: Dollar Tree, eBay. We’re doing painted wine bottles (that I had been saving up), candle holders from DT, and I made several pretty signs that I put in frames from DT for decor. I made our backdrop from plywood, ropes, and some cheap curtains and tulle that I got from eBay. We added some knobs and stuff that were 50% off at Hobby Lobby. 

Favors: skip ’em.

Alterations: call around. If you have a friend or family member who sews well, ask them. My grandma is doing my alterations.

Jewelry: borrow from a friend or family member. 

Postage: Keep your invitations thin and you can use a regular forever stamp for them. Ours were 5x7s with two smaller enclosure cards and a small envelope for RSVPs and only took one stamp each.

Post # 13
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


i printed my invitations through vistaprint.  they are beautiful.  my friend designed them for me, and we uploaded the file to print.

i upgraded all the paper and ordered separate envelopes so i could print the return address on them.  free envelopes are included but they are not as good quality.

i also order 250 thank you cards.

my total came to $275 dollars plus free shipping.  i was quoted for the same thing from a printing store for $800.

invitations i priced out were in the $600 range without thank you cards

Post # 14
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A suggestion for favours: if you really want to do something, you could print up cards (we printed about 10, it cost maybe $5?), saying you are donating money to a charity that is meaningful to you (we chose the rescue group we got our dog from) in honour of your guests.

Our guests loved it, and you can always make the donation AFTER the wedding when money is less tight.

I do have to disagree with some PPs though, please don’t skip BM gifts. It doesn’t have to be anything big or elaborate-I got each of my girls a purse I knew was their style (one girl got a vintage lace clutch off etsy,one got a copy of her fave book made into a purse), and filled it with things I knew they’d need day of-bobby pins, deodorant, a mini bottle of their fave liquor, those flats you can roll up…..I spent about $70-$100 per BM. The girls absolutely loved it. You can always put less in the purse, or gets deals on etsy by buying several of the same in bulk. I also love the idea of a funky frame and including a photo of the two of you together, along with a nice letter.

Seriously consider ebay for jewelry. I originally wanted to do purple jewelry and got a gorgeous vintage-style bracelet and earrings set from china for $10, with shipping. If you need rings, they also have great deals for those. My hubby’s wedding ring is a tungsten ring I got on ebay for under $50.

Also, BREATHE. It will all work itself out. So many of the things we stress about are things NO ONE notices!

Post # 15
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Stace126:  I would cut favors and gifts, and start from there. Or start cleaning out your closet and ebaying or craigslist some of those items you dont need to get some extra cash flow.

Post # 16
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 have daily deals that might work for your bridesmaids gifts…

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