(Closed) RVSP Blues

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What percentage of your guests RSVPed on time????
    Less than 30% : (3 votes)
    15 %
    30%-50% : (3 votes)
    15 %
    50%-70% : (7 votes)
    35 %
    More than 70% : (7 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

    Ohhhh I had the same thing happen to me. Small destination wedding, we sent out 50 invites and recieved about half or a lil’ over half of the RSVPs back. It seems like people think that if they tell you verbally, they don’t think they need to send the RSVP back. I’m still a lil’ sour about it.

    Post # 4
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    801 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    I believe there was a post some time back that asked now that you’ve gone through your own wedding, what will you do differently for future weddings that you attend (or something to that effect).  Many posters had responded that they would RSVP right away, particularly with the requested method (website, RSVP card, etc).  You aren’t alone in your frustration, however, it still sucks.

    At this point since your requested cutoff date has passed I would suggest you continue with having someone call the non-responders as well as the verbal-only responders to verify their status.  I imagine this is the last thing you need on your plate right now but try to delegate the task as much as possible so your frustration doesn’t get the best of you.  Good luck!

    Post # 5
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    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My guests still have time, but there have been a shocking lack of replies.  We sent our invites out a bit early, so I was wondering about some people not knowing if they were coming yet.  BUT, a lot of the non-responders are people who know if they are coming or not, and they still can’t be bothered to stick an envelope in the mail.   

    It really ticks me off.  We had other people we wanted to invite, and we’re waiting for over a hundred people (or about fifty cards to come back) to respond first.  AND, we’re going to have to try to contact all these people when we have lots of other stuff we could be doing.  We haven’t even had verbal responses from most of them.  It’s so rude!

    Post # 6
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    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Our guests still have about a week, so I’m hoping lots will come in. To be honest it’s mostly my future husband’s friends who have yet to turn them in. But, the Mr. is ready and willing to get on the phone and call them up! So I guess I can’t worry about it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    406 posts
    Helper bee

    I can’t vote yet because our invites haven’t been sent but I can say that I would (and probably WILL) feel the same way. I just don’t understand why people can’t check a box and stuff the (PRESTAMPED) thing in the mail! All I can really offer is HUGS!!!!

    I wish that people that don’t rsvp on time could feel the anger and frustration it causes the bride (like a wedding voo doo doll! LOL)!

    Post # 8
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    7054 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I always think the rule of 1/3 applies…and yes people are insensitive.  Unless THEY themselves have had a party or wedding where this was required, most just blow it off.

    What I believe is 1/3 of people invited to any event usually show up.  When I had my (years ago when I married my x) ginormous, huge, big, showy southern wedding, it definitely was the case..About one third came and of those sent invites, I got about a third back too.

    Post # 9
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    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    Its the vice of many brides unfortunately.  It doesn’t matter how easy you make it for your guest inevetiably they will lose the invitiation, forget to RSVP, or just think that you already know they are coming.

    I am sorry its a source of frustration but unfortunately you have to take the time out of your already swamped schedule to "read" peoples minds. 

    Good Luck!

    Post # 10
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee

    @bellenga – really only 1/3 showed up? That seems very low from other guest list estimates I’ve read.  I was thinking we might have about 75% attend and 25% not attend with a guest list of mixed local and OOT. Did you have mostly OOT guests which might explain why only 1/3 came?

    Post # 12
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    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I was invited to a wedding once but I never received the invite in the mail!  I had to RSVP verbally and I felt bad because they spent like $18 per invite (and I heard their invites were truly awesome!!).

    Post # 13
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    7054 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Well there was a large invite list and half of his (the x) relatives were from many hours away out of town..but they gifted.  It still was a huge wedding.

     

    Post # 14
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    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Ugh, we’re halfway to our deadline and we’ve received only about 1/8th of the RSVP’s back.  I’m trying not to panic quite yet, but I think the weekend after the RSVP’s are due will be very busy trying to call everyone…

    Post # 15
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    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    My guests are RSVPing right now, and I am surprised that some of my friends have RSVPed already– I thought they would have been slackers! But I also know that other people, who I know are or are not coming, won’t send their back in on time. Like you, I have an idea of who is coming, but I definitely want an RSVP back to make it official!

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