Running risk of potential LDR – What do you think?!

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@hotteatherapy:  What is the closest school that has your program, and is still decent? Could you perhaps go to one that is within weekend driving distance, and then see each other each weekend or every other weekend? Sort of a hybrid LDR.

I have been in an LDR with my boyfriend for close to a year and a half now, and it has worked well, but I know it is not for everyone. And it is definitely very, very tough. Since you already said it has worked badly for you two in the past, I agree if at all possible you should avoid it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Your situation sounds fairly similar to that of myself and FH.  He recently moved overseas for work, but I won’t be finished my studies until the end of next year, so we’re going to be long distance for 2 years.  It’s not the easiest thing in the world, but we make it work.  If I were you I would have him go in 2015 and then follow him in 2017, however long distance isn’t for everyone.  From your original post it sounds like perhaps you’ve been long distance in the past, and it didn’t work so well?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hotteatherapy:  Okay, I used to be a college counselor so I’m not going to give up for a bit! Lol! Have you looked at Lesley University or Saint Mary-of-the-Woods College? Each of these offer programs with very low residency which would allow you to stay with your SO for the majority of the time with only summers or certain stretches of time away?

ETA: Where do you work with this type of degree? If you received your degree in this area, would there be anywhere you could get employment in the area where your SO will live?

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hotteatherapy:  Well, I suppose the problem is that you love two things the most (Your SO and your career!). I wish you all the best! Feel free to message me if you think I might be of some help!

Post # 13
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238 posts
Helper bee

@hotteatherapy:  my SO and i just started our 3 year LDR.  we are about 1.5 months in.  there were no other options available to us but sadly we are pretty good at this long distance thing..lots of practice for it.  if i were you, i wouldn’t give up the opportunity to get your degree at the school you want.  i know how difficult/limited art therapy programs are (it was my back up degree if my current one didn’t pan out so i did a lot of research).  LDR’s are not fun by any means but the key is communication and then when you get together it makes the time that much sweeter.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@hotteatherapy:  I would do the LDR. My BF and I have been doing a 1.5k mile LDR for 1.5 yrs now and overall it has been going well. It’s not always easy, but for us it’s 100% worth it.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@hotteatherapy:  I can personally relate alot to this. My SO moved interstate for work 1.5 years ago while I stayed in our hometown to finish my degree. I have 6 months to go which gives us a total of 2 years LDR also. He is approx a 4 day drive or 8 hours of flights away from me now. Prior to our LDR the longest we had been separated was 3 days and we had never gone a day without speaking. I’m not saying LDR is easy or that it always works out. It’s hard and I have seen my friends LDRs fall apart. But I am happy with my choice to complete my degree in the program I dreamed of and my relationship is much stronger for it 🙂 

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